If someone wanted to borrow from you and use the exact same decorations, centerpieces and and exact same colors you used for your event ( wedding or formal dinner party) and you are both within the same circle of friends. And the same venue too.
Dont get me wrong this is a good friend of mine so I'm glad to help and lend out anything need but I just think its odd that they want to use EVERYTHING exactly the way I did.
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pomegranate / 3160 posts
I voted other. I mean, yes, I would be flattered, but I don't think I would actually give/lend them my stuff. If it was just one piece of what I did (like, "Oh, can I borrow your set of milk glass vases?"), sure, no problem, but if it was evvvvverything, nope. Not happening. Hahaha, I'm also not a very nice person though... 
coconut / 8854 posts
I picked no. I just think that's weird! I wouldn't want a friend in the same circle as me using all of the exact same wedding decor that I did!
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
I would be flattered, but also think the other person is just lazy and/or cheap and want to use all your stuff to save money/time, which would annoy me!
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
I would be flattered but at the same time wouldn't let them borrow everything. Some things yes, but copying everything about my wedding, heck no.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
I don't think flattered is the word, so I voted other. I would lend what I could, even though we gave lots of stuff away, but I think it's strange to not at least try to make it your own even if you are on a budget!
GOLD / pineapple / 12662 posts
I voted other. Flattering? I can see that. Creepy? I see that, too.
wonderful grape / 20453 posts
I wouldn't even care. I got married 3+ years ago. Plus i used basic candles+flowers+glassware. Nothing special. Hell, I TRIED to pawn off all my wedding decor after the wedding, to anyone and everyone who would take it!
admin / watermelon / 14210 posts
i wouldn't care about something like that, but it would depend on the relationship too. maybe the friend just doesn't care either and doesn't want to spend time organizing all of that.
squash / 13199 posts
Yeah I do think they just want to benefit from my hard work of assembling everything together. And they just want to use things I have so they dont have to put much thought or effort in.
I was happy to help at first because I thought they just wanted inspiration but nope they actually want to use my exact stuff and are almost angry that I dont have everything
cantaloupe / 6751 posts
I guess imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but IDK... it's kinda creepy.
honeydew / 7444 posts
@Mrsbells: it seems like they just want to save money if they are upset you dont have everything. I dont think i would care, but would be a little bit annoyed.
grapefruit / 4669 posts
Other--I think I'd be annoyed! If I work hard to make something unique, I don't want another person doing the exact same thing. I wouldn't mind lending out some elements, but I think it's weird to want to have the exact same event.
cherry / 176 posts
I come from a small town where there's only a few venues anyway, so I wouldn't be surprised if some of my friends using the same venue as us. Our colors were pretty basic summery, so that wouldn't be a surprise either. And I'd be happy to let them use all the vases, etc. because I just want them gone! I wouldn't worry about them copying me. I guess I don't really care about that kind of thing. My wedding was 2.5 years ago, so I'm kind of over it.
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
Other- yes, great you really enjoyed my event, but no way am I facilitating your Miss-Me-Too behavior.
cantaloupe / 6800 posts
No, a friend of DH's got engaged and brought his fiance to our wedding. Then she started sending me pictures of her wedding decor, and it was the exact same.. like EXACT same.
Luckily she changed themes, but I was not flattered at all, I was really annoyed. It took me a lot of time to put all of our stuff together.
squash / 13199 posts
Also part of what bothers me is that I think the rest of our friends will just assume that all the decorations are part of that venue, rather than my handiwork.
pomelo / 5331 posts
I'd be annoyed. My first instinct would be that they don't want the stuff because I did such a great job, but because they're lazy and cheap. It would bother me even more that it's a close friend because there would probably be guest list overlap. I also DIY'ed most of our decor, so I would be very protective of letting somebody use all of it, because I put a lot of time and work into it.
pomegranate / 3032 posts
I would be flattered because they obviously like my taste and and assume that maybe they couldnt diy, or put things together as well as i did. I think i would probably let them borrow some things but i would also help them find their own style or maybe help them with DIY projects to make it their own
pomegranate / 3716 posts
I would be flattered at first, but then annoyed. I worked hard on my wedding!!
pear / 1965 posts
I voted yes, but I do think its weird too. I mean thats awesome that this person loved my choices that much to want EVERYTHING....but on the same hand...put a little of your own image into decorating and make it "YOURS". I can understand if its to save money...but I dont know...still....
pea / 18 posts
@Adira: & @Grace: same thought here... I might consider offering to sell it to them so I got something for my effort though
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@meggrune: @Grace: Oh, that's a good idea to offer to sell her the stuff, especially if you don't want it all back. Point out how much time and effort and MONEY went into all those pieces to remind her your efforts are worth something!
squash / 13199 posts
Yeah she doesnt want to pay for anything. thats part of it. she just assumes that since I'm not using it she can use it all for free
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