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No husband of mine. I am not into it so I found a partner that isn't either.
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@HLK208: agreed.
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@DillonLion: haha!
same for us.
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Doesn't bother me, if it were getting in the way of our normal activities I'd have an issue.
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My feelings have changed, actually. I used to not care at all, and though he never actually watched it (not his personality) he knew that if he wanted to he didn't need to hide it from me.
Since I gave birth to a little girl however, everything changed. Pornography suddenly turns my stomach. I can't even tell you exactly why, but it just bothers me in a really deep level.
Of course none of this matters since he didn't watch anyway.
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@Mae: lol, my first thought was about smartphones too.
I'm sure my H looks at it occasionally, but I don't really care. It obviously doesn't take up much time, since I'm not aware of when he's doing it so it's not a problem. I think the majority of guys (and plenty of women!) look at porn, and smartphones and tablets have only made it easier to do it on the DL haha.
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@DillonLion: LOL! ditto. I like browsing through YouPorn every now and then.
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It has never actually come up in our relationship, I would be shocked if he ever did as it is such a departure from his personality. I don't think I would particularly want that as part of our marriage so no, I probably wouldn't be okay with it.
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we are both totally against it. we both feel like pornography is such a terrible thing and has changed the way the world views sex. instead of it being a beautiful thing of two becoming one, it has been turned into this sick, twisted joke of what sex really is. also, he doesn't want to compare me and our sex life to the women in pornography. /end rant
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I know DH watches it (nowhere near a much as he used to because our lives are so busy but I'm sure it happens occasionally when he has the house to himself.) I'm not a fan, but I also wouldn't forbid it or try to get him to stop - I just ask that he clears his browser history or deletes the files or whatever so that I'm able to not think about it and don't have reminders that he likes that crap.
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I don't mind it as long as he's not trying to hide it and it's not effecting our marriage.
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Doesn't bother me at all.
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He doesn't watch it. He has before but he has no interest in it now. We tried to watch one together once and it turned out more awkward than anything. Lol!
I really don't know how I would feel if he started watching it regularly. If it was often I would probably have a problem with it but every now and then I don't know.
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@DillonLion: yup, same here. We're still hoping to watch "Pirates" together
lol.
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It doesn't bother me.
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Doesn't bother me at all. I've joined him occasionally, but it just doesn't do anything for me. My only issue is when he starts complaining that he never gets oral. The only reason for him to think most guys do all the time is because of porn, so I remind him that I am not a porn star, and many, many women do not like doing that.
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I know that he has watched it in the past, before we even met. I don't think he watches it now, but if he does, it doesn't affect our relationship in anyway. As long as it never is an issue, I won't worry about it.
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I don't care, but I don't really want to know about it.
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Not ok with me.
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100% fine with it. He did it before we were together & I wouldn't expect him to change that. I'm not threatened it skeeved out by it (although I don't enjoy most pornography myself) and it doesn't negatively impact out relationship/intimacy.
If any of my feelings or personal experiences in those categories were different/change, I may have a different answer.
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That's a no-no in this house.
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I guess the only time I didn't like it was when I was unhappy with myself. He still found me attractive but I compared myself (unfairly) to skinny big boobie women and that's NOT me. DH does a great job of showing and telling me that he finds me sexy so I'm not worried about it and it doesn't make me upset. Sometimes I'd rather him go rub one out and me go to bed early LOL
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@coopsmama: this is our agreement as well.
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@tarariggins: this is exactly me feelings, thus our agreement! He used to watch it... not any more!
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DH and I moved in together at 18, and it bothered me for a while. Then I realized I liked to look at porn too, and it would be incredibly hypocritical for me to ask him not to look at it. Sometimes we even look at it together.
I have no problem with it. As long as it doesn't interfere with our sex life or become a problem, all is well.
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He does and it doesn't bother me at all.
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Its a no go in our house as well!
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It doesn't bother me.
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It wouldn't bother me. That being said, if he does, he at least keeps it private. And I like it that way.
So I guess my stance is... I don't mind it, but I don't really care to know about it.
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Non-issue.
@pui: They aren't mutually exclusive.
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I know he does but it doesn't bother me. I just don't care to know, really. It doesn't cause any problems in our marriage so I don't have an issue with it.
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I don't mind it. We've watched it together. Meh.
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Doesn't bother me. He did it before me and I won't make him stop. He has also always had a much higher libido than me and I can't keep up with his drive.
It doesn't affect our marriage, our sex life or our finances so I am ok with it. It makes me giggle so I can't watch it. Lol.
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Doesn't bother me.
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@babyjmama: Bahaha your last sentence is totally me! While I don't really like the idea of DH looking at porn, when I'm exhausted and he's trying to get something started (especially when I was pregnant and never in the mood) sometimes I would even say, "OMG can you just go watch some porn and take care of yourself?!"
I'm surprised to see so many say it's not allowed in their house or that their husband never does it...surveys say 99% of guys do, so either we have a very select small part of the population on HB or these husbands are doing a good job at keeping it a secret!
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@wonderstruck: haha my thoughts exactly
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No issue. If it interfered with our sex life, our life, our partnership, then no. But it doesn't. We view porn as a fun thing to do alone (or potentially together) that just adds to our sense of relationship satisfaction. And, I appreciate that he has other outlets when I'm not feeling into it for whatever reason.
I firmly believe, though, that a person's sexuality belongs to them - not to their spouse. This is something I share with him, and that our marriage requires to be happy and healthy, and for which we have agreed upon limits. But it belongs to him, and mine to me. I would not think to interfere with what he did (alone), in his own time. Nor would he.
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None issue, we've watched it together.
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Eh, I used to be a lot more upset about it than I am now, due to an ex that had a pron addiction. With DH I don't care as long as he clears his internet history (no, I don't snoop, but I'd prefer that youpron not come up when I'm looking for something else!)
It's honestly something I'm trying hard not to be as prudish about now that our sex life has tanked. Like others said, sometimes I just want to sleep at night!
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I am sure DH looked at it occasionally before we were together, and I have no idea if he does now, although I'm not sure when he'd have time. It wouldn't bother me if he still did occasionally. I could ask him about it and he'd tell me, but it just doesn't worry me. If it was something taking away from our own intimacy or taking him away from family time, that would be a different story.
same for us.
lol.
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