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Sleeping in... ever. Even just the CHOICE to sleep in, call in sick, be lazy... ever.

The ability to stay up late. It just isn't even fun anymore because I know that I'm going to be up so early and exhausted, so we just don't stay up late anymore.

Having a day off. Like, ever.

The choice to do whatever I want to do whenever I want to do it, not having to schedule my whole life around bottle times and nap times.

The ability to plan ahead and commit to plans rather than giving a caveat of it's going to depend on naps and whether baby is having a good day.

Going out after 7pm.

The only thing I actually miss is being able to go to movie theaters to see new movies! We don't have family or friends close who could babysit and we haven't found a sitter, but if we found one then that wouldn't be an issue either haha.

There isn't anything that I really miss. Even though there are some things like playing videogames for hours on end that I cannot do anymore, I don't miss it lol.

At first you are pretty roped down by baby's needs but that time passes really quickly and soon things are much more predictable, LO is down to one nap so it is easy to plan things, and they are very portable

I'm 2 years into this mom gig so honestly I really don't miss much anymore. But I think back fondly on relaxing and sleep. I remember when sleeping in meant 10 not 7. I also agree about no longer going to bed late. Who can do that when you wake up between 6-7 everyday?

I kind of miss going to adult dinners but honestly I'd rather spend time with my boys. I WOH so weeknights and weekends are the only time I get with them.

I wish you the best with your journey toward parenthood!

But in the meantime, I never appreciated the freedom enough. Sleeping in, casual date nights that haven't been planned weeks in advance, shopping by myself to kill time, feeling like my time is my own.

@Smurfette: And then if you're on the cusp, it's like transporting a concussion patient in the movies so you don't get screwed with a 10 minute nap. Come on, man! STAY AWAKE!!

I miss spontaneity and a mess free home.

I miss how organized my life and home used to be; PLUS everything else @lawbee11: said.

Sleep is a given. But also sleeping in the same bed as my husband. Now one of us always sleeps in the nursery and we sleep in shifts.

Enjoying a meal, when it's not a race to eat before LO wakes up...

How easy it was to leave the house. Now it's lugging the car seat, packing the diaper bag and pump/pump parts, the snap n go... Not to make sure we time the outting with his naps.

We are (I hope!) trying our first IUI in January but I expect to miss (1) drinking wine while pregnant and (2) sleeping enough not to be cranky. I don't know how thats going to go honestly because if I don't get 8 hours a night I have awful days at work ... and we all know it won't even be close to 8 hours a night with a baby!!!

Liking my husband.

Leaving the house whenever I want.

Taking vacation time just to do whatever.

Going to the movies.

Grocery shopping leisurely.

Sleeping in my bed.

Definitely sleeping and waking whenever I want! If I go out somewhere on a late night I know I will have an early wake up call the next morning!

Flaxibility to go out and do stuff as many have mentioned. Also one on one time with DH. Going to the washroom on my own. Eating/drinking what I want in public (not having to hide junk food, etc or else toddler will demand it as well).

Nothing! It's crazy to say that since I definitely didn't feel that way for the first two years of parenthood. I use to miss spending time and money on myself, frequent date nights, going where ever, when ever (hair appts, the gym, even the dentist).

Now that I'm nearly 6 years into this role, I don't mind...I know when I need to make time for myself. Instead I feel accomplished running with all 3 kids, going to stores and keeping everyone happy, appreciating alone time at the salon...I'm use to it now.

Ditto to the sick days! I haven't had a sick day in over a year and have def needed a few!

Quiet time. I am a loner by nature and I really need quiet time to recharge, having a toddler allows no "me" time, and when I do have it I spend it doing things that are easier when he's asleep (cleaning, showering, etc)

Freedom.

A lot of the stuff listed we don't miss because it's a choice we made not to give up, and/or things out baby (now toddler) was flexible on. But I miss just the freedom in general of doing what I want to do without needing to think about anyone else's needs. That sounds super selfish, but it's little decisions and big ones - I can't skip out of work a bit early and hit a bookstore because I have to pick up LO and get her dinner quickly, etc. I can't sleep in if I want, unless my husband takes LO (which he does a lot, but that's not the point).

I also really need time to recharge and time alone. And that doesn't happen without planning.

@Travelinmoon: that makes sense but now that we have an LO I actually feel bad because I don't think of him as often as I should/would like. He deserves so much more than he gets from me &it makes me sad, but I'm doing my best & this is just a phase, one day I'll have more time to devote my thoughts to him!

I miss sleep but I really miss quickly (&quietly) running errands.

I miss having time to myself that is guilt free. I occasionally am able to have a few hours to myself but I feel a bit guilty because I also want to be spending it with my LO since I don't see her that much during the week.

Being able to just walk out of the house easily.

And being able to be selfish. I didn't think that I was selfish at the time, but it was so nice to think, "what do I want to do today?" and then do it.

How has nobody said sex yet?!
I miss sex that isn't rushed or hushed.

And all the things everyone else said about other freedoms.

I do have to remind myself to be grateful sometimes. I think I miss my own naive notions and daydreams of what motherhood would be like. Enjoy those while you can!

Being able to just go shopping or meet up with a friend after work instead of having to rush to daycare pickup. Being able to stay up late and then sleep in just because. Traveling!