She posted this on Facebook and I asked if it would be okay to share it with you all. I wanted to post it in case it helps someone and to share what bravery looks like.

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Today is my due date. And before you look at me crazy (from through the computer screen) and think WOW, I must not have seen you FOREVER or WOW, I saw you just the other day, you are looking NOT at all pregnant. Like so many, many other women, I joined the rank of a statistic. I miscarried before 12 weeks.

No, I am not posting this status for your sadness or kind supporting words, although, I also won't turn them away. No, I am posting this because through the healing process, I encountered so many families, both women and men, who are still grieving the loss of a miscarriage, still birth, or other loss of a baby that they will never hold in their arms. While some people grieve quietly, others don't. And in a society that still keeps miscarriage hush hush, they have had little support, few people to talk to, and a whole lot of shame.

So instead of bringing home a baby today, I went to work and just had a typical day. I hope that on this day, where there is no baby for me, that maybe because I have had a voice around my miscarriage, that others will be able to find their voice and grieve openly. Or if they can't or choose not to, they at least know someone who has been there, and will listen and cry with them. And now I am bravely pushing post before I chicken out.