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TTC is definitely an emotional journey. When we were TTC we always made plans for just in case we got a BFN. So while it was still depressing we always had something to look forward to that we wouldn't be able to do if I were pregnant. During the time we were TTC we ended up doing a mud run marathon, went wine tasting, Vegas, and white water rafting.

Goodluck! I hope u get ur BFP soon!

I have a guy friend , i am friends with his wife too, they have been trying to have a baby for atleast 3.5 years now... Its very discouraging to hear them talk about their journey and struggle. It sometimes makes me question the whole "order" of life. I actually felt guilty when I got pregnant so easily and they have been trying to hard for so long. its just one of those things that comes to different people at different times.

It's hard because you spend so much of your life ensuring that you don't get knocked up. So when you're finally there and ready for it, you expect it to happen quickly. And when it doesn't, it really is disconcerting. Especially because we have so little control over it. My mantra became "be proactive, but don't obsess." It helped sometimes.

It is an unbelievable emotional kick in the pants. The highs of hope each month is such a rush, and the let-down is so disappointing. UGH!

It's hard because you want it so bad. It's also not as easy as picking out a ring, a venue, etc. Planning a wedding was way easier than planning a life and TTC.

With TTC, you're at the mercy of statistics, your body, his body, and everything else. It's tough when AF arrives and makes you feel like a failure when in fact, you're completely normal. For some couples, they can get pregnant easily. For others, it takes some time. Seeing all of those BFPs on this board and the other board can hurt too even if you don't know them in person because it's what you want and dream about. It's difficult when you see others with beautiful bouncing babies when you want it so bad. If it was easy, they wouldn't call it "Trying to Conceive."

We've been trying for eight months now (I'm in the TWW of cycle nine) but I have to say watching one of my best girlfriends going through IVF has been a sobering and grounding experience.

Although I'm frustrated that we're not pregnant yet I know that it could be much, much worse (we have no known fertility issues) and I also know that even if we have fertility issues there is light at the end of the tunnel as my friend is 18 weeks pregnant with her IVF baby!!

It's funny though because when we started out I would plan ahead in case we got pregnant (what about Christmas? what about a dress for that wedding in nine months?) whereas now I try not to think about it and just get on with life.

It really is a kick in the guts.