My mom and brother are going to wait in the waiting room and I'm guessing my inlaws will show up after the baby is born. DH is really the only one I want in the room with me.
Who visited you? When did they visit?
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I insisted that DH was the only one in the room while I was laboring. Me running around stark naked in natural labor for hours wasn't something I wanted everyone seeing.
MIL and her wife were waiting in the waiting room, but I didn't know. My mom and dad showed up 5 hours after DD was born straight from the their flight across the country (!) and then we had people randomly show up! I couldn't believe it! There was one woman who was family friends with DH but I had never even met her before (we declined her visit) and MIL's best gay couple friends showed up unannounced and it was super awkward.
NO ONE is waiting around this time and I want DD to be the first person to meet LO #2.
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LO 1- MIL, FIL, SIL & BIL all stopped by while we were waiting for the cervidil to kick in.
After the baby was born... MIL, FIL, SIL & BIL, BIL & SO and 2 friends!
LO 2-I had a scheduled c-section so we didn't have visitors until after she was born. MIL, LO, SIL & BIL and two friends stopped by.
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Well, D, my mom, MIL and FIL were all in the delivery room with me. Most of the rest of our friends and family live hours away, so the only other ones to visit were my SIL, her two girls, and her boyfriend.
The rest of our friends/family came and visited us at home after we'd had a few weeks to settle in.
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DH was the only one in the room with me. For #1 I had both sets of parents and some other family in the waiting room, then family and friends came later.
For #2 we were going to have my parents come in the waiting room and DH's parents watch LO.... but it happened so fast that nobody was there yet. My mom made it after we moved rooms, but right after she held the baby she was sent to the nicu. Since she was in the nicu we didn't want many people there, just close family.
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No one! We went home 2 hours after M was born
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Just my husband. We don't live near family, but I was more than ok with nobody visiting us. We were so tired and overwhelmed between getting to know our new daughter, having nurses and dr.s come in to check us both, trying to cat nap while she slept etc, that we had no desire to entertain or show her off yet. Even if we live near family for the next one, I'm going to request that nobody visit us, or if they do, wait until the second day at least.
But, I have friends who loved having their family there, so maybe thats just us!
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With DS I felt like my room had a revolving door with my ex's family coming on and out during labor. I hated it!
With S I headed to the birth center with just DH totally expecting it to be us only. Once we transferred, my mom and my mil came (my dad stayed at home to watch ds).
This time around no one but me and DH will be around me until after the baby is around. MIL and my mom will probably wait in the waitingroom with DS and then I plan for them to come Iin after we have a bit of time alone with LO. My dad will depend on whether he's out of town for work or not. Not sure if FIL will visit while we're in the hospital.
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My mom was there for the labor and delivery (c section) and then dh's family came over the next couple of days. I did NOT want visitors though.
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Everyone and their mother.
I didn't mind guests, but the showing up & camping out bugged me. My second night there, DH had run home to shower & I was finally alone and slept. My cousin (who I'm not close to) showed up with a few of his college friends (who I'd never met) and it was awkward city. Nice to meet you, don't mind my catheter.
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Mil came that day, SIL came that evening and brought us dinner. DH's grandparents and uncle and a friend came the next day
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Only Dh was there for labor and delivery. My parents came up that afternoon (live five hours away and headed here a few hours after she was born). Bil who is local came the first evening. That's it and it's really all I wanted. I did NOT want anyone in the waiting room.
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My husband was the only person in the room, but my mom, SIL & BIL, MIL, FIL & step-MIL, and a friend were in the waiting room. Four other friends stopped by later that day as well as my husband's aunt and uncle. It was quite the party.
Next time I'm going to keep visitors to a minimum. I was exhausted.
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We told my parents and in laws they could come that night (so I had the c section at 2, was in recovery until 4 and we had them come around 6). That gave us time to bond and bf, and we insisted that the visit be short. The next few days we each had a few friends visit as well as our siblings. But I was in the hospital for longer because of the c section. We asked the rest of our friends and extended families to wait until we got home since I was recovering
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My mom and sister came the day the baby was born. DH's parents, sister and niece came the next day. Two sets of aunts and uncles visited on the 3rd day.
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I haven't given birth yet but my plan is to have as few people as possible there. I have put my foot down about my inlaws not coming (if they were local I would let them, but they are not and I don't want any house guests when we get out of the hospital). And I'm going to ask our friends to wait until we get home to stop by. The only people that should be there, hopefully, will be DH and my parents.
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My mom and dad came up while I was in labor. DH and my mom were in the room for the birth. After M was born my parents, a family friend, @leialou & her DH were the only visitors we had (my ILs live out of state). It was nice to only have a handful of visitors. I was BFing and doing skin to skin as much as possible and that would've been awkward with lots of people in and out.
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I had a scheduled c section. Everyone stopped by - parents, in laws, cousins, coworkers, friends, SIL and BIL. I didn't mind. I was glad to know so many people were excited to meet our son.
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My SO and sis were in the delivery room when I had my LO. Then my parents came in. And then my parents in law, SIL and best friend came in. I am talking like 45 mins after delivery. Too soon! Not my idea, but people were too excited. And once one person was invited, they thought they could all come. I will do it differently next time!
Afterwards my grandparents visited. And four more friends! I am hoping to keep visitors to a minimum next time!
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Both sets of grandparents, my sister, then like 5 or 6 friends.
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DH was with me while I labored and delivered. My sisters dropped in while I labored and so did my parents and ILs for a bit.
Here's the short list of who visited THE DAY R was born: my parents, my sisters, MIL & FIL, one of my BILs and my SIL, three uncles, a cousin, and four aunts. Some of those people really overstayed their welcome. That will not be happening next time.
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It was just me and my husband during L&D. My parents, sister, and two friends came the day she was born, and my BFF came the next day.
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I haven't given birth yet but when I had a scare the other day I had 100 people wanting to come up to the hospital! I flat out said NO! I wasn't even sure if I was going to be there more than a few hours and I was almost certain I was not going to have a baby that night. I was right.
My Mamaw was about to assert herself and come up anyway when DH dropped our dog off at her house until he set her straight and said we didn't want visitors yet. I don't want anyone in the room while I'm laboring except for DH.
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Our immediate families only. We did not allow a lot of visitors.
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This was one of my biggest stressors during pregnancy. Turns out it was fine as I went into labour unexpectedly and it was super quick. Most of our family was out of town that day which was kind of nice. ( I wish my mom had been there though.) So, it was just myself and my DH for the delivery and a few hours after. My sisters both came up around dinner time and DH ran out and got food and such while my sisters were with me. My mom drove home from the coast ( about 4 hours ) as soon as she could and got there just after dinner. Then my dad and his gf came up. DH's dad and brothers came the next morning as well as my mom and sisters again. Thank goodness, DH's mom and SFIL were out of town and couldn't make it home until late the day after so they came once we were home. My grandparents also stopped by the hospital quickly. I was fine with my direct family being there but we didn't want a bunch of people stopping in. ( Mostly Dh's family haha)
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I just have to add that having so many people visit made me feel like I was entertaining them. I ended up standing most of the day R was born and my legs and feet ended up so swollen (from all of my IV fluids) it took two weeks for them to go back to normal.
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with #1 I told everyone that I didn't want anyone waiting in the waiting room because I was induced and knew that it could take forever! of course my IL's didn't listen and they were there. no one but DH was in the room with me. after he was born, my MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, mom, brother visited. the following days my brother, dad, step-mom and a friend visited.
with #2 I had a scheduled C-section and was adamant that DS was to see the baby first before anyone else. my mom brought him afterwards. then my mom, MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, brothers, dad, step-mom and a couple friends visited.
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DD was born in the morning so my parents visited that night and my close friends visited the next day.
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DH and my mom were in the room for L&D. My Dad, my MIL and my sister (and maybe her boyfriend?) visited that night. My BIL and SIL and my brother came the next day and my aunts and uncles (two different couples) came the day after that. It sounds like a lot when I write it all down but we were in the hospital for a few extra days and the visits were nice and spread out. I also felt less pressure to have people in our house the first week or so because everyone had seen M at the hospital.
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My mom and MIL were with us during labour until I started pushing then they waited in the waiting room. They came in after LO arrived for a short visit as it was 4 am. The next day my mom and MIL came back, my SIL came on her lunch break cause she works at the hospital and my other SIL came with her family. I wasn't overwhelmed and it was only immediate family that visited.
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My parents, in-laws, bil, best friend, some friends and coworkers. My sisters facetimed later that day. They came to visit that weekend.
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Also haven't given birth yet but the plan is only DH in the room for labor and delivery. After baby comes, we are only allowing immediate family and select friends to come to the hospital. Everyone else can visit us at home.
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I didn't want anyone there except DH and my doula while I was laboring. We didn't call either set of parents until I was pushing, and they came to visit around noon. Baby was born at 5 am that morning, so we had a few hours together. We didn't invite any other friends or family, and were listed as non-published patients at the hospital so no one random could just show up. I would do it the exact same way for #2.
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I did not want anyone in the waiting room while I labored. My parents live 8 hours away so I called them when I went to the hospital. I figured after packing they would arrive after the baby was born. Turned out I still had 20+ hours of labor to go. I refused to see them for hours but eventually let them in for 5min. It actually really bothered me that they were in the waiting room. I felt a ton of pressure by their presence. My doula eventually got them to leave and I delivered within the hour.
I was happy to see my parents once LO was born. They did lots of food runs for us. We didn't let anyone else visit in the hospital. My labor was days long so DH and I were exhausted. Plus, we were in a double room. We didn't have a roommate but all the rooms were occupied so we knew we could get one at any time. We used that as our excuse for no visitors. Not putting anything on FB helped.
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I had 9 people in the waiting room. They all came in to meet the baby right after I delivered. 3 additional people visited a few hours later. I loved it!
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Reading all this is making me dizzy. I wouldn't want to see a single person until we get home.
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Only my parents and brother came by the next day. We Skyped with my SIL and BIL and IL's. Nobody else was invited- I really and truly wanted to be left alone.
Depending on how I'm feeling I may invite one or two friends to come by, but it really just depends how it goes.
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No one in the waiting room or before DS was born. He was born late at night so only MIL came that night. She managed to show up just before visiting hours were over because she was at our house and we lived across the street from the hospital.
The next morning she came back before work as well as FIL and SIL. Later DH's cousin came and a close friend of mine.
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My Dad came the day after a gave birth. My Mum was ill so didn't come. I'm glad no one insisted on coming the first day, it was nice to bond just the three of us
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