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For me it's the lack of control. Hubby works out of town and while I am free this summer, there are still some obligations where I have to be in our 'home' town. I started this cycle 4 days early, which puts the prediction time of my O off and I think we might miss our chance. However, Hubby reminds me that we just need one time and who knows, my O could be off this month too. That's problem I have with it.

For me it's the lack of control. I'm healthy, too, so it's hard TTC for so long.

Also, it can be frustrating when hearing other people get pregnant before us. I'm really happy that they are pregnant but a part of me wishes it was me.

@FutureMrsMcK: I agree! There are also the people that are all, "I know when I ovulate and I'm confident we will time it correctly the first month." Then, they did and I just want to stomp my foot and say, "Grrrr." at them. Like you, I don't want anyone to have to experience infertility, but come on! Don't flaunt your 'ease to get pregnant'.

@Smurfette: Oooh, I add that to my list. The unknown of when it would finally happen.

Everything about TTC is frustrating, but I think the worst is waiting to O because you don't really know if you did or not and it really messes with your head.

For me it's having no idea what my body is doing. And it's really frustrating to hear "Oh you just stopped taking BC, your body is just regulating". I know that is what's going on, but it's annoying when people say it to me. It makes me feel like the disappointment and confusion I am faced with constantly doesn't matter.

@Beetones: Ha, yeah, I was brainwashed into thinking all I would need to do to get pregnant was quit BC and/or have sex ONE TIME without protection...

@Beetones: @FutureMrsMcK: Me too! You hear about all the one night stands that result in pregnancies, but with knowledge now, I'm like okay. How amazing was your timing sheesh!

Scrutinizing all the "symptoms"!!

"My stomach doesn't feel right, could it be NAUSEA?" or,

"I think I have heartburn" and then googling it to see if it's a symptom.

Sadly, I just ovulated 6 days ago, so I'm pretty sure all of these symptoms are in my head!!

During O time, I'm so excited and giddy, imagining all the possibilities of what could be (and of course having fun BD'ing).
During the TWW, I symptom spot like no tomorrow and browse all the pregnancy-related forums for signs.
and finally, when AF arrives, I hit a slump and feel depressed for a day or two. I console myself by thinking that at least AF showed up and I can start counting down the days 'til O again.
Sigh.
Just like clockwork..

Hands down the 2WW!

The TWW is definitely hard but for me, the worst part is when the blood test or pregnancy test comes back negative. It's just devastating and I never get use to the disappointment.

I can relate to so many of you!

I think the hardest thing was living my life in 2 week increments....The hopefulness in the first 2 weeks that once I O'd, then THIS would be the month! The the second 2 weeks, obsessing over everything (I never knew what Cervical Position was before I was married, for example, or that I would be obsessed with where it was on any given day). And then getting BFN. I couldn't understand for the life of me HOW THE SPERM DID NOT CONNECT WITH THE EGG???? WERE THE SPERM BLIND???

Actually my biggest concern was that my eggs were too thick to penetrate. Which is a REAL issue that some couples have had. I have read multiple blogs where a couple couldn't get pregnant, and ended up doing IVF, and they found out during all of the diagnostics that sperm just couldn't penetrate the thick eggs without help. So since all of our testing was normal and annoying healthy (I wanted there to be SOMETHING to blame/fix), I was convinced that my eggs were made of tire rubber or something.

And also, finding out that others were pregnant, especially if it was apparent that it had taken a very short time. It made me feel awful and broken and so mad at my body. One of DH's best friend's just broke the news to us last week that his wife is pregnant. They just got married in December and she told me she was stopping the pill in January. She is only 2 weeks behind me, so that means it took them all of 2 cycles to get knocked up. I was ecstatic that DH will have another Daddy to go through every stage of our children's lives with, but in the back of my mind, I thought about how much it would have HURT if we weren't pregnant, how bad those announcements used to wreck me.

One thing that I will say for anyone who is struggling with TTC...When you do get pregnant, you will be the most ecstatic and wonderful parent that you could ever be. There is not a second of the day that I am not grateful for this baby. I am SO excited and SO in love with her. I know that everyone is so excited and so in love with their unborn baby, of course. But I think it's different when you've had a bumpy road. I blog about my pregnancy, and I linked it on Facebook, and I got tons of messages and comments about how passionate I am about my daughter, and how moving it is to see that. So that may not be worth much, but just know that you are going to be a wonderful, passionate mother one day- and you will be made of a little more "special stuff" than you had if you hadn't had struggles.

Aaaannnd sorry for the novel:) Thinking about it drug up a lot of feelings:)

WAITING! Waiting to Ovulate, Waiting to POAS, Waiting for your period to start... I feel like my whole life now is me waiting.

@meaganceleste: so true!

I met with a client recently who was exactly as far along as I would have been if my chemical pregnancy had been a sticky baby. That was really hard

@redsmarties: I agree. This is the worst. Since going off the pill it's been 35, 46, 46, 58, 32-ish (cycle I got pregnant), and now 30, and who knows because I am on CD19 with no O. Ack.