Do you ever wonder what life would be like if both babies had made it? I get really down sometimes thinking about it. It's hard losing a baby once you've seen a heartbeat (we saw a heartbeat for the vanishing twin and my miscarriage this year). I'm so lucky to have R but seeing twins everywhere lately makes my heart hurt. Why couldn't both of MY babies have made it?
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ALL the time
I wasn't even supposed to see L's twin, but I had previously had an ectopic pregnancy so they got me in really early to make sure the baby was in fact in my uterus. I saw both heartbeats super early, but the next week when I went back there was only one. I spend a lot of time thinking about how awesome having twins would be, and knowing that L should/could have had a sibling
I even held out hope through delivery that the 2nd was there but she was just hiding on all the ultrasounds or something -
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@swedishfish: I'm so sorry. I have no advice but it's so sad when I hear of vanishing twin. Hugs!
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@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine.
Love to you both.
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So sorry mama.
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@swurlygurl:
I held out hope for a while too. I guess I wasn't meant to have two babies at one time.@rahlyrah: @bluestriped bee: @twodoghouse: @.twist.: thanks. I appreciate the love.
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I had a vanishing twin but it was super early. I don't really think about it. I don't think my body could handle a twin pregnancy.
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@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: so sorry
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@swurlygurl: @swedishfish: So sorry.
What ifs are so hard.
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@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: I'm sorry - it is such a tough thing to wonder about. Hugs!!
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I'm sorry. Fwiw, twins are really effing hard. Sometimes I am jealous of singleton moms. Not that this changes anything for you or discredits your feelings, just wanted to give another perspective...
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I can imagine a vanishing twin is just has hard as any other miscarriage. Hugs to you!
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@Mrs.Someone: it was worse than my miscarriage (it IS a form of a miscarriage) not physically, but emotionally. I was all over the place because I still had a healthy pregnancy so it's like I wasn't allowed to be upset about the loss. At least with my miscarriage I was allowed and expected to grieve. My miscarriage in March was more more difficult on me physically even though my vanishing twin was a few weeks later in the pregnancy.
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@Trailmix: yeah, I know how hard it would've been. My aunts are identical twins and I know others with twins. I just feel like I wasn't good enough to carry twins and others were.
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@swedishfish: @swurlygurl: sending
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@swedishfish: hugs! I can only imagine. I know it's not the same, but I feel that way about my first baby. Why couldn't he/she have made it.
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