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I didn't vote because I did both! With my oldest, we did undies right away at daycare. He had a gazillion accidents that first week, but after that, he was much better! But he was also self-motivated to potty train.

My youngest was reluctant to potty train, so we did commando. We did send spare undies and the teachers would put him in them after an accident, but for most of the day, he'd be commando.

@meadow: I’m right there with you being obsessed with potty training right now.

My older daughter wasn’t in daycare or school yet when she potty trained, but she went to undies pretty quickly after going commando and didn’t have any extra accidents. She was a bit older than your LO (2 years 9 months or so) but she was so excited for the undies that it didn’t hold her back. That said she was already good at getting her pants down.

If you do send her in underwear, maybe let the teachers know they can throw them out after any really bad accidents?

We did thare oh crap method, and when she had to go back to Daycare we put underwear on her, I don’t think it would have made a difference. When she’s home she’s frequently naked (not my choice haha).

We went commando for a few weeks at daycare. I let her wear leggings or pull on pants. No dresses of course. We didn't have any issues with the teachers or director either. They were amazed at how well she did and told other parents about the method. We had floater in one day and she said "uh, you forgot to put her in underwear." I had to explain, haha. Just send extra bottoms!

We had a shockingly easy time potty training our son at 25 months. We did the Oh Crap method mostly. Daycare unfortunately really resisted going commando- would not bend on that "rule" so I had to cave. I was pissed! I thought it was going to be a big deal and mess my son's good no-accident streak up, but it did not affect my son whatsoever. And I think we only did like a week commando. Oh but I do have to add he did pee once a day for like 6 weeks at daycare. They let him fall in the toilet twice so he was probably traumatized. He never ever had accidents at home so I was like, sorry people, don't know what to tell ya! Then I bribed him with M&Ms and he hasn't peed there since.

So I don’t think it’s weird so send her commando, but I think you’re ok to switch to undies.

We sent my son to a drop in preschool a few times after potty training and he had some poop accidents where it fell out of his pants and caused cleaning problems. It led to quite an issue, and eventually I stopped sending him to this place because of how terribly they handled it.

I would ask. I don't see why they would mind. DS is just getting the hand of potty training and sometimes we go back to that too. It helps him remember there's no diaper!

@meadow: they only can use an adult toilet in registered daycares here in NY (apparently). what my place does actually works pretty well- they put the whole seat up, boys kind of dip their butts into the bowl and put their legs together so their penis points down naturally. That way like instantly the boys can pee totally on their own and no carer is every touching their penis! But yeah she didn't think it was a big deal when he fell in and I was like, dude, that traumatizes little kids.

@meadow: right?! those mini potties are ADORABLE, our library has one and my son always makes me "go potty too, mama!" on it and it's comical. The NYS rule is bc of hygiene I guess, plastic potties and plastic topper things are hard to clean well so they just make them go big boy potty. Silly.
How is your girl doing with potty training?

@meadow: That's too funny! Yeah the adult potties are goofy but I guess it makes them adapt quick and if you're in public and they have to use a real one it's no big deal?
DO NOT beat yourself up over the daycare accidents- I don't even think it's possible for toddlers to tell teachers they have to go. That's why the teachers make them go at set times and the kids usually learn pretty quick. I think my son peed every day for like 2 months!! And he will STILL not tell them (or ask for water!)

@meadow: awww Meadow I´m sorry! That drop off sounds terrible and yes she is a smart girl and is delaying things. My kid would pee literally 5 minutes after they did their structured potty visit. And he was fine at home! I´m like dude WHY?!!! I don´t want to give advice if you don´t want it but try to be chill about it (It´s ok babe, you had an accident, maybe tomorrow you won´t!) so she doesn´t get all angsty about it. Does bribery work for your daughter? M&Ms are how I got my son to hold pee overnight and stop the daycare accidents. But it took a LONG TIME. Oh and last week he had 3 pee accidents in one day. I am back to work full time and the poor bugger was stressed.