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Mommy guilt (about everything) and the worry. It's constant.
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Definitely the isolation. That shocked me so much and i was not prepared.
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Sleeping and not knowing what he wants when he's whining.
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Cutting nails! DS1 had eczema and I had to cut his nails so short so he couldnt scratch as much, and it drove me insane. With DS2, nothing has been easy
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Sleep. I have always been so good with children, I took for granted that I wasn't the one training them and staying up with them and I thought I could take it on easily. Not so. It's the hardest thing I've ever done and I've since realized I have little patience for it. The next person who asks if my baby is sleeping through the night yet is going to get knocked out. Not really, but that's how I feel. That's how bad it is.
Also the isolation.... That + no sleep = paranoia and self doubt.
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Naps, hands down! People always told me babies slept so much, basically just eat, sleep, poop. So not true for our little life of the party!
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Naps. They're great now, but they were awful for months no matter what I did.
Breastfeeding. Physically it was easier than I expected (she latched on great, milk came in early, etc.) but it's so hard being the only one that can feed her (bottle strike) and just not being able to have a night away or only being able to go out for a few hours after she goes to sleep cause she may wake up to nurse.
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Breastfeeding. Having no supply makes me feel like a failure.
And naps, well, we can almost never get him to nap, but we live with it because he has been sleeping pretty great at night lately knockonwood.
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Naps and breastfeeding for the first month with LO 1.
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Breastfeeding - I knew it would be hard, but I didn't really realize what being the only person who could feed her meant.
Also- being the only person who can get her to sleep, once she's there, she sleeps, but getting there is difficult for anyone else to do, including DH.
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Insomnia...everyone would tell me to sleep when the baby sleeps but I just can not fall asleep right away like I use to. It's getting better now though, finally!
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Sex! DH & I were not prepared to go 10 months pp without. It put more strain on our marriage than we needed.
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The PPD/PTSD as a result of her birth. I really didn't think I'd get PPD at all and here I am still struggling 10 months later.
Insomnia.
Also driving anywhere - she HATES the car seat.
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Hmm...i guess sleep.
I am adjusted to being sleep deprived now, but it is crazy having a twenty-month old who still wakes 2-3 times at night.
Honestly, i think the hardest part of parenting is being 37-40 weeks pregnant. The end friggin' blows.
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Nursing
The anxiety & worry
The inability to go anywhere without packing and planning
Having the energy and mental capacity to do my classwork -
How hard it is to get him to sleep and then STAY asleep. Ugh.
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Guilt. I even feel guilty when DH plays with them while I get ready for the day, which is crazy since they are his kids too!
Time for myself is more rare than I ever expected.
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@HLK208: Seriously. The guilt is ridiculous!
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Breastfeeding for sure. I had no idea. It's great now and we are going strong at nearly 11 months but the first 6 weeks or so were horrendous and I don't know why I didn't get any help. Also the pumping and the pressure to keep my supply up.
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Breastfeeding for sure, and the anxiety that went along with having supply issues. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, and I'm amazed we've made it to four months (although we so have to supplement some now that I've gone back to work and can't pump enough to keep up with him).
PPD...I got through it and feel better now but I still have days that are pretty low. I can remember the first time I felt bonded to him and it was a lot later than I would've expected, at 3.5 weeks.
The balance of caretaking between DH and I. He wasn't as hands on as I'd thought he'd be and I was devastated. He thought he was helping enough, but just had no idea. He went back to work just 6 days after DS was born and I think he just literally didn't get how much work went into taking care of the baby. I started to feel like a single parent, and it absolutely affected our marriage. However, now that I've gone back to work and DH has the baby three days a week on his own, it's like night and day and I finally feel the joy everyone talks about!
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