Our daughter just turned 9 months old and she's been doing drop-offs no problem since she was 9 weeks old. In fact, she normally can't wait to get out of the car seat and start playing!
Today, for the first time ever, she cried. My husband had to just leave her there crying. Is this the start of an everyday occurrence? Or a one-off thing? Nine months old seems so young to be starting this behavior! Especially since daycare 5 days a week is her norm!
grapefruit / 4988 posts
DD is 3.5 years and we have gone through the crying stage maybe 3 times, approximately once per year since she started. It may end up being an everyday occurrence for a little while, but I would try not to worry about it, especially if the teachers say that she cheers up after you leave (this is always what happened to us). I think DD's longest stint lasted a couple months, towards the end of my pregnancy with DS, and that was the hardest since she would physically not let go of my legs and the teachers had to drag her off me every day. And then one day, she was just fine again and has been fine ever since.
nectarine / 2047 posts
DS has prettt much only cried when he switched rooms. The last time was at 15 months. It lasted about 2 weeks and he was ok. I talk to him about school and what we do when we get there "we will go inside to your classroom and hang up your coat and backpack. Then I will give you a kiss and say bye bye" I never lingered- just kiss, I'll see you after snack. bye bye, I love you. And walk out. I think if I was upset by he crying, it would make his reaction worse. Good luck!
pear / 1728 posts
DD started crying right around the time she turned 1. She had also just moved up to the toddler room so it could have been because of the change.
She's pretty much stopped crying now (14 months) but she still clings to me a little when I drop her off.
apricot / 370 posts
Depends on the kid. My first - almost every day in infant and toddler, for 6 weeks after transitioning to young preschool, and 4-6 times over the past 9 months in preschool. With the exception of transitions, it always stopped as soon as I left.
My second - in the past 13 months of infant/toddler care, 4 times ever.
I learned to discuss changes in rooms, even with a 12 month old. I also learned to have a quick routine that is the exact same every single day, and most importantly - don't dally.
pomegranate / 3438 posts
We've gone through many phases of crying at drop off. It just depends on what he is going through developmentally at the time. Sometimes it's only a few days, other times it's weeks or months (he is 5 years old now). Even now, while he doesn't cry, he does go through clingy phases.
My 5 month old started at 3 months and only cries when he doesn't feel good (only a couple of times so far).
cherry / 246 posts
Thank you all for your tips and for giving me hope that this is temporary!
My husband usually stays a few minutes to play with her so I guess we need to try switching that up. And this is also her first week in a new classroom so I don't know why it didn't occur to me that would be a reason. It's just weird that she didn't cry the very first day in the new classroom. Babies are so unpredictable!
wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts
DD1 started daycare at 10 months and she's 2.5 now, she has actually cried maybe 2-3 times? And 2 of those times are probably when I dropped her off (DH usually does it). DH says when she's not feeling it she usually just needed him to stay with her for a few more minutes.
clementine / 911 posts
Our daughter started a major separation anxiety phase shortly after 18 months. She's been in daycare 5 days a week since she was 11 weeks old but started crying every morning for a while. She also gets really anxious around people, even her grandparents, who she sees fairly often. She's always afraid Mommy and Daddy are going to leave her with someone if we have a visitor, even though they've been watching her since she was a newborn.
She's 21 months now, and things have improved some, but she's still not as happy around other people as she used to be. We never had issues leaving her with anyone until this recent phase started.