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@TrailRunner: ugh, thank you! That's exactly right, my emotional wellbeing is in tatters, and they are asking me to live with it for a WEEK after finding out. Not to mention, my body could start to pass it at any time, which is the last thing I want.
@YogiRunner: thank you, the support means to much to me.
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@Crystal: Well, you know I waited Friday - Wednesday, but it was more logistical. They also gave me the option to wait 2 weeks to see if my body passed it naturally before even scheduling the D&C. I'm so sorry this is happening.
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I'm so so sorry - how incredibly unfair that you have to go through this at all to begin with, and now the runaround and terrible treatment and lack of compassion from your doctor's office. I am so sad and angry for you.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Life is really unfair. I don't think you're being unreasonable about not wanting to wait for the D&C.
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@JoJoGirl: I get it if it was my choice, but I hate that this is their best option.
@erinbaderin: thank you. They have to anticipate things like this are a possibility, and it angers and saddens me they aren't prepared for it.
@Mrs. Pickle: thank you. I'm in a hormonal and emotional induced rage, so I'm glad to know I'm not being totally unreasonable.
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I am so so sorry.. This is devastating for anyone but having gone through infertility myself I can understand how it hurts just that much more. Praying for you.. hang in there
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@Crystal: They should absolutely at least be able to provide you with a referral (beyond PP)! You're not being unreasonable at all. You've been in my thoughts all day; I hope you can find someone to provide the D&C this weekend.
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@Crystal: I think that's a little heartless to suggest you go elsewhere if you're too impatient to wait. I waited a week to have a D&C after my first miscarriage, and it was torture so I know how you feel I thought exactly how you did I just wanted it to be over. This time my doctor would have done it the next day with I appreciated so much. I don't know if it's an option you'd want to consider (I haven't read the whole thread) but I elected to have a medicated natural miscarriage this time and the process went really smoothly, and I was so happy I didn't have to have surgery and could be alone with emotions.
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's just so awful.
Your doctor sounds like a real asshole. I also had a MMC at 11 weeks and had to wait a few days before the d&c, but they got me in literally as soon as they could. (We discovered the miscarriage on a Thursday afternoon and the surgery was scheduled for Monday, with instructions to head to the ER if I started bleeding heavily before then.) It is really, really hard to have to wait. Honestly, I don't remember much about that time other than lying on the couch and just trying to breathe and get through the days. I really hope that they can come up with a better solution for you. But if you do wind up having to wait, take it one day - one minute - at a time, and know that you will get through this. It's so horrible right now, I know you probably feel like you'll never be okay again, but you will.
Sending you great big hugs.
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@Mrs.Pinecone316: that's what's also making this so hard. It's not like I get pregnant easily.... I'm so scared looking down the barrel of who knows how many more years of fertility treatments.
@ms.line: exactly! A referral makes sense, this hands up in the air "oh well" thing doesn't.
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I am so so sorry for your loss...
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@runnerd: what does that mean? Do they give you pills and you passed it at home? My main concern is the waiting for it to start.
@KatieBklyn: each hour is torture, I can't imagine waiting 6 days for this to be over. We're going to the ER to see if they can do anything for us. I haven't been bleeding, but I hope they'll have compassion.
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@Crystal: I am so sorry. I too wanted it to be over quickly. I opted for the assisted miscarriage by taking medication. I took 800mg of misoprostol vaginally for two days in a row. Everything passed within 3 hours of the first dose. I am so so sorry.
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@Crystal: what @Mrs. Champagne: said is what I did. I started the medicine at 3:30pm, and it happened by 10pm. My baby measured 7w5d, so not quite as far along as you but it went so smoothly, never cramped worse than a period.
I just wanted to throw that alternative out there to having to wait that long for D&C, but totally ignore it if that sounds awful!!!
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@Mrs. Champagne: @runnerd: how bad was it when it passed.
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@Crystal: I was only about 6 weeks (measuring that big anyway). It felt like a huge clot. I barely cramped at all. I took Advil at the same time I inserted the misoprostol.
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@Crystal: I only felt something sliding out, no pain. I don't want to speak too much to that though because I was advised it differs very much for everyone and could be much worse. It wasn't for me though.
I was taking prescription pain meds during the process.
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@Crystal: They are very insensitive in my opinion. This isn't something you should have to wait on. Ughhhh how frustrating these doctors could be!
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That is ridiculous! I was diagnosed on a Thursday and had my D&C that Monday. I started bleeding on my way to the hospital. I was worried about miscarrying before my D&C...so I totally understand. Can you possibly go to a different OB?
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@LoveHope: I agree. I want to switch to a different practice.
@simplyfelicity: nope. He has a private solo practice, and the Drs on his exchange (that are supposed to be his backups) won't touch me or even see me because I'm not their patients. My only other option was ER, which I'm at now. They didn't even suggest that to me, they said wait or planned parenthood.
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I ask so heartbroken to read this. I wish no one knew the pain of losing a baby, and the added blow of infertility on top of that is just so unfair.
Sending you so many hugs.
Oh, and I think the earlier you could have the d&c, the better. I had to wait 24 hours for mine and I was petrified I was going to lose the baby myself at home - something I couldn't handle.
Here anytime for support. xx
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@jaguar: I'm in the ER begging them to do it, and it sounds like all they will be able to do is call and try to strong arm my Drs backup to do it. I'm really really hoping they can, I honestly don't know how I will make it to Wednesday like this... I do not want to pass it at home.
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@Crystal: explain its for your mental health. Do what you need to do, hon.
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@jaguar: I did. He said he'd do his best, but I'm not feeling too hopeful. I don't know how I can begin to heal if I can't get this done.
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@Crystal: Can't another doctor organise this for you? Are there counsellors that you could speak with, explain your fears, and fight on your behalf? I don't know how things work there, but there have to be options. This is making me so mad. You don't need the added stress while you're grieving.
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@Crystal: What an awful situation! I'm so sorry. I have been following your story the last couple of months and I'm so sad this is how it's going for you. I know there's nothing we can say, but I'll pray that you get your rainbow baby soon.
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I'm so sorry for your loss
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@turquoisemama: @Purpledaisy: thank you.
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@jaguar: the nurse here fought on my behalf, and another on call dr agreed to do it. He just came in my room and said he'd do it for me today. I'm so relieved. It will be a few hours, but I don't even care. Better that then 6 days
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Prior to having my daughter, I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and one at 9 weeks but both happened naturally. I know it sucks. Hang in there and do what you need to take care of yourself.
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Wow. A horrible experience all around. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Heartbreaking.
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@Crystal: I'm so happy some one came through for you!!! This weekend will be much better for you as you start the healing process
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@Mrs. Schoolbus: that definitely gives me hope!
@Ellie: @runnerd: I am so, so thankful. I still can't stop crying, but at least I know after tonight it will be done.
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@Crystal: I'm glad that they will be able to do it for you. I can't imagine the pain you're in. Remember that we are all here for you and you are not alone. Sending you hugs
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@Crystal: Glad someone finally understood the gravity of the situation and I hope you never have to see that OB again. You will be fine and probably so relieved when it is physically over. Take extra good care of yourself, girly.
Many of us have had D&Cs, do just ask if you have any questions.
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@LoveHope: I can't even express how much the support means to me... Im so grateful to all of you.
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@Crystal: I'm so glad the nurse and on call dr listened to you! Still thinking of you!!
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@bluestriped bee: thank you. I guess we're both with in the hospital, huh? I've been following your thread and wishing for the best for you and the babies.
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@Crystal: So many hugs your way. As I said earlier, words cannot express how sorry I am for you. So many of us are wishing healing and peace your way, and thinking of you guys. ((Hugs))
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@dc yoga bee: thank you, and I'm sorry I haven't responded Sooner. It's been an awful day.
Still waiting in pre op. Getting closer, though.
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@Crystal: I'm so relieved to hear they are finally seeing you, hope it all goes well & you are looked after when you get home. Hugs from Australia x
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