Our LO, 24 months, was in a nanny share until a month ago when we moved cross-country and enrolled him in preschool. It seemed like a good school, NAEYC certified, and while we didn't meet his actual teachers on the tour, I assumed that preschool teachers are probably all warm and loving.

Well that was a bad assumption. Now we're three weeks in and we don't like his teachers. They're not warm/loving/energetic - they just go through the motions and it seems like their hearts are not in it. They don't greet him with a big hug or get down on his level or talk animatedly to the kids. In fact I don't think they really talk to him at all. It's child-led play but the other kids are younger and don't talk much either. He says he doesn't want to go to school in the mornings which breaks my heart.

My friends (not in our city but elsewhere) say their kids love school, the teachers are so caring, etc. I know LO is safe and getting ok care, but I don't want just ok, I want to feel really good about where he spends most of his days (which is how we felt about our amazing former nanny).

We're going to tour a couple other schools to get a better sense of what else is out there. We also have an appointment on Thursday to talk to the director about what can be done, like moving him up to the next class when there's an opening. Beyond that though, I'm not sure there's much that can be done because if you don't have a warm/loving/energetic personality, you can't force it.

Any advice? Do you love your daycare/preschool? Is it unrealistic to expect more joy and energy and love in a preschool classroom?