The appropriate response isn't that you had such an easy pregnancy and loved it!
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@spaniellove: ugh. I don't think I could hide an eye roll if someone said that to me!
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I'm sorry.
I seriously thought this was going to be about a "just you wait" comment.
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@spaniellove: hugs! I'm sorry.
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Yeah, people love to do that. I'm sorry you're having to put up with it.
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Or that you're being lazy.
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@googly-eyes: There are those too. And "get your rest/relaxation in now".
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@spaniellove: ugh I'm sorry
and sadly it continues through parenthood. E doesn't sleep well but everyone makes sure they let me know their kid slept through the night by now. Hang in there!
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Ugh... annoying.
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Just say, "well bless your heart, aren't you a lucky special person" and give them The Look
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Rude!
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@spaniellove: my friend did that all the time when I was in the midst of the scary part of things. Drove me crazy.
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Ugh, people are the WORST!
This goes both ways. If you are a first time pregnant mom and say you are feeling great, the appropriate response is not "just wait until blah-blah-blah"!
DH has a relative that had difficult/uncomfortable pregnancies and took every opportunity to tell me how awful it was going to get while I was KU. She also struggled with BFing and has taken a similar approach - last comment was "let's see if you want to keep BFing once she has teeth".
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@spaniellove: urgh I've been getting this too.. so frustrating! I'll sometimes get the "well bed rest is making you a stronger person for when the baby comes" .. umm, you try lying in bed from Feb to July and tell me how strong it makes you! urgh!!
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@littleredhairedgrl: It is getting so hard to not want to overcome the pain I'm in to punch the relative who keeps comparing her totally normal pregnancy to mine. Telling me I'll deliver at exactly the week she did, her baby was huge so mine will be too (have had growth issues all along and I think he's falling behind again), etc.
(PS, I think about you a lot!!)
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@spaniellove: double urgh! some people just need to keep their mouths shut!
I think about you too! hope you're doing well!! I will be 28 weeks this Thursday and, while I'm going nuts now that the weather is getting nice and I'm still inside, I can't believe we've gotten this far. Just hoping for at least June
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@littleredhairedgrl: 28 weeks! You've done an amazing job keeping her in there!
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@spaniellove: I haven't had the easiest pregnancy but nothing compared to yours. When I have told people about the bed rest I was on and all the bleeding, they either talk about how normal their pregnancy was or they talk about how their normal pregnancy symptoms were so bad. I get that pregnancy isn't easy for most people and nausea etc is pretty damned awful (I HATE vomiting), but I would take nausea and vomiting over fearing I'll lose my baby any day. People like to trump tragedies when they should really just shut up.
Maybe you can tell your relative to STFU and blame it on the pregnancy hormones... but that you really mean it. Is it the SIL?
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@Mrs.Panda: Nausea and vomiting really take away your ability to enjoy life! I'm so sorry you're going through that! And yes, you guessed correctly.
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@spaniellove: Oh I definitely agree N/V sucks so bad. But again, I'd rather take that than the bleeding I was having. I have to say a miracle happened and I've been spot free for almost 2 weeks so I should just shut up and enjoy the back and belly pain
Sorry she is being a butthole. Maybe next time she says something like that just say "You know that is really not helpful to compare the two. They are obviously very different, as you have pointed out several times."
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Hi, did you meet my MIL? Because did you know she never gained more than 24 pounds during any of her four pregnancies? And that she loved being pregnant? Every minute of it? And how she loved feeling like she always had someone with her? And how well behaved her older children were during her doctor's appointments? And how she only had back labor once? And how her other kids just sat around her feet listening to her read books while she nursed the newborn?
GAH.
And then on the other spectrum, my mom is always going "ugh isn't terrible to have a little alien leaching away at your body?"
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