And do you get upset if they don't respond the way you expect them to?
You might also enjoy...
-
My gut reaction is that I want them to agree with me....however..... I know I can be stubborn and after the fact appreciate their point of view on the matter!
-
I don't see the point of complaining to someone if I don't expect help. I don't know if I expect their point of view as much as I hope they'll give me some good advice.
-
If it's just casual venting to friends, I would just expect us to all sympathize and offer some neutral advice. But if it's between super close friends, I would expect we both listen to each other but be honest and yell at one another if we're being stupid!
-
I have gotten in shit for this from friends before. Like end our relationship hate on. If you ask me a question, or for advice, I'm going to answer honestly. I try to word everything I say carefully so I don't come across really uncaring or rude, but it hasn't seemed to matter. In fact, one of my no-longer-friends told me that sometimes people don't want to hear the god-awful truth, they just want support.....
-
I will vent, but if I want feedback I want it to be honest, and that's what I provide. My friends know i'm brutally (but kindly) honest, I'm the one to go to for honesty.
-
I would want their honest feedback, whether they agree with me or not... but approach matters - someone can disagree, but still be sensitive and caring.
-
It depends! Sometimes when I vent/complain, I just want sympathy or agreement! Sometimes you're just mad and need to get your emotions out and you don't need or even WANT advice on a situation - just a sympathetic ear! But other times, I'll want feedback. But I'm explicit and will ASK for advice - so in those cases, definitely give me advice! But if I'm just bitching about so-and-so and don't ask your opinion, just agree with me.
ETA: I especially appreciate sympathy and agreement in situations where there's nothing that can be done. Like someone bumped into me at the store and I dropped my coffee and I'm just complaining about what a total a-hole that person was! There's nothing that really can be DONE about it - I'm just complaining and want someone to agree with me!
-
@Mrs. High Heels: Same!
And sometimes I feel better after venting and sometimes I feel worse!
-
To listen and tell me what they think.
-
@autumnlove: agree! actually, sometimes venting drains me and i don't even bother. it actually tires me out to rehash a negative event.
-
Mostly I just want someone to say "man that sucks." It sort of annoys me when I'm venting to someone and they are offering solutions to the problem (unless I ask). Like this is not meant to be a brainstorming session. I just need to bitch for 5 minutes.
-
@Mae: YES! I agree!!
Reply
Subscribe to our newsletter
- Google Plus
- Stumbleupon
- Twitter
- Facebook
- Pinterest
- Favorite0
12 comments