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@JoJoGirl: Oh ok. That is so weird they didn't seem more concerned til you are 35? That is crazy! I was 23 when they started me on clomid. This is only my 3rd month!
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I went to my OB/GYN for my annual and told her we were trying for 5 months. She remembered that my DH has some health issues and I was healthy so she said she would recommend me go see a fertility clinic.
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@JoJogirl: I just learned that my insurance will only cover fertility treatments if I go through an approved fertility clinic. Luckily the place I made our initial consultation with is on the approved list. Now I have to decide if I should just take a month to get my head clear for the next steps - or if I should try to pay out of pocket to begin some of the tests and have answers sooner.
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@sweetooth: I say make an appointment sooner rather than later, like Monday. I saw a friend this week who spent 3 YEARS ttc - including 6 round of clomid, 6 cycles of IUI, all after a year of trying with monitors and whatnot. She got pregnant with twins during her first cycle of IVF and they will be 2 next month. She is still so angry at herself for not being more aggressive from the beginning and was trying to convince me to do the same. This is "only" cycle 6 for us so I was pretty overwhelmed by what she was recommending, but I see her point about not waiting and waiting just because interventions seem scary. So do what you need to do - it's not a failure or a weakness to seek help, as someone else said, just focus on the goal and do what you need to do to get there. Hugs.
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@jojogirl thanks for asking these questions. This is month 5 for us. My husband is much older than me, 51 so while I think my cycles are good I wonder if he might be the reason why we haven't conceived. We agreed to do 6 months of trying before intervention so after that we will go see an RE. I'm already mentally prepared for IUI or IVF but I think if he had no other infertility factors I wouldn't feel that way. Best of luck in determining what's right for you!
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@jojogirl, I've been thinking about what you wrote. It has been overwhelming reaching the stage of having these hard conversations about how far we want to go into medical intervention in order to become parents. I think these conversations with your husband are hard to process because really, when you get married and decide together that you want kids, you never think that you'll have to discuss how to reach that goal with more than just the two of you.
I think I'll continue to make calls and try to schedule the SA and the HSG test prior to my RE appointment at the end of September. Focusing on the goal is good advice. So is considering how I might feel looking back on this whole situation. No regrets.
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I made the calls today, and was told the best thing to do is wait until I have my initial appointment with the fertility doctor in order to have my tests covered by insurance. Ugh. All I can do is focus on gathering my paperwork, medical records, and distract myself with house stuff and social activities to forget the fact that I'm out another month. AF arrived this week so I was hopeful I could schedule my HSG. I guess this is a sign, since I was already considering taking a month off and getting my head in the right place for the next steps. Still bums me out.
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@sweetooth: Oh dear. Well, you MADE the call and did something proactive, which is the first step! Sounds smart to get your ducks in a row, then find any project you can to distract yourself while you wait for your appt. When is it?
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I'm commenting without reading the thread, sorry. Check your insurance for yourself - it's unlikely that your doctor will know. Mine didn't cover anything ever whereas the other insurance my company offers covered everything up to (not including IVF). It didn't have a specific time limit. But they say if you are over 35 to only wait 6 months.
It takes awhile to get the initial testing done anyway and it's relatively cheap compared to the interventions, so I say go for it.
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@JoJoGirl: MY RE appointment is 9/27. Sigh. I'm loading up my google calendar with other to-dos to distract my brain. I don't want to wish away the days of my life just to get to that appointment. But hopefully if I have a fun September, time will fly.
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@Mrs Green Grass: That 35/6 months thing was the problem.. I'm 34/6 months and luckily insurance said I should go for it anyway. I'll call at the end of this cycle if we have no luck.
@sweetooth: That's not so far away!! Set yourself some other goals to accomplish before then, maybe fitness, meditation, cooking?
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@JoJoGirl: I'm trying to get back into cooking more regularly, and go for daily walks. I think the biggest bummer for me is I made this appointment at the start of my last cycle, and here I am at the start of another cycle. And by the time I have the RE appointment it will be the beginning of another...and I just feel like the months keep ticking away and I keep getting my period. I also anticipate those tests that require scheduling on specific days not being able to happen next month due to the timing of my cycle and the appointment so I will lose yet ANOTHER month.
It's just hard when you know it's not just you and your husband in the TTC process and getting the other "players" involved takes so much time and coordination.
Enough whining
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@sweetooth: It's hard. Maybe give yourself a break and step away until your appointment? I know that's why you started that other thread but it might help to quit the charting, OPKs etc til then.
Thanks for listening 
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