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@MrsTal: Yea, it is a lot but take control, ask questions and make sure they make you feel positive :)))

@MrsTal: This was the story of my life when ttc. My DH works offshore and is gone 3 weeks at a time. Which means there's not a shot in hell if I ovulated while he was gone. We definitely had a couple of months where we were totally out as far as timing, but it still took us 9 months of BDing on/around O to get pg with DD. i CAN tell you that we had PERFECT timing some months, not resulting in pregnancy. The month we got pregnant with our daughter, he flew out Sun morning, we BD beforehand, and i O'd Tuesday, and we got lucky. Granted, we had testing via an RE at 5 months ttc just bc our situation was what it was, so we knew we were totally healthy and that it was just luck/timing/etc. We will Ttc #2 in early 2014 and I've accepted that I don't need to worry myself to death bc perfect timing led to Bfns and less than perfect timing got us our perfect LO.

Oh honey I am living this right now. It sucks. Hugs.

We're on our 4th cycle TTC so no advice for you. We just try to get BD in whenever he's home during the few days before/after I O. This month we actually took a mini vacation during CD 10-14 so I'm hoping this is our month! Otherwise it's not anything we can control, short of me taking off work and flying out to wherever he is staffed. But hey, I may get that desperate

Good luck! I'm always here if you want to chat/vent. It's definitely a challenging lifestyle on many levels.

Jeez, I just re-read my post and it came off sounding rather cold. Didn't intend that. It's a rough situation, definitely. We spent some time arguing before we agreed that maybe he should just try talking to the folks at work.

Sometimes it feels intimidating or even impossible to approach the topic at work until you actually do it; the whole thing seems worse than it is until you actually verbalized what you need - more flexibility, certain days off, a few months without travel to focus on another project? I only mean to suggest that you can decide together what you really need, then work toward getting it. The issue will likely only be amplified once you are pregnant and parenting, too, so best deal with it now!

@MrsTal: Well, it's something to be grateful for, I guess, that the boss has at least been somewhat understanding. Though it sounds like you're just about at your emotional breaking point. What's your work like? Maybe you could take a leave of absence to travel with him for a few months as a conjugal partner (DH and I considered this option and it made us laugh - how to dodge questions about why I'm there?). It seems like work, regardless of how specialized the job, is a very concrete controllable thing compared to the magical mystery of conception, there must be a way to work the one around the other, even if it's somewhat outside the box or subideal.

@MrsTal: Hang in there girl. Hope the dr appt goes well and you get the answers you are looking for. And that DH's schedule lines up with O so you can BD like mad

DH works 70 hours a week 1.5 hours away. We have a house by my job and an apartment by his. We do a lot of driving and see each other on weekends (we often work part of the weekends) and usually Thursdays. We had a vacation recently and were together 10 days in a row. I was scheduled to ovulate the Wednesday after- worst timing possible. DH drove home on Tuesday so we were able to keep every other day this month.

The point of my rambling is that TTC is hard, and logistics like this make it more stressful, which then makes it harder physically to TTC. In terms of what you can control, this is an opportunity to work on communication. EVERY couple can improve and it will be good once you have a baby. (If this comes off mean, that is not what I mean at all! Just saying I have some idea what you're going through and it is tough.)