Other than sleep, what do you miss the most?
Me, I have have to go with morning sex.
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Doing nothing. Like coming home and watching a few shows with Dh, then going to bed when we felt like. Then sleeping through the night but I know you said besides sleeping
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I miss being able to just go out and run errands after work. Now I have to make sure I get out of work ON TIME so I can pick up Xander from daycare and then I have to get him home to either nap or eat! I can't just run to the mall after work if I want to.
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@Adira: And nothing is quick! Like if I forgot an ingredient for dinner. It's such a production to make a quick stop at the grocery store on the way home. Do I take her out of the seat and carry her? Put her in the stroller? The Ergo? Just bring the whole infant seat in? What if she's asleep... what if she cries? I miss being able to just dash in a store and be back on my merry way.
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I miss spontanous plans, when friends would call up and say "hey you want to get together for a drink in an hour or dinner?" Just can't happen anymore.
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I don't even remember life before my kid, lol.
But, all these things...they do get better! When your kids get older, things like this are easy again!
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I miss tv!
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@Adira: @MamaMoose: yes! One of R's teachers last day is tomorrow and I found out last night. So I dropped her off a little early this morning, ran in the grocery store and got a card and gift card to give her tomorrow. It was way faster then having to deal with her. I try and not have to go anywhere during the week.
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Spontenaiety.
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Probably being able to go wherever, whenever. We used to go all over town on the weekends and now it's much more scheduled, and we can go to only a few places. We're getting better at it though!
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watching more tv, and having the freedom to just go places randomly without planning everything and having to pack a bag full of toddler supplies
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@Bookish: I'm with you. I miss being able to go away for a weekend and not worry about sleep, getting dinner late, who will watch her if we want to do something non baby friendly.
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Spontaneity
Weekends away with friends
Not having to plan my life around nursing
Alone time with DH
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I know you said besides sleep, but I reeeeally miss going to bed and knowing that I could sleep until I feel like getting up.
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No spontaneity. EVERYTHING has to be scheduled pretty tightly with a 15 month old.
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Alone time and date nights with DH.
DS will be 2 next month and we've only been on one "date" since he was born. That date was only lunch together. With all of the moving, we never have anyone we trust enough to babysit.
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Lazy days. They look so different now that we have a LO.
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Not having to go to the bathroom with an audience.
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Spontaneity, being able to do laundry whenever you wanted, not worrying about it. I miss being disorganized and it being okay. I feel like I have to be so organized just to get out the door in the morning.
I also miss having the energy to do hobbies. I really haven't knit much since having LO a year ago. Part of it is that I'm no longer knitting at my now old yarn store. I need to find a weeknight knitting group that I like to replace it with.
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Eating out (now it's just too much effort)
Being able to grab drinks after work with my girlfriends
Going to the movies
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@oliviaoblivia: haha, I relish going to the bathroom by myself during WFH days or at work. My DH shuts the door when we're both home, but LO loves to pound on the door when he's in there. He didn't have to pee with LO in a Bumbo while getting ready for work for months.
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I hate not being able to get carried away in something! I am big on projects around the house and can easily get carried away and lose track of time. Unless DH is home, not possible anymore! The spontenaity isn't a huge deal for me, I either make it work or we're not ones to really go out on a whim ever, so I don't really feel that!
I miss my pre-baby body, lol.
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@heartonastring: This! The nursing thing!! (and I like your new name
)M won't take a bottle so I feel so chained to her. She also doesn't nurse well in public, so I feel chained to the house as well. I miss going out during the day without a care in the world!!
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I miss being able to travel with out having to worry about a baby.
And I miss being able to just go out whenever with friends and DH.
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@sslm: thanks
Yeah, I hear you. DD won't really nap away from home and if she misses a nap disaster pretty much ensues, so we are very much stuck at home too. Pretty frustrating.
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Being able to eat a meal with both hands and my boobs not being on display 24/7--I feel like they lose a lot of sexiness when I just whip them out at the dinner table and shove them in DD's mouth
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Quality time with DH.
A clean house.
Working out - No matter how much milk I pump I always get a frantic phone call from DH that DS needs more milk, won't stop crying, etc. I've never been able to go for more than 25 minutes. -
Sitting still, and not having to worry constantly.
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Silence!
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*Quiet time, just relaxing.
*Sleeping in
*HAVING to go to sleep early. Sometimes i do want to stay up late...but I don't want to pay for it later.
*Doing anything for long periods of time without feeling like I need to be available.
*Loss of independence--i have to run *everything* by DH now. Make sure it's ok to have dinner with a friend so he can watch E, etc. I can't just agree to something and say, "Oh hey DH, i'm doing XYZ". I have to 'check in' with him now and make sure it's ok.
*Making nice dinners at home. Everything is quick and simple.
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@yellowbird: yeah..it's ridiculous how much planning being away from her takes. We are going to a concert about 15 mins away next weekend, and we had to ask my sisters three weeks out to watch her, have to figure out what time to feed her that night, what time to put her down...etc etc. Whereas before it would have been zero planning. We'd just leave!
Wanted to add that I miss reading books
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working out hardcore & getting my hair/nails done whenever I feel like it - these activities require a solid plan now
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@oliviaoblivia: I am so not looking forward to those days.
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Definitely spontaneity. Even just going outside to my garden is a planned event which more often than not doesnt happen.
Not having tired bickering fights with DH. We rarely fought before.
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More than anything else, my body. Other than that, going out with my SO whenever we wanted. It takes so much effort now and we rarely have a sitter.
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@blackbird: agreed! Coordinating who will watch J gets old.
I feel the way with work- I miss being able to pick up shifts and work whatever hours I wanted - but now I have to arrange extra child care, run it by DH and have extra guilt over working instead of being home.
I miss being able to decide things independently. Like me going back to school is this huge decision that impacts j and DH now, not just me anymore. That makes it a lot harder. And with that- time. Time to get it done. I worry about the time away from my family...
I also miss that feeling of more financial freedom- now what used to be "extra fun money" is diapers, baby clothes, and extra food for J money.
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I hope giving up these things is worth it, because reading everyone's responses is making me re-think kiddos now...
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@Smurfette: @MamaMoose: Right??? That's why I haven't gone grocery shopping in two weeks and we're almost completely out of food!!!! I used to just go after work during the week, but now I HAVE to go on a weekend and I've gotta go right after I'm done feeding him! It's such a hassle!
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Being selfish!
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I miss my beautiful spotless house. I just don't have the time to keep on top of it right now. I miss hoovering whenever I want!!
I also miss liking my dogs. I'm sure I'll find my groove soon (LO is only 4 weeks old) but at the moment they are more of an inconvenience to me and I hate it. They smell and I don't have time to bath them
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