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I thought: I would never get married because who would be insane enough to marry me? And kids were laughable. I knew I wanted kids but I thought of adopting, not having.

Actual:

Married: 21
Baby #1: 21
Baby #2: 22
Baby#3: Probably sometime around 25. Momma needs a break.

I think if I hadn't had the kids so close together, I probably wouldn't be thinking about a third child. Ideally we would have waited a few years between getting married, kid and the next kid (never a one and done situation here). But with everything sorta lumped together I feel like I have a lot of time and a lot of love left so sure, kid number 3 in a few years

I never seriously thought I'd get married and I was pretty sure I didn't want kids--until I met DH. Once we were serious and I decided that having a child with him would be pretty awesome I wanted to get started ASAP.

So my only real "plan" was that I was hopeful to have a baby by 25, or at least be pregnant, and I wanted to be married before that happened.

In reality, I was married at 25, we started TTC right away but I didn't have #1 until I was 27. Still, I think it was great timing for us, even if it wasn't what I thought I wanted.

Imagined: Married and have 4 kids (two sets of twins) by 30
Actual: Married at 33, had first kid at 35, second at 38. Four kids?! What the heck was I thinking! Yep, I'm OLD........ But I traveled all over (Europe, Asia, and the Pacific) in my 20s and had a blast. No regrets marrying and having kids later. Although, I am envious of all of you who got married younger and had kids younger b/c that just means you can enjoy your life more when you're still young and see your grandchildren get married. We may not... but I guess that's life.

I didn't have a timeline, but I just turned 34 and feel kind of old to be having a baby. I'm tired. I'm rethinking having a 3rd LO.

What happened:
engaged at 26
married at 28
1st LO at 31
2nd LO at 34

What would have been better:
married at 26 or 27 (we were engaged way too long)
1st LO at 28
2nd LO at 30
3rd LO at 32

Imagined:

Married at 24/25
Baby #1 at 27
Baby #2 at 29
Baby #3 at 31
Maybe more babies depending on different factors...

Actual:
Married at 21 (almost 22)
Baby #1 at 23
Baby #2 at 24
Baby #3 (hopefully) at 27ish
Baby #4 (hopefully) at 29ish