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Not all friendships can withstand time!

1) quality of quantity is the way in mature friendships. The quality of one great friend is better than 10 unreliable friends.

2) Apologizes go a long way, just like in any relationship if its someone you care about, don't be stubborn and admit default. I was estranged from a close friend for a couple years due to us bot being stubborn people. I finally reached out to her when she was pregnant with her first child, and we realized how stupid our fight was. We are closer than ever now.

3) Reaching out frequently, sometimes a friend just needs a phone call. We are all busy but close friends deserve time too.

I agree with @Rubies: comment on when people change, the friendship changes as well. Sometimes for the better depending on what direction in life you and the friend are heading.

@autumnlove: yup!

1) don't hold anything said in a venting session against a friend's significant other (unless it's about violence) because it could lead to disliking someone a friend is going to be with for a long time...which could lead to an end of the friendship.

2) sometimes you may value a friendship more than the friend does...and that's sad.

3) everyone talks about each other in some way and when you have lots of mutual friends don't be upset if you find out that a friend vents about you to another friend.

Sadly I have learned that there isn't reay anyone I can trust or rely on outside of family

Loyalty above all. Even if someone has a tough personality, but is loyal, they are a keeper. If someone is so amazing to be around but not loyal, it's just not worth it to try and stay really close.

If someone lies to me about something (big or small), they don't get into my inner circle.

Friendships go in phases, so it's never worth "breaking up" with a friend. They'll either get closer to you over time or fade away. No need to make that call in the moment.

I try to keep drama out of my life, and I hope for friends who do the same. If you have lots of drama, we probably won't be super close until the drama dies down in your life.

@SSLM: I've found friends who are there through thick and thin in a way that is just as strong as family. I have my blood family, my adopted family, and then my friend family. I see them all as equals.

@Mrs. Jacks: you're so lucky to have found good friends like that I just haven't been quite as lucky I guess. There's still hope!

Just because friends drift apart doesn't mean you don't both cherish the relationship for what it meant during that phase of life.

Some friends become family-not in a cliche way, but in a "when the foundations of your world have been shattered, their the one you trust to remind you who you are and what is truth" way.

And last, the cliche "To have good friends, be a good friend" has a lot of truth to it.

@mediagirl: ditto to all.

Biggest thing I've learned is that some people are drama queens and they are just not worth the time. And if they make it all about them, turf them to the curb. I've learned that lesson a few times over.

I've been a part of many girl groups and I've learned that girls just tend to talk about each other. It doesn't mean we don't love each other...kind of like how you know your family members have flaws, get annoyed by them and vent about them, but at the end of the day, you love them. That is just my observation.

People, and therefore friendships, ebb and flow. One friendship will never be the same thing year after year.

And if a friend doesn't make you feel good, there's no sense in keeping them around just because it's expected. You have to do what's right for you, not what other people think you should do.