We have a breech baby and are trying all of the other stuff (acupuncture, chiropractic, swimming etc) to turn it, but have elected not to do an external version, a decision my own doctor supports.
A friend of mine called me today, granted who is a medical doctor, but anyway, and gave me all the grief about choosing to schedule a tentative c-section instead of a version. Blargh, it really made me feel bad.
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
Don't you worry about the opinons of others. Just do what you, your husband, and your doctor decide is best for your situation. Everyone else can shut up : )
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
Screw asshats and their assvice! You are making the decision that you and your Doc have decided is best for you. End of Story! This makes me so angry for you - I'm so sorry it upset you. ((hugs))
FWIW, I would do the exact same thing.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
Ugh, I can't stand when people do that! I try to brush it off but I definitely admit to being hurt easily when people act as though they know what is best for me. I've found that the easiest way for me to deal with unwanted criticism is to call the person out on it - sometimes a blatant, "well, that was rude" suffices, and other times, just saying "well this is what I've decided, your criticism doesn't feel that great" or something along those lines.
I'm a huge fan of being blunt with people who are offensive, lol.
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@SorryCharlie: Yes . . . I have totally called some people out recently with a *wow, that was inappropriate* reply. Sometimes enough is enough!
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
@MsLipGloss: seriously! and it makes me even more mad when they don't respond (for instance, online or text or something similar). like if you're going to start this being rude thing, at least own up to it! /end rant, sorry for the threadjack!! 
pomegranate / 3980 posts
Don't let abyone make you feel bad! It is your choice not to have the version done they hold their own dangers, I was scheduled to have one but went into labor before I had the chanve so I had to have a c-section as well and it really wasn't as bad as I thought it would be 
blogger / pineapple / 12381 posts
Plug your ears and do your thing. You are going to do what's best for you and your family. 'nuff said!
GOLD / squash / 13464 posts
@MsLipGloss: I want you to know that your comments today are quickly making me wish you were my new best friend. You tell 'em!
grape / 87 posts
Thanks everybody. Yeah, I definitely feel upset about it. I feel like we definitely thought about it carefully and it wasn't a decision that we made lightly.
I don't think my friend was trying to be rude, she was trying to offer what she felt was an educated decision as a doctor herself, but I felt like she ended up being fairly critical of what is kind of a sensitive topic. I don't feel so worried about a C-section and I feel bad that she kind of posited it as bad all over again.
coconut / 8279 posts
I would do the same thing!
you are trusting your doctor and doing what's best for you.
squash / 13199 posts
Everyone has different opinions when it comes to child birth and raising children, I wouldnt worry too much about someone elses opinion when it comes to YOUR birth, your friend probably meant well and thinks because he/she is a doctor they can push their ideas on you. The good thing about advice is you take it or leave it
kiwi / 691 posts
Your baby, your decision! And, it's exactly what I would do in your situation
@MsLipGloss: LOL! I'm totally going to be using "assvice" in my vocabulary now
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
@MamaMoose: Awwww - yay! 
@Ninja: I wish I could take credit, but I cannot. I first read the term *assvice* on a blog (Amalah.com - seriously funny blog about raising 3 boys and life in general), and it has definitely lodged itself permanently into my vocab. Enjoy!
grape / 90 posts
A good friend of mine was in your position, and she had an external version. A) It didn't work, she had a c-section anyway, and B) She said it was EXTREMELY uncomfortable. (The term she used was "agonizing"). Not that you need anything to bolster your decision, but I thought I'd share an example to counter the folks giving assvice.
persimmon / 1035 posts
@sorrycharlie: i agree that works. i have a friend who ALWAYS gives me unsolicited advice and criticism. even when we were chatting on video skype the other day she was criticizing how i was eating!! so i finally just asked her if she prefer i turn the video off so she can't make comments like that! it shut her up quick.
@knittingmama: and i am sorry you are getting that slack. i definitely agree with PPs that you are doing the best thing by making a decision with your doctor - that's all you need! out of curiosity, what is the "external version"
grape / 87 posts
It's when they turn the baby from the outside, manually. The doctor does it in the hospital with the ultrasound. The risks are low, but very serious—you can have a placental abruption and fetal distress.
GOLD / wonderful apricot / 22646 posts
@knittingmama: no advice, but wanted to send you my support. judgment and opinions from others on such a personal choice is SO unnecessary!
nectarine / 2192 posts
While it is none of my business, I think the risks of version outweigh the benefits and totally agree with you!
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