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@Crystal: so glad that you will be able to get the procedure done asap and I am so sorry that your OB was not there for you. Good for you for being able to advocate for yourself in the midst of all this. I will be praying for you!
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Oh my goodness, just saw this. I'm so so sorry for your loss and having to deal with all of this additional, not necessary stress on top of everything else. I would also be furious with my doctor, and would find a new one after this. At least after tonight you can move forward.... Hugs.
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Just now seeing all this. I am so sorry. Praying for you and your husband.
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My heart totally caught in my throat when I saw the title and your name. I am so sorry and feel brokenhearted for you and your husband. I haven't read the whole thread yet but I hope that a small, small consolation will be that your d&c is done quickly and well so that the physical part ends soon. All love and prayers for you.
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@Nutella: thank @MamaCate: @Bea: thank you.
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@hellobeeboston: I am most certainly finding a new dr. I'm furious at my current one. I may actually be switching to the dr that's doing my procedure, he's been amazing. He was in my room within 30 mins of him accepting the job, and came to visit us repeatedly to give us updates and check in. We discussed my history and he gave me tips moving forward and patiently answered all of my questions. DH liked him too. He's been a bright spot in all of this and is making the transition easier.
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@crystal: ok, I finished reading. I'm so glad that you're going to be able to get the D&C soon. I had to do the medication, and it was an OK experience, but that was mainly because I wasn't very far along... based on my research I would think it would be much more difficult emotionally and physically to do that at almost 12 weeks. From what I understand, at that point it would be entirely possible to "see" much more than clots/blood.
I also never, ever go back to the doctor. Based on his odd guidelines for clomid timing, his attitude during your betas, the lack of follow-up ultrasounds and then this experience?? No way. Stick to your guns.
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I am so, so, so, SO sorry. I'm so sad and heartbroken and-I just don't know what to say. Please let me know if you need anything.
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@DesertDreams88: my feelinga exactly. He also was dismissive of my Progesteone concerns. I'm
done with him. Luckily this new guy is contracted with a group my RE is a part of, and I like this hospital. It's just far from home. Worth it for quality care, I was driving almost as far for crap care.They said the D&C was the best and least painful option because of how far along I am. Plus, I just want it to be over with.
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@ChiCalGoBee: thank you.
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Oh no. This breaks my heart. I'm so sorry to hear this, but I am glad you have found a helpful doctor to use in the future. What an awful experience. I'll be thinking of you.
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@Crystal: I am so incredibly sorry. It is so so so unfair. Sending much love your way.
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@2farmmoms: thank you. I hope your IUI works this month.
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@AprilFool: thank you.
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@Crystal: oh my gosh - this is such horrible news. I was so excited for you when you got pregnant. Having been through difficulty getting pregnant and then 2 miscarriages and D&Cs myself, I can imagine how gutted you are feeling...it's just not fair. All I can say is to have hope that one day you'll be holding your precious baby.
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@Crystal: I saw your post on another thread and got the same feeling as many here: total heartbreak for you. So sad and mad for you, but you are strong. Stay grounded for as long as you need, but when you are ready, you will take the broken parts, put them back together and fly again. Wishing you comfort and healing as you go through this hell...
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I am so sorry for your loss
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Thinking of you today and hope the d&c went as well as could be expected. You have a wonderful support system here and we will keep thinking of you.
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@Crystal: I hope everything went as well as it could
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No no no. I am so sorry. This isn't fair.
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Thinking of you and hoping your recovering well.
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I just now saw this. I am heartbroken for your loss and so angry at your stupid doctor. Thank you for never going back to him ever again. You do not deserve that at all. I am glad you found someone to help you get it done as soon as possible. Hugs and prayers for healing and strength
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@Tidybee: I just wish I knew why... Why are we suffering like this? All we've ever wanted to be are parents.
@Amorini: @sorrycharlie: thank you.
@NorthStar: @mrschickpea: thank you for your kind thoughts. The procedure went as well as to be expected.
@LovelyPlum: he dr really just made it all worse. I felt so helpless...
Im home and resting. We got discharged from the hospital at about 4am. I feel better than I expected to, but still a little weak. (Surprising to me, as all I did yesterday was lay down). I'm sure the numerous medications are helping.
I think I'm still a bit in shock, and keep waiting for it to hit me. Right now I mostly feel relief the procedure is done.
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I'm so, so sorry for your loss. It breaks my heart to read this, and everything they put you through on top of it. I'm glad you were able to have the procedure and at least get that over with. I know I'm just some stranger, but if there's anything I can do, please don't hesitate to ask.
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@Torchwood: than you so much for saying that, especially after everything you've been through. I appreciate the offer and might just take you up on it. I'm so glad you have your rainbow baby, and I hope I can have mine soon too.
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Life can be so cruel.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Oh no I am so sorry to read this. Life is really cruel sometimes. I hope you have a speedy recovery. I remember thinking after my D&E that the recovery seemed so easy compared to the emotional burden I was carrying. I hope you have lots and lots of support. I know we are all thinking of you here and wishing you lots of strength and healing and hoping your time comes soon for a healthy pregnancy and healthy baby.
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@Crystal: I am very sorry for your loss, sending much love.
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Oh no. I'm jus seeing this. I'm so sorry for your loss.
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@Adira: @shopaholic: @winter_wonder: @Greentea: @Happygal: thank you.
@delight: how long was it between finding out and your procedure? Mine was about 24 hours, and I think I was still trying to wrap my head around the sudden change a bit. Im definitely relieved to have it done, but somehow the whole thing doesn't feel real...
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@Crystal: I'm so relieved an thankful they were able to do it for you. I'm so sorry you had to go through all that from the Drs!!! That is horrible.
Also so thankful the procedure was done and that you are resting at home. After or losses I kept telling DH that he is better to me than a 100 children.. I know sometimes men don't feel as much as we do especially with our children but I am so thankful you seem to have a wonderful supportive DH who is taking good care of you. If anything your ttc journey is making you and your marriage Stronger.. And you guys wil be more awesome parents bc of it!!
Rest up and do small things that you enjoy/make you smile... Thinking of you!!
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@Crystal: I'm sorry your going through this. After reading this thread, my heart breaks for you.
hugs !!!!
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@Crystal: my situation is different than yours because we terminated. Between finding out our baby was sick and the termination it was about a week but we had known things weren't right for a month prior from ultrasound and NT findings. I felt like I was in a daydream the whole time and I totally understand when you say it doesn't feel real. I'm glad they were able to get you in quickly, although it sounds like you had to jump through a lot of hurdles. I'm not sure how different a D&E from a D&C is but like I said earlier, the physical recovery was easy for me. I hope you're doing ok.
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@mrs.kiwi: our marriage is definitely stronger, even if it's been tested far past limits we had ever expected. DH is truly wonderful and such a blessing to me. I'm so sorry for your losses as well.
@jh524: thank you.
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@delight: I didn't realize the extra agony you were put through... I'm so sorry. I hope that someday this will be a distant painful memory and we will get to enjoy our rainbow babies.
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@Crystal: thanks. I know we will all have rainbow babies in the future too. All these losses are agonizing no matter when or how they occur.
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I am so sorry for your loss and I wish you gentle healing thoughts.
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Thinking of you. I hope the procedure went well.
I'm so sorry. 
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