When I see parents getting frustrated with their kids and yell at them in public, I judge those parents. As a kid, being humiliated like that is terrible - my dad did it to me once when I was 5 and I never forgot how it made me feel.
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Yep. Totally judge parents when they yell at their kids in public.
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People who don't think any further than the information that is pre-packaged and placed in front of them . . . I don't care if our views differ, that's what makes the world go round, so to speak, but to not be able to articulate why you believe x or y is right/ wrong on more than just a superficial level is heartbreaking. I totally judge that. It's intellectual laziness (now that was judge-y!), and I hope like hell butterbean doesn't take the (mental/intellecutal) easy way out.
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Oh, and I totally judge people who throw their cigarette butts out their car windows. -.-
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I think even when parents yell in general. My mom was a yeller and I am going to do my best to always be come with LO because I know how it made me feel.
Sometimes parents say things out of anger when they're yelling that they wouldn't normally. I judge when they say things like, "Don't act stupid," "Why are you so dumb". My mom once said that to me and to this day it makes me cry thinking about it, because I was never trying to act stupid, so when she said that, it made me believe I really was just stupid. I don't ever want to see a kid think that.
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Wastefulness.
Parroting ideas.
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@MsLipGloss: Yeah that's what i meant!
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I'm a pre-k teacher for the public state program. Here, you can only get into the public program if the kids are considered "at risk." ALL of my students come from tough, hard, sad family lives. I try REALLY hard not to judge the parents, but sometimes I do. The little girl whose mom is in jail and dad gave up his rights... The little boy who lives with his grandparents because once again, his parents care more about drugs, etc. I used to work at daycare center which was centered out of the hospital-they're parents had to work in the hospital in order for them be eligible for the daycare. Most of their parents were doctors/nurses/ had good jobs (aka they were kids who had "fluffy" lives), so these kids I have now are such a contrast. It makes me so upset to think that these kids have such difficult lives at 4/5 years old.
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My mom used to yell at us in public sometimes. It's the worse thing for a kid's self esteem. I believe in firm discipline but I don't think humiliation is the answer.
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People who smoke in front of their kids/babies
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@ohapostrophe yes! And women who smoke while pregnant.
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During my time working in child care, I've encountered many parents who take "ME" days while their child is already in day care 50 hours+/week. and then they are the last parents to pick up at the end of the day and the first to drop off in the morning. always made me sad for the kids whose parents dont really care to be bothered.
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@chickenfryrice: What's a me day?
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I judge people who smoke around their babies/kids.
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@lilteacherbee: I work in a high school and the kids are like yours, just 10 years older. It's tough and hard to understand.
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@BoogieBea: Here, here!
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When Mom (usually one who already has their kids signed up for 10-12 hr days in day care all day every day) decides she's going to run errands, get nails/hair done, whatever while they dump their kid off. not necessarily terrible in itself, it's just a little hard to judge when us as the preschool workers rarely get a "Me" day ourselves, and it's like salt to the wound when you're sitting there at the end of the day, the rest of the kids gone and you're waiting for that very parent to pick up already!
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Parents who ignore their kids to play on their phone. I was at a playground and I mom wouldn't help her LO on the swing because she was too busy looking at her phone. Priorities.
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Parents who let their child throw tantrums out in public or act up. I was with my friend yesterday who let her 15 mo run the show. My 14 mo was as good as gold. Not a peep from him. Parents who don't teach their children how to behave in public make me really upset. It's not the child's fault they are being bad, it's the parents. They're not teaching them the right way to act.
Children without manners are another of my judgements as well. It's not hard to teach your child to say please and thank you.
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I admit I judge parents who feed their kids horribly bad food. Not fast food here and there. But I mean feeding their 3 year old Diet Coke & lasagna. I saw a mother the other day at the food court mall feeding her 3 year Diet Coke, lasagna, fried chicken and a snickers bar. I know that kids are picky eaters but I admit judging her for that. =\
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@banana: A snickers bar?! Diet Coke? Fried chicken? the lasagna I get... but the rest, I shudder. I was hardcore about letting my LO have sugar, that he never even tasted juice until he was a year old. That's only because his father gave it to him. I would totally judge her for that too. It's not hard to bring fruit with you!
My LO is a picky eater, but I feed him what he likes that is healthy. Right now, he prefers pasta with sauce for his dinner, then I give him fruit, then some sort of fruit sauce (apple, peach, berries, etc) then a Minigo yogurt. I also give him a piece of bread to keep him happy. He gets chicken fingers once in a while, as a special treat.
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I hope I don't get judged for what I'm about to admit I judge people on
I judge parents who don't introduce healthy foods into their diets, based on the sole reason that the parent doesn't care for that particular food. A child preferring apples over oranges is one thing, but refusing to even ALLOW your child to TRY an apple because you hate them... Well, now that's just silly.
I also judge parents who allow their children to watch age inappropriate television shows.
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@banana: I once saw a toddler drinking Coke from a bottle.
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@belleoftheballe: I know! I wouldn't care about the lasagna normally but it was food court lasagna and it looked oily and greasy and just nasty! I was already judging her for the diet coke. But then she pulled out a snickers and cut it up into bite sized pieces and placed it on his tray. That did it for me.
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@Mrs.JumpRope: Agree on the food issue, but I draw the line at pickled beets. Butterbean is just going to have to try those on her own (maybe at a relative's house for a holiday or what not).
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@rubies: Oh no...sigh....it's hard to not judge someone for that, no?
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@Rubies: EWWWW!!!
@Mrs Jump Rope: I have some seriously odd food aversions but that doesn't mean my child will miss out on what I hate. I don't like watermelon or any kind of melon for that matter, but I feed it to my LO. He loves it! My husband hates bananas, and won't feed them to my LO. I hate Kraft Dinner, but if my DH or LO wanted Kraft Dinner, I'd make it for them.
@banana: OMG I would have stared in shock. A 3 yo doesn't need that junk. You can buy milk anywhere!!! Too bad I'm too much of a chicken to say something to that mom. If I had the cojones, I would have slipped her the Canada Food Guide!
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@Rubies: Yeah, I really don't understand it. Its so sad.
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@Rubies: My cousin's wife did that with Koolaid. Ew. So..gross.
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Once I was helping a customer when her two year old son reached up, smacked her in the face and yelled "PIMP SLAP!!" and then repeated it on his infant sister. Neither parent batted an eye. Hardcore judgment going on then.
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