I was just wondering what everyone here calls their MIL. I call my MIL by her first name. I know she wanted me to call her mom but I didnt feel comfortable doing that.
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Ha, I call her Mrs. LastName. So awkward but I definitely don't feel like calling her Mom and it seems weird to me to call her by her first name. My parents STILL call their in-laws Mr and Mrs LastName so I guess that's where I get it from!
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First name! She never asked me to call her Mom.
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I call her Mom. She asked me to about a year ago and it feels right. She's definitely my second mom.
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I call her by her first name, although, so do her kids so it came pretty naturally to me.
I'd never call her mom, unless in jest, because it just doesn't feel right. She is definitely a very good friend and a motherly figure to me, but she isn't my mom.
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I call her Mom. My husband doesn't really call my mom anything, though... lol.
@.twist.: her own kids call her by her first name?!
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In conversation with my husband, I call her "your mom." On gifts, we write "Mom E" (as opposed to my mom "Mom L") - I try to avoid calling her anything in person though, because calling her "mom" to her face is just awkward.
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@Leialou: do you refer to her as mom when you talk to DH's siblings? Just curious! I call my FIL Dad but I say "your Dad" when I talk to my BILs. :-)!
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I call her the word in Korean for mother-in-law.
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I don't really call her anything in person.
On cards and gifts, we usually write "Mom." I usually call my mom "Ma" (or DH calls her Ma Mac) so it's easy to tell the difference.
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@autumnlove: it depends. If it is clear that I am talking about their mom then I will just say "mom," but if I could be talking about my own then I say "your mom." I do that with my dh too or we both get confused.
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Her first name
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First name
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I call her by her first name, I'm not comfortable calling anyone but my mom "mom". We write cards to her as "mom", but when it comes to actually saying it out loud, I just can't do it. I feel sort of guilty because when she gives me a card, she signs it mom....and I love her, but yeah....just can't.
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I don't really call her anything in person!
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Her first name. I love her dearly but I only have one mom so I could never see myself calling her that.
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1st name
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First name.
I would feel really uncomfortable calling her Mom.
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Mrs. LastName. So awkward. I try to not call her anything at all when we're together. Or I just call her Grammy.
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First name. We get along okay but are not that close, so I wouldn't fee comfortable calling her mom. I would probably do that awkward thing where I avoid calling her anything, but lucky for me the precedent was set by my SIL's DH, who calls MIL and FIL by their first names. They were married a couple of years before us, so I just followed his lead on that one.
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She died before DH and I dated but I would have called her mom in Vietnamese. DH has a stepmom which I call her by "Aunt Firstname" because that's what DH calls her too. His younger siblings call her mama but DH doesn't.
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When I refer to her in conversation it's by her first name, "your mom" when speaking to DH, or grandma when speaking to my children.
In person, I try to never address her by name and actively avoid having to use "you" because in Spanish one is too formal and the other is too casual.
We get along really well, and I love her, but I think we would both feel weird if I called her mom.
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First name. I feel like you only get one mom...I mean, when I think about how much my mother sacrificed for me (and all the ways I sacrifice for my LO) it just doesn't compare to the relationship with one's mother-in-law. Even if it was on the best of terms. Which mine isn't.
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Ms. Last Name
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Ha, Grandma
Generally, nothing to her face, though not sure why. We just never had that conversation. We have a great relationship, so I don't know why it is awkward!
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first name. she refers to herself as "mom firstname" lol
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She insisted a few times I call her mom, so I call her Mom J, sometimes I'll call her mom, or what my kids call her-- Mimi.
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MIL refers to herself as "Mom 2" when she sends cards to me or whatever, but I find that insulting (for her). My mom is and will always be my only mom. I love my MIL, but the number two just seems demeaning.
Plus, she's technically DH's stepmother (but she raised him from the time he was 3 so he considers her him mom) so I think it's even more hurtful for that reason.
I don't think she means it to be hurtful, but I'd hate for someone in the family to hear me say it and be like WTF???
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First name. I address cards/gifts to "Mom" if it's from both DH and I. I avoided calling her anything out loud for a loooong time, haha. Seems so silly now because I'm totally comfortable around her after 12 years.
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@HabesBabe: haha yea! They only call her mom if they're in trouble
My husband was the baby and he heard a lot of people call her by her first name, and so he started to as well, and it just kinda stuck and now everyone does!
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I avoided calling her anything for awhile... her first name when I had to use something. Now I use DD's grandma name for her.
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I use her first name.
My mom eventually called my paternal grandma "mom" but she called her own mom "mother" so it was different...
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For the longest time, I avoided having to call her anything to her face because I didn't know what to call her! But now I just call her by her first name. Talking to Hubs or SIL though, I'll say "your mom."
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I call her by her first name. It never occurred to me to call her something else. I'd be open to calling her Mom if she asked.
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Her first name if I have to call her by name but I try and avoid it. Mrs. Lastname seems too formal/impersonal for our relationship but calling her by her first name feels sort of disrespectful sooOo I avoid it at all costs
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Oh my, that's a tough one. I call her by her last name, but it feels so awkward! When DH and I talk, I call her Mom G., but it would be weird to start calling her mom after a while of being all formal
I totally would if she asked, though.
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I call her by her first name, or if I am referring to her to my husband then I say "your mom". We've started calling her Nana now that LO is chatting though. That's kind of awkward for me.
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Her first name. It doesn't feel comfortable for me to call anyone but my own mother mom.
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Señora. We're formal like that.
@shinymama: She's usted all the way to me! And she's never asked me to call her anything else....
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First name.
Generally, nothing to her face, though not sure why. We just never had that conversation. We have a great relationship, so I don't know why it is awkward!
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