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yes for #1, no for #2, he was still on the way to the hospital and it was an emergency c section.
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He was. He didn't want to "witness" or look at the goriness but when they said grab her right leg he did it! LOL... They asked him if he wanted to look when DD was crowning and he said "nope, I'm good" and then they asked if he wanted to cut the cord and he passed on that too.... but he was right there for me the entire time and then he went w DD to watch her get weighed/etc
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can't imagine him not being there. he's a medic too and had just done his labor and delivery round, so he was asking tons of questions!
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I am very glad to see that nobody has responded "no" to this poll! I can't fathom anybody's DH/spouse/support person skipping the delivery, unless there were an emergency like some of you have described.
I would think that if a husband tried to just up and walk out of the room when delivery was about to happen, the doctors and nurses would be stunned.
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Yep!! He held my left leg up and he just kept looking at me. He, nor I, had any desire to see what was going on down there.
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Yes for both. Although he left for awhile during baby 2's labor. I had such a long labor with #1 that when I was induced for #2 I told him he could go out for lunch because contractions we're only every 5-6 minutes apart and not that strong and I figured we had a bit of a ways to go. He went out for lunch and she was born only 2 hours later.
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Yep, he was there for the c-section.
@twodoghouse: He walked over to be with the baby right after he was born, so they were near my feet. He turned back around to walk back to my head and saw everything on the other side of the sheet. He said it was insane lol
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I don't have a LO yet but this is something we have talked about. He is EXTREMELY squeamish and is certain he will pass out but I told him that he would be so caught up in the emotion, excitement and adrenaline that it wouldn't matter. That's how I felt at my sister's C-section. He said he will just keep his head pointed in my direction...whatever helps ya buddy but you are going to be there.
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My husband's not squeamish but he did say he was so caught up in the moment of seeing DD being born and cheering me on with each push that he pretty much forgot what he was looking at. He cut the cord and all.
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My SO was there for both births. The first time he turned white as a sheet and they made him sit down. Second time he was more prepared and didn't even flinch.
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Nope. I was under general anesthesia and he wasn't allowed in the OR. Still really traumatized by that.
ETA: he would have given anything to be there!!
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I told him from beginning I wanted him no where near the "action" down there, but when it came time he held a leg while I pushed, looked (which I can't believe he did), and then gave me the play by play of my eventual C-section.
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Yep, he was there throughout the induction and delivery. He still cringes remembering LO literally ripping me apart lol
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I have some friends whose husbands were deployed at the time....so i mean, sometimes people do miss deliveries! My niece came *so fast* that BIL almost didn't get there in time, too!
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Yep! Held my right leg and was a great coach!!! Strangely though even though he is a doctor he didn't want to cut the cord lol.
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My husband was there for both.
However, my sister's husband has severe vasovagal syndrome and although he will be there for labor, I will be the one who is there for delivery once she has babies.
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my DH is super squirmy about blood etc . . . but he was totally fine during my labor (maybe helpful we had watched birth videos in our class). he saw me in a lot of um, revealing positions, he watched her come out, and then he asked to see the placenta! I would never have guessed that for sure but I think it's so amazing they often get over the fears.
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Yup. He loves telling me what he saw during my c-section lol.
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@petunia354: That must have been hard for you guys. He had to be so brave!!
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He was there for DS but missed DD birth.
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My husband was there for the birth of our LO, and he was literally my partner in delivery
I really was not thrilled with the idea of him seeing the bad stuff. I was so stupid and naive! He was the one who held my legs up for cervical checks, lol... He swears that when he saw her head, it totally wasn't freaky that there was a head coming out of my vagina:) He just saw her, and couldn't believe she was here. And that moment on, it was this surreal experience, and it was all about her - not blood and gore...I really do believe him, that he wasn't grossed out at all and that he loved seeing her birth. I think he just maybe mentally blocked out the gross stuff:)
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Absolutely!
I think with everything about the day your baby is born you can think and imagine how it will be or feel but it's never the same as being there in that moment. Your DH can be squeamish about the process in theory but when he's there and his child is being born it's different.
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Absolutely! He was a superstar about it and watched the entire birth (though lo was already halfway out before any one realised!)
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Yup and he stood in front of me when I got the epidural at 10cm with contractions every 30 seconds. There is NO WAY I could have stayed still for it if it hadn't been for him. Once the epi was in though, he spent the rest of the time til our son was born chatting with the anaesthesiologist about stocks and bonds (his area of expertise)....I was like. Hello, you're about to be a dad, can you leave the financial planning to later????
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@Vegmama: Thanks friend.
I truly believe he had it way harder than I did, not knowing what was going on with me and our son (although we were team green so we didn't know he was a "he"!).
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I agree, @autumn865. I think it will be different when the time comes (hope so, anyway)
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@PrincessBaby: I can believe it! My husband was about to faint when I got my episiotomy, but when the head started crowning, he hopped right back up and said he got really excited!
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@PrincessBaby: Yep my DH said exactly the same. I don't believe him, though
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Yes! He was there the entire time! I induced at 39 and 4 so he could be there. But @fairy: when my OB asked him if he wanted to see the baby coming out when I had my c-section, all the blood drained out of his face, and he said, "I'd better not"! Lol! I'm kind of disappointed I didn't get any pictures! Next time I'm giving my camera to the anesthesiologist, heh.
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Of course! There's no other option! You helped put it in there, you can help get it out! He was holding my right leg, rubbing my head and giving me updates on the status (telling me how close I was getting, despite me telling him he wasn't to look down there!)
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Oh no! I never considered that DH might not be able to stomach the delivery! =\ I can't imagine doing it without him! I'm due in April, so I guess I have a while to gird him up if he's not up for it already.
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My DH wants to practically set up a whole set to film it from different angels! I veto'd that one real quick.
I couldn't imagine him not being there. I think your DH will be fine just keep him by your face, he doesn't need to be down below where it all gets real
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