Do you take sides? I'm always neutral and I don't like getting involved. My friend is upset because I am not "boycotting" our other friend's daughter's party this weekend.
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I think I'm generally pretty honest regardless of a situation. If I think one friend did something shitty to another friend I would tell them both that is my opinion. However I wouldn't like… punish the friend for her actions. But I don't ever really do that. If you piss me off I'm likely to tell you I think x sucked. But then we can just move on. I wouldn't get caught up in boycotting anything.
Also if I could see both sides of the situation and thought neither was really wrong I would just tell them I see both sides and I'm not getting involved.
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Usually not, but maybe if one person did an awful thing or something!
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@autumnlove: I'm Switzerland! Stay away from the drama! lol!
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we generally stay neutral! there was a big schism in our group of friends a couple years ago and dh and I have just stayed friends with everyone involved separately
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I will stay out of it if possible, although if one of my friends did something shitty to another friend I would probably admit that it was shitty. But I wouldn't boycott.
I was just in this situation with two of my friends. One of my friends did something really shitty to me. Our mutual friend was trying really hard to stay out of it. But she still wanted to be there for us. I think you can be honest about a situation without bashing your mutual friend. Ya know? Our mutual friend eventually agreed that my friends actions were unkind, but left it at that. They are still friends but it was nice to know I wasn't crazy.
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at my age? my friends have the respect to leave me out of it. thankfully. so much so that even when their friendship has gone kaput, they don't put me in the middle. sad that they're not friends anymore, but happy that i'm not kept in the middle.
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@prettylizy: my friend who is upset is such a B to the other friend....bashes her parenting choices all the time to her face. Everyone tells her to chill!
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I'm sorry your friend wants you to "boycott" and CHILD'S birthday party?! I would lose a lot of respect for somone who wanted me to do that. Children shouldn't suffer because adults can't act like adults.
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@autumnlove: dang.... someone needs to take a yoga class and mellow out
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@MamaMoose: Ya! Eyeroll!
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The only time I picked sides is when one of my bridesmaids left her husband (who was also a friend of ours). DH and I sided with the husband and my friendship with the girl ended immediately (she actually ended our friendship before I found out she had left her husband).
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I try not to, but I have. I was dumped my a very close, longtime friend (20-year-friendship) because she felt like I was defending my other friends and not supporting her in this particular situation. But she was saying some things that I know weren't true so I spoke up. And I got dumped via form e-mail. WTF?
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