So I've posted before (http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mother-being-judgmental-about-midwife) about how my mother comes from a very medicalized background and is very anti-midwife. She won't listen to reason or even scientific literature about it, she hasn't done anything to educate herself about it, she just keeps asking me when I'm going to see a doctor.

Anyhow, sometimes I tell her stuff expecting her to see the reason in it and she just can't and then I wonder why I even told her in the first place. I should have learned by now to just keep my mouth shut!

Today's incident came when I talked to her after my 40 week midwife appointment at which we discussed postdates management. I told her that I'll be booked for a BPP at 41+3 (hopefully baby comes before then and this is all moot) and that it will be overseen by an OB.

My midwife told me that some of the OBs are totally awesome, but that some like to employ scare tactics and try to insist on induction regardless of the BPP results (because where I live, for those in OB care, 41+3 is the standard induction timeline, despite the fact that the body that oversees OBs in my province say that low-risk women should go to 42 weeks before induction). Of course, in some cases, induction is indicated, but not all. My midwife's advice was that if they start with the scary language I should page her and she'll come right over and discuss the numbers and options with the OB and me without bias.

My mother's response to this very reasonable suggestion? "No way. That's the point at which you stop listening to your midwife and do whatever the OB says."

ARGH! I should have learned not to tell her these things! From now on, I'm just going to tell her what she wants to hear and do what I, and my medical providers, think is best.