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I think probably ears only while they live at home. I'm not a fan of earrings on guys, so I think it would annoy me if my son wanted them but they close up, so whatever.
I think anything else, including tattoos, I would probably proactively talk to them about it and what it might mean for employment and regrets later on, etc. What will and wont close back up, what will leave scars, what the cost/pain is to remove a tattoo, what parts of the body might be better for those things than others. Even if I can't control what they do as adults, I can give them a little wisdom before they go run out and get a bunch of stuff done.
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I would like that they ask me while they are living in my house but they are probably going to hid it from me anyway. I had my ears pieced when I was young and got my nose pierced when I was in college. My sister got her belly button ring in college as well.
Tattoos... same policy. I got a tattoo when I was 21. I thought my mom and dad were going to freak when they saw it but they didn't.
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@.twist.: Totally with you on the "they'll do it anyway, just in secret." My parents were super strict about weird things like that, and I just did what I wanted. Like I had to dress really "modestly," so I took different clothes to school and changed. I wound up going through a super slutty looking phase that I cringe looking back on, because no one ever taught me how to dress sexy and tasteful instead of like a prostitute.
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For ears, it's until she asks and can sit through having them done by an actual piercer.
For everything else, once they can sign for it on their own (which is 16-18 here) and pay for it I'm fine with it.
Gaged ears are what DH can't stand though so I'm sure he would have something to say if that is brought up.
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Policy is ears only up to the teen years.
After that, it has to be tasteful and in moderation. 2 - 5 is acceptable.
I have nothing against septum, industrial piercings and the like. No genital, surface, corsets, or stretching types.
Tattoo policy is whatever the heck you want after they've reached adulthood.
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@Mrs. Jump Rope: I feel like it matters how well you heal generally too. My family all sort of sucks at healing. I had a c section where the scar opened and refused to heal. My mom had a c section where the scar opened and refused to heal. My brother had abdominal surgery where the scar opened and refused to heal. I had my nose pierced and it has been out for almost a year and you can still see the hole. I feel like DD is probably going to be a crappy healer like all of us, so she won't be so likely to bounce back from things like gauges. And she can see my scar if she d
oesn't believe me
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@Mae: fair enough! Genetics probably does play a huge role! Or, maybe I got super lucky!
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@hotchildinthecity: @.twist.: Exactly this! We are both pierced and heavily tattooed, so we'll be encouraging smart and safe decision making and focus on that.
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1) be of legal age (here it's 17)
2) funded by their own money
3) take care of it.Other than that, go nuts.
ETA obviously Im referring to going to a tattoo shop and getting it done. Not down for the self piercing business!
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I think it would really depend on the situation. My own mom took me to get my eyebrow pierced at 17.. I think she figured it was a safer form of rebellion than some of the alternatives
In my college years I got nipple piercings, a belly button piercing, and gauged ears. I have since taken all my piercings out - some due to rejections and others for professional reasons.
I also have 4 tattoos and I actually regret the piercings more than the tattoos. I still like my tattoos, but all the piercings did was leave me with scar tissue.
I would do as others have said and encourage thoughtful decision making regarding body modifications. I would use my experience as an example for my kids, just as I will with the subject of drug and alcohol experimentation.
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I don't think I have one. I mean, I might discourage painful/ dangerous or genitalia... other than that... not sure it is a problem.
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There's only so much you can discourage beyond age 18 though. If my parents only knew about some of the piercings I had...
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No policy.
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No policy. We will consider on a case by case basis. After 18, there's nothing we can do and I wouldn't try to exert power, control or coercion over them.
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Ears probably when she is old enough to ask and take care of them. I got mine when I was 5 and I understood I needed to keep them clean, with my mom's help of course. I probably won't mind if she gets her belly button or nose around age 16 or so. Nothing else though. I got my lip pierced when I was 18 and I regret it because now there is a small hole that never healed. My sister got her eyebrow and it left a scar because her body rejected it. Anything that will be pretty inconspicuous when it is taken out is fine with me. Unless its something sexual.
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@Arden: Said so perfectly!!
I want to encourage my children to make their own decisions (while giving them insight and guidance from my own personal experiences).
I had my belly button pierced, tattoos, my nose pierced, ears stretched (all before I was 20). I'm a contributing member of society, and I like to think I'm a pretty good person.
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I'm very open about tattoos and piercings as someone who has had my belly, nipples, ears, surface piercings, and ear gauges BUT I think for LO my policy would be to not really partake besides ear piercings only due because of keloids. I tried all of those piercings and the only ones my body kept were ear piercings, and I have a keloid from one of my gauges. Our skin just doesn't handle it as well--she needs to get it done at an early age and then not experiment basically what @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: said.
Tattoos she can have but the have to be able to be covered up. I have like 13 tattoos and work in a corporate setting. No neck or facial tattoos!
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I got my ears pierced when I was only a few months old. If and when I have a baby girl, I would probably pierce her ears at a young age.
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Ears and bellybutton for me (and no gauges). But I won't allow any facial piercings or tattoos while they're under my roof. Obviously after that I can't control anything.
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