DD2 arrived mid-December. DH took 8 weeks parental leave after (he only had one week vacation with DD1). He’s been back for one month. He typically leaves at 7:10am (we all leave together when I’m working) and gets home at 7:45pm. His commute is roughly 1:15-1:30 each way on public transit. When he works from their HQ, it’s only about 45 minutes maybe.

Here’s my “problem.” The balance. He’s been trying to work from HQ more which is great. But he doesn’t leave at his same time, which would mean an earlier train home. He basically works longer and takes the normal train. This week he’s come home late 4 nights in a row now. I’m not yet back at work but I’m doing solo bedtime with 3.5 year old and 3 month old when he’s late. He might be home to see 3.5 year old but not baby. I don’t know how to bring this up or if I should at all. I know he’s not choosing to necessarily work late. But I feel like he needs to set some sort of boundary some nights - a hard stop, if you will - unless there’s some crucial deadline. Even when I’m back at work, I’m solo for daycare pickup, dinner, bath nights, etc. But the solo bedtimes and him not seeing the girls sucks.

Should I address it? How to do so delicately? I know he doesn’t love his job so I don’t want to add additional stress to his plate (work to live, not live to work...).