What do you do when you SO is having a bad day?
DH is having a really rough day. Work has been really stressful and he might have some career changes that might REALLY effect us. Just the stress of everything is really bringing him down. I know he has been really stressed and I am trying everything to be optimistic and encouraging. But he def looks almost defeated today. I too am worried and having a hard time with it all but one of us needs to reamin strong. Its his carreer even though these chagnes would mess with mine as well, I am trying everything to be posative.
So what do you all do to help cheer up you SO when they are down? Any ideas?
Trying to think of something to help cheer him up or take his mind off of things even if for only a little bit.
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When my SO is down, I bake him his favorite cookies. PB&J!
Hope everything works out for your SO!
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Seduce him! That always cheers up my hubby.
Is your husband the type to really worry about things? Maybe try talking through the issues and try to come up with multiple options for him? Or maybe try to come up with the "worst-case" scenario and put a spin on it so it doesn't seem that bad. I know that knowing the "worst-case" isn't the end of the world always helps.
Maybe just make him a nice dinner, watch some TV, give him a back rub (or whatever, my husband loves back rubs) to have a low-key and stress-free evening might help. I think maybe just letting him know that whatever happens, you'll stand by him, will also help him feel better.
Good luck.
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I am a strong believer that things happen for a reason. So I have tried to talk to him about worst case scenario. He does worry a lot about career more than anything, because he does love what he does so much in the Navy and the potential threat of having it taken away with all the changes and budget cuts scares the you know what out of him. He already has 12 yrs invested. 8 more until he can retire. Even if he does get to stay Navy then there is the threat of us possible being seperated for 3 years. Just feeling like an uphill battle.
I was thinking of making a nice dinner and trying to help him relax tonight.
@ADIRA- LOL yeah I think that might help him "relax" too and I was already thinking that <grin> -
I try to make hubby his favorite dinner and let him have the remote for the night. Otherwise if he's really upset he likes to be alone, so I let him have his alone time in the basement while he gets himself together, then we can talk it through.
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I give him lots of hugs. My husband is the type that needs to talk about what's bothering him, so I listen while he vents. I cater to him, cook something he really likes, and let him pick out a show to watch or play the PS3.
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I make sure there is a martini glass chilling in the freezer for him, and will often make him a martini (though he likes making them too). My husband likes to be close when he is upset, so we’ll usually snuggle on the sofa for the evening, or I’ll give him a shoulder/head/back massage.
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Well I picked him up his favorite Thai food for lunch. It perked him up a bit. Fortunatley he is consumed right now with actual work I dont think he can think about it much. Tonight we will see.
Looking like a nice dinner and cuddles and....yeah....should perk him up more.
Just hate seeing him like this! -
I cook dinner and do the dishes and then send him out to hang out with his friends to take the edge off. He likes to just let it sit for a bit and then talk it out (whatever is bothering him)...
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I was thinking about that too. Work has been pretty stressful for a lot of the guys he works with. They all have been going a lot more after work during the week. normally this would irritate me because of how often its become. But on the same hand its all the guys at work being able to go unwind and have a beer and chat out how to get through the mess.
So I def have been more than OK and even encouraging him go out.
I just saw a guy he works with and hinted they should go out.
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