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Nope! I had zero desire to have anyone else in the room besides DH, and my mom had zero desire to be in the room either. I think it's a situation best left for the mother and father and that's it. I know it's a long way off, but I don't plan on being in the room when either one of my girls gives birth either. I'm happy with a phone call afterwards
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Hell no. I asked that no one even come to the hospital until after delivery, skin-on-skin, and a nap. I didn't want the pressure of rushing through those things. The only people there were my husband, our doula, the nurse and the OB.
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No, I decided I just wanted DH there. That was fine for me - but in retrospect I think it would have been a lot nicer for DH to have someone else there, especially someone who had been through labour!
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I sent my husband to work that morning, I wanted to labor in peace. My mom lived out of the country.
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she was in the waiting room with my dad. my sister and my husband were with me.
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Definitely don't want her there lol
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I wouldn't even want my mom (or anyone else other than my husband) at the hospital!
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Yes, for the whole time, along with my MILS and FIL (well my ILs came after the first epidural). They were a wonderful support team and I'd do it again that way in a heartbeat.
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No no no
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Throughout my entire pregnancy I kept saying that I only wanted my husband in the room during pushing. I was ok with my mom being in there up until that point but then she was going to wait in the waiting room.
Well that didn't happen. My mom and sister didn't get there until I was laboring down getting ready to push soon. Both ended up staying with us and I am so happy they did. Both were such a great support and I really hope I can have that again next time.
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No, I definitely wouldn't have wanted that. I wouldn't have liked having yet another person around while I was in pain. The nurse in and out every 5 minutes drove me crazy enough. At one point I just wanted to break down and cry and make everyone leave the room for 5 minutes so I could be alone. I was in so much pain and kinda traumatized and I would've felt even more like I couldn't just break down at all.
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No, and the thought that she could seriously never even crossed my mind. I was totally fine with it being just DH and I. We called texted everyone about 3h after LO was born.
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My water broke early in the morning and we got to the hospital at 7am. it wasnt until 11am that they put us in Delivery room. My labor was quite boring and since i wasnt having contractions on my own i was feeling great. My mom got to the hospital about 3pm and stayed in the delivery room for most of my labor. They had her step out when they did the epidural at 6pm and she went to the waiting room to meet my dad and brother around 9:30 when they set me up to start pushing. Once they had me settled, my family came in right after delivery.
I was really glad to have my mom there because within a couple hours it felt like hubs and I ran out of things to talk about. He was getting restless and hungry. My mom was a great distraction for the waiting portion of my labor and gave hubs a chance to run paper work to my ob office in the hospital and grab something to eat without bringing it in the room.
I think I only got pissy and yelled at her once. I was in pain and hypervenilating during contractions and she kept telling me to breathe. dont you think i would if i could! It was much better after i got the epi
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@regberadaisy: haven't had LO yet, but my mom and I are in perfect agreement that she will show up when we are all cleaned up
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Yes it wasn't planned, but after 1 1/2 hours of pushing, I couldn't hold my own leg anymore and the nurse asked if my mom could come in and help, I jumped at the opportunity (I wanted her sooner, but didn't want to ask DH if my mommy could come in because weirdly I was scared he would feel inadequate.) I pushed for another hour with her help and it became quite apparent this baby wasn't moving and headed in for a C-section. My mom then sat in recovery with me while DH went to the NICU to be with DD.
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Nope. My parents didn't want to attend the birth. I didn't want them there either. They came a few hours after LO was born. When I was in labor, there was a set of grandparents waiting for their daughter to give birth. DH told me this after I got my epidural.
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My mom lives on the other side of the country and works full-time, so there was no way she could have come and waited around for me to go into labor. I didn't really want anyone except DH, doula, and medical team so it was okay, but I wish my parents could have seen DD sooner after she was born.
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No way.
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She came to say hi after I had an epidural but only for a few minutes. When she gives even gentle opinions I can really start to second guess myself so I just didn't want to get in that situation during labor.
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Yes, I asked her to be there for labor & delivery. She was great. Very supportive and calming, and quick to grab anything I needed. I absolutely NEEDED someone to put my hair up for me when I was close to delivering, and DH would not have been any good at that haha. I would like to have her there again... I liked having 2 people so I wasn't alone if one of them had to step out.
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No way! Scheduled c-section so not even an option but I've always said it would be just me and my DH. She'd likely just stress me out or annoy me. Love her but we often have differing opinions.
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@lovehoneybee: your ILs were in the room when you pushed?!
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My mom was present got the labor and birth of DS and wanted to be there for DD but she came too fast!
She was really great and I know she was bummed that she wasn't able to be there this time.
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I had a long labor so she stopped by for a little while. It wasn't really comforting and she was on the phone half the time. I knew no one in my family would be helpful so I said no guests at the hospital until after baby but I know she had good intentions so I let her stop by. She was out of there when they started talking about breaking my water!
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My parents live halfway across the country and plan to visit a week before my EDD, so they don't miss it. We haven't had the talk yet about my mom's expectations for L&D, but I'm thinking now that I won't want her in with me, just DH. My mom is not a calming influence and is more likely to stress me out than anything. My in-laws only live 2 hrs away so maybe they can keep each other comfy in the waiting room!
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Nope nope nope. Everyone came like 2 hours later.
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No, no, no, no, no. We didn't even tell family (except my sister) until we were 12 hours into the induction with our first. My sister is the only one who knows the date of our scheduled section this time around. Everyone is out of state, so we'll probably announce after we've had time to settle in and decide on a name. No pressure!!
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Nope. Just me, my husband, and our 2 midwives. I would have LOVED to have my mom there, but she loves 2,200 miles away. Will definitely try next time.
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yes, she was great and i think she enjoyed it too.
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No we have a terrible relationship and she lives across the country.
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Everyone's families are so different! Especially when it comes to relationships of mothers and daughters. But it it's funny, I am due this month, and I have been 100% no way would I want my mom there, and suddenly, reading this post, I am thinking, maybe she should come. Maybe it would be nice to have her there. Hormones!
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