So today we decided to withdrawal our DD from the current summer camp/daycare she is in.

She attended this same place for preschool and was in a classroom with teacher and teacher aids throughout last school year. We had a great experience and DD loved it and the teacher. We had no real issues....

We decided to keep her on at the same place for "summer camp". Since she will be starting kinder in fall they moved her into the "school age" group. This is 5-12 yo. From the start DD did not enjoy this. There is less direction and more free time and DD is intimidated by the older kids (she's the oldest in our family and hasn't really had to interact with 10, 11 or 12 yo's on her own).

She started feeling left out and once mentioned that a few of the older kids called her names (week 4). I mentioned this to the director and she said she would have a talk with the kids (I admit I did not follow up to see if this was done or not).

Week 5 she was paired with an older kids to go on a field trip and she told me the older girl was mean... I tried to talk her through it and didn't mention anything to the director.. but that Friday, the day after the field trip one of the asst's in the camp pulled me aside to say that DD was not acting her self and they could tell she was not having fun.. to which I explained she was having a harder time with the older kids and that maybe just them being aware of it would help.

Week 6 went ok, no issues to note, week 7 DD came home and informed me that the middle finger was bad. I asked her how she knew that and she proceeded to tell me that the older boys were doing it and showed her and told her to do it to the teachers and that they might lose their pool privileges.... DD had no idea what the middle finger meant and never once before has used it or even seen or asked about it. My concern is why are the teachers not aware of this? Where are they while my DD is being taught this? I emailed the director and she in turn responded that they have had multiple complaints about the older kids using vulgar words and gestures and that I wasn't the first to complain and that they were documenting the issues and "working"with the parents to try to remedy the issue. Ok, all of that is fine BUT it is TOO late for my DD who now knows the middle finger.............

Week 7, DD tells us she doesn't want to partake in water play.. odd bc she loves the water and water play so we pushed her and she said she didn't want to get wet bc she didn't want to have to change bc she has no privacy and they open the door while she is changing...

Unacceptable. I understand that they probably just tell the kids to go change but as a 5 yo my DD could use some help and it appears the teachers are not even paying attention to whether they get privacy or not. I emailed again and was told they would try better....

Today, DD just does not want to go. Both DH and I felt wrong making her/forcing her... so we asked if there was room at our original in home provider for the rest of the summer... there is...

That seems to be what we will do..... but my stomach is hurting. I don't like any of this and I wonder if we are doing the right thing.....

WWYD?