I would leave it up to them, but I wouldn't mind! I didn't want anyone but Mr. Bee in the room, so I would respect their wishes.
I would leave it up to them, but I wouldn't mind! I didn't want anyone but Mr. Bee in the room, so I would respect their wishes.
pomelo / 5178 posts
No. When our kids were born, it was such a private moment between DH and I, and I'd like my kids to have the same experience. Unloess they really begged me to be in the delivery room, I'd prefer to visit the day after.
GOLD / wonderful olive / 19030 posts
I would leave it up to them. I alraedy told my DH that my mom is on call in case in case he gets weazy (weak stomach) and he's okay with it. Although, I love my MIL I woudln't be as comfortable with her in the room and know I would be okay with my mom in the room.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
Mom and DH the first time. Would love my mom to be here again, but it'll just be DH!
coconut / 8854 posts
I think that if she would really want and need my support I would be there in a heartbeat....but I plan on it being just DH and I like @Honeybee: said. I kind of hope deep inside that she would follow that also.
I've already been to my friend's birth and it was such an amazing experience. But to be honest it felt like she almost seemed the need to still "entertain" me. And she kept appologizing for everything. I wouldn't want to be in the position. I know that if just DH are there I will be 100% comfortable, rather than if anyone else was there with me.
coconut / 8305 posts
I wouldn't think so for DS, BUT for DD I hope that our relationship is like my and my mom's in that she'd want to have me there for encouragement without taking the focus from her like I wanted/had my mom. (Going unmedicated meant I wanted/needed all the cheering I could get from those I trusted)
Either way I'd definitely respect their decision!
pomelo / 5321 posts
I wouldn't unless my daughter or daughter-in-law wanted me to be there. I only wanted DH there when I was in labor and I would want to impose on such a special time!
GOLD / eggplant / 11517 posts
If she asks, sure. But if she's anything like me, she'll want no one there at all except DH.
hostess / wonderful honeydew / 32460 posts
omg I totally read the question incorrectly. HAHAHA
tired! yes, would want to be there for her!
pomegranate / 3729 posts
I would love to be there on some level, at least for her first. I would want to be like my mom was. I felt like she was knowledgable in the type of birth I wanted since she had 4 unmedicated, with 3 at home. She let DH be the main support, but was able to get a few pictures with her iphone of our first time seeing our daughter. For that alone I was thriilled she was there. I think birth is beautiful and would love to experience the birth of my grandchild someday.
coconut / 8681 posts
I would love to if she wanted me to be there (if we eventually have a daughter). I definitely wouldn't push it on her or a future daughter in law. I'd like to be supporting them in some way though...even just by being there waiting in the lobby.
GOLD / wonderful pomegranate / 28905 posts
I think I'm with you @Honeybee:
Unless she really wanted me there I think it's a beautiful moment reserved for the new family nucleus.
But I would def want to be at the hospital!
grapefruit / 4823 posts
If I had a daughter I would leave it up to her. I wanted it to be just DH and I, so I would respect wishes if she didn't, just like my mom did with me(she didn't have anyone but my dad in the room with hers as well)
persimmon / 1453 posts
If a daughter or daughter-in-law asked me, I'd be happy to. I'd love to support them and help them have a normal, natural, empowering birth.
GOLD / wonderful pea / 17697 posts
If she wanted me there, sure, but I wouldn't ask/assume/insist on it.
persimmon / 1329 posts
If I had a little girl, I'd like to be there. If it were my son, I'd want to respect his wife's wishes.
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