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Will your LO take a pacifier? How I got Xander to drop some of his MOTN feeds was when he would wake up, I would immediately pop the pacifier in his mouth! Sometimes he'd just spit it out and I'd pop it back in a few times, but eventually it would stick and he'd fall back to sleep. Unless he was actually hungry - then he'd keep refusing the pacifier!

I concur with @chopsuey: on the swaddle front. Xander never liked being swaddled so we stopped in the first couple weeks. It took him a little bit to get used to his hands smacking himself around, but once he was used to it, he slept a LOT better without the swaddle.

Where is she sleeping? Have you tried something more enclosed? My LO slept in the rock n play for 12 weeks, no swaddle.

Just wanted to commiserate with you on the sleep and the formula advice given. DS is 13 weeks now, but I remember those 2 hour nights. Heck, he was waking up every hour on the hour for a couple days just last week!

I agree with ditching the swaddle if she hates it. Is she eating quite a bit during the day? My pedi said to make sure they eat more during the day so they can sleep more/better at night. Otherwise, you'll be feeding all night because they're hungry. DS is also a lazy eater and always falls asleep at the boob after just a few minutes of nursing. He stays awake if I give him a bottle of expressed milk, and will finish it so I've been him a bottle of expressed milk right before bed so I know he's full (like @chopsuey said).

It gets better! DS is now sleeping 4 hour stretch at night and it's heaven!! haha

Do you have a white noise machine or a humidifier or something on to make a white noise?

@scotchbonnet: for white noise we use an old iPod plugged in to an iPod dock. the app we use is relax melodies, the free version has tonnes of different sounds! we use rain ones, because I wanted to get him used to rain noises (to say it rains a lot here would be an understatement!)

I definitely second (third, fourth, fifth?) trying without a swaddle. we also gave up swaddling very early. i see you tried that tonight without much success, but it could take a few nights to really work.

does your LO cluster feed at night before bed? at that age my LO would eat every 30 - 90 minutes from 5pm - midnight (fun times...), but then he would sleep a solid 4 or 5 hours. maybe if you encourage feeding more often in the evening it will help fill up her tank, so to speak?

another thing you could try that I haven't seen mentioned is putting the moses basket on a slight incline, so her head (and maybe upper body) is elevated. I think Mrs. Blue did a blog post on how she slept her twins, and that was one of the ways!

ETA: just wanted to add that you're not doing anything wrong! formula isn't necessarily going to make your baby any better at sleeping! on the other hand, if that's something you want to try, there's nothing wrong with formula!

you're not doing anything wrong. that is a brutal schedule, you must be at your wit's end. i don't know whether this will make you feel better or not, but i don't think formula vs. breastmilk will make a difference. if you want to try, you could do a 50/50 bottle of formula + bm to see if that helps.

like others have suggested, you could try a pacifier, rock n play, swing, etc. to see if that will help her sleep longer.

My dude slept like that up until almost exactly 13 weeks. It was terrible. Sleep still isn't great but it's a lot better.

I agree about ditching the swaddle, just remember it takes a few days for them to get used to something new, so don't give up on the first night if not swaddling doesn't go so well.

I also will dip his paci in gripe water when he's drowsy and it usually helps him fall asleep.

I also want to say that I was told the same thing about formula and it truly didn't make a difference. Now he's 14 weeks ebf and he will occasionally sleep 6 hour stretches but his usual stretch is 3.5 hours.

You'll be ok, just push through! **hugs**

@scotchbonnet: I think the ones we used were Carter's brand?

His sleep didn't start stretching out until probably 3 months or so. I'll be perfectly honest, though, I'm pretty sure the only reason he slept at all was that we co-bedded. The sleep sacks helped, but being close to me/being able to nurse on demand all night was probably more beneficial. For both of us, since I barely stirred when he latched on (which was often). Sleep has been a constant struggle for us--even at 14 months he still usually wakes up at least once a night.

I can definitely empathize, but you're absolutely not doing anything wrong. Some babies just aren't great sleepers!

It sounds like you are pumping? Let your SO give her the bottle. I think it helps if your boob are off the table, then if it's just a comfort thing she might get the hint and not wake for just a bottle. GL.
ETA. Also try bicycling her legs a couple times throughout the day. Could maybe relieve some of the gas.