DS sleeps from 8pm to 6am. At daycare he will only take one nap at 1pm for about 3 hours. At home he takes 2 naps for 2 hours each at 9 or 10am and at 2ish pm. He is tired during the week. Some days he falls asleep on the way to daycare and other days he is falling asleep at lunch because he is so tired. Mondays and Tuesdays are the worst as he adjusts back to daycare and less sleep.

I thought DH and I were together on sleep training to get him to sleep until 7 or 7:30. Turns out, DH doesn't want to do it anymore. He says that after 10 hours, DS needs to be awake and to eat/drink and that asking him to sleep for 11 hours is just too much. He doesn't want to let DS fuss or cry at all, and is worried about DS being in his diaper for an extra hour.

I see my baby (15 months) throwing tantrums over every little thing Mondays and Tuesdays because he is just too tired. I feel like a few days of effort/training could help him get the sleep he needs, since he is giving blatant signs that he needs more sleep. But I also can't/won't do it on my own. I won't do something that DH doesn't support because I would be enraged if he did that to me. We already had a huge blowout fight with my inlaws about this when we were at their house July 4th. I'm trying to compromise with DH, but it just isn't working and the result is that we aren't being consistent.

I don't know how to make this work. I see a problem and a solution, but DH doesn't support me on it. I have tried to let it go, but every Monday/Tuesday I get the same feelings of being a bad mom because I'm not doing anything to help DS when I could be. I know that in order to sleep train, we have to be consistent and follow through, or it isn't worth the effort at all. I'm also concerned about how to do it at my inlaws, because we are still going there every weekend, but after the last incident, if they even look at me while I'm trying to get DS to go back to sleep I will probably lose it.

Should I push through on this? DH says he will support me if I am the one doing the work in the mornings with DS. (fine by me!) Or should I just change our evening routines on Monday and Tuesday to keep DS happier? Basically this means going to the park to play for a few hours, then coming home with just enough time to do dinner/bath/bed.