Just curious what made everyone go for #3. Big family? Someone missing? Wanted another baby?
What genders and ages were your kids when you decided?
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i haven't decided yet if we are going for a third as we are still awaiting the arrival of #2 in Feb and need to see how it is with 2 kids. But since it was always my dream to have a daughter, and i am having my second son, i have entertained the thought of having a third. I need to first really decide if we want a bigger family and know that i would also be okay having another boy.
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Mother nature.
Really, we'd like a big family. Mother nature determined our timing.
We have two daughters, almost three and almost one. Daughter #3 will be here next month. -
Before getting married, DH and I decided on 3 kids. It felt like the right number. He is one of 4 and I am one of 3. Two didn't feel like enough. I have a friend whose brother died while we were in college and it always struck me how now she was an only child. Then after my 1st child. I thought maybe just 2. Pregnancy was hard on me and I just didn't know if I could do it two more times. But I knew I couldn't let him be an only child. After DS2 was born, within the month, I knew I wanted a third. Seeing them together was amazing. And I felt like one was missing. I always had that feeling. That pregnancy was much easier on me even though I had GD. So now I am pregnant with a 3rd. I have two boys but sex never made a difference for me. I knew I had one more child - boy or girl. Well, this one is a girl. Spacing was 20 months between the 1st two and 2 years exactly between the second two. Totally planned that way. I wanted my kids to be close in age because me and my siblings aren't (9 years and 4 years).
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We always talked about 3 or 4. I am one of two and DH is one of three. We knew we wanted at least 3. We have two boys now and while it's crazy almost always I love it. We would love to have a girl but another boy would awesome too.
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We haven't gone for it yet (pregnant with number 2) but we both come from families of three kids and feel like 2 just isn't enough. We might go for 4 one day!
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An accident. We weren't positive we wanted a 3rd.
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After my daughter (who was our second), I just knew we needed another. Our oldest son was 8 and our daughter was 18 months when we got pregnant. We're now a family of two boys and a girl and it is seriously so perfect!
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I have no idea how we will manage three sanely right now (it will be crazy), but we've always said we wanted 3 or 4. Looking down the road 5-10 years, I feel like two will feel a little small/lonely for the size family we ultimately want. Our two girls are almost 3.5 and 1.5 and we are ready to TTC #3 and embrace a bit of chaos for now.
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I've always wanted a big family. DD is 3, DS is 19 months and I am due with #3 in 11 days.
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I am pregnant with #2 now and know that I am DONE DONE having anymore babies....through my own body. DH agrees because pregnancy has been so rough on me. That said we didn't know if we could get pregnant for a long time and we have always been open to adoption, so if we were to feel direction that there was a 3rd out there for us we would go for it. I think since I wouldn't have a biological clock issue I wouldn't go for it right away (LO2 was a surprise and my two will be 20 months apart for which I am terrified) but I can see a few years down the road being open to another one. I come from two and DH comes from 3 and we felt either would be good.
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Would I sound really bad if I said temporary insanity?! We weren't sure we wanted a third - initially after our second, I did want a third but DH did not. Around the time she was a year old, we were both pretty solidly in the two and through camp but couldn't definitively rule out a third, although we were 95% sure we were done with two. I gave away all my maternity clothes and baby stuff, and started feeling a lot better about finally having my body back for myself.
Then, when DD2 was 20 months old, DH suddenly mentioned he did want a third - my reaction was surprise and mild horror! We decided to table the talk and decision making until after Christmas.....
And then we went away for our first childfree holiday the next week. We got a bit careless one night (one night!) and two weeks later - baby #3 was on the way. I'm 11 weeks now and starting to feel excited about a third but still regularly freaking out as my 3.5 yr old and nearly 2 yr old are giving me a major run for my money right now. I have absolutely no idea how this is going to work with three.......
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When I was pregnant with #2, DH said he was done at 2. Then like 2 days after she was born, he said he wanted a third. We have 2 girls now, an almost 2.5 year old and a 10 month old. We are trying now for #3. I asked dh if we had a girl and a boy, would he still want a third and he said yes. He's really hoping for a boy this time.
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I just felt like something was missing and I couldn't imagine never having another baby again. I came from a family of 6 so a family of 4 felt kind of lonely! I'm really happy with three even though it's hard sometimes.
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Very similar to @HLK208: I have two right now (a 2 year old and a 4 month old) and even though it's hard work (they're 20 months apart), I still feel like something is "missing." I've just always pictured our family with three kids. It makes me really sad to think about never experiencing pregnancy or a newborn again.
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I am pretty sure we will try for a third. It is kind of neurotic I guess but with two I just think about what if something happens to one of them? The other would be all alone. I think we will start ttc soon. We have 3 year and 19 month boys. Having 2 boys has nothing to do with whether or not we have a third.
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In a perfect world we want four. But we had decided that 3 is a more feasible number. It was always three. But after having a second I have been very much on the fence. My girls are fabulous and I love them more than life itself. But they are so very difficult infants. I know that it is such a short period of time. But with little family help, gosh the first year is SO hard on no sleep!
We can not afford three in daycare so when dd1 starts kinder is definitely a consideration for TTC a third.
Very good point. DH is one of 3. He lost brother and best friend five years ago tomorrow. @Mamasig:
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We always knew we wanted 3. I am one of 5 kids and DH is one of 3. We knew we wanted more than 2, and after we started having kids we realized that 3 was the perfect number. But we got pregnant with #3 way before we were planning on it. We wanted #2 and #3 to be 3 years apart but we ended up with a 22 month age gap.
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We only have one so far, but I have always pictured myself with at least three kids. DH is on the two, maybe three front. But I worry that my family will not feel complete with just two kids. It just does not align with the image I've always had in my head of my family.
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@cheesetomywhine: Are you team green for #3 or do you know what you're having? I'm pg with #3 and have one of each!
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@sampron: We were TG for the first two but found out for this one since the due date is so close to Christmas. It is another boy
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I always wanted 3 (or more) and I wanted a girl.
Looks like I'll be going for number 4
Lo1 was 2.5, lo2 was 8 months.
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We don't have 3 yet, but I would like to. My stepson is 10, my daughter is 3 months, and I'd like to have two more. Husband wants one more, maybe, possibly two more. I'm one of 3 kids, he has a sister and two close in age step brothers. We both feel that siblings are great, and want that for our kids. I just know we're not done. If we stop after the next one, for financial and practical reasons, I'll deal with it, but it's not ideal.
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We are planning to stop at two but our eight week old makes us want another! But of course then the balance would be upset again. But still! If we had the money!
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We're a two maybe three family. I told dh if it happens by chance before ds2 is 1 we will have three after that he will be getting snipped! We won't be actively ttc like we did with our first two.
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@cheesetomywhine: Congrats! I'm sure they will love their baby!
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@sampron: Thank you! They're both a mumma's girl/boy but it will work out
congratulations to you as well!
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We both come from families with 3 kids so that's always been our number. I love DD2, but I know our family isn't complete yet.
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I come from a family of 3 kids and I'm absolutely certain I'm not done at 2. Just need to convince DH
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@cheesetomywhine: Mine are too! Well especially my ds, as he is younger. He only wants "momma" to do things for him. Sigh! Ha...I love it on some days and other days want him to let dad do some of the work
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@sampron: I second your comment. Wanting DH would be nice every once in awhile...preferably at bedtime.
how old are yours?
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@cheesetomywhine: yes, bedtime would be wonderful,
. my dd is 9 and DS is 4. She is very loving towards her brother and is excited about getting another baby. My dd was never super attached like my son is. I'm hoping he will be better once the baby is here or I'll really have my hands full! Lol
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@sampron: ah good luck to you! Fingers crossed he will surprise you and be a big helper. My DD is super attached, probably more so than my little guy. It'll be interesting to see how they adapt
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I can't imagine another rough pregnancy, but I do think we'll have another. We may look into fostering/adoption as well. Either way we've decided we're waiting a year for life to settle down a bit.
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@lilteacherbee: dh and I really really really want to be done having kids buuuuut part of me doesn't think dd will be our last.
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@Ash:
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I like the idea of having a big family...just not sure
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I want a big family. I'm having a really hard time staying unpregnant right now. Because I mean come on.... Babies.
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@cheesetomywhine: Your due date is approaching, right? Update when your baby arrives!
Hope all goes well!
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@sampron: aw thanks for inquiring! My due date is actually today but our little man chose to come a bit early. He was born last Wednesday, December 9th. All is well and we are adjusting to him. Both DD and DS love him which is a pleasant surprise!
how old are yours?
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