If one more person says this to me I will scream. I'm sure people sometimes get sick of their naughty kids but I am not lucky to have infertility issues. Blah, I hate when people say that too me.
Does anyone else ever get this?
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Ouch! I've never heard that one but I've heard from a LOT of people that don't know we're trying "Enjoy being married first" or "when you have kids..in five or six years blah blah" or my favorite "don't rush having babies, you'll regret not having your twenties to yourselves!"
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@MrsTiz: I always get the enjoy being married. I hate that! I still get that one from my mom and sister. My very fertile mom and sister...
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I'm so sorry, that was a very rude comment
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That's kind of sad to me, I'd hope people would appreciate their kiddos even of the bad days
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@artbee: I know. Not only is it inappropriate to say that to someone without knowing their ttc status or whatever, but I think it is inappropriate to say about your kids. I would just cherish and adore any kid I got!
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A couple weeks before we announced, I got "it's good you guys haven't popped out a couple kids yet, they're cute but a pain. You're smart to wait a few years." it was pretty awkward knowing I was 9-10 weeks pregnant and going to announce within a few weeks.
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Sorry, those comments are awful. We kept our infertility a secret and when we finally announced our pregnancy so many people said "it's about time". I seriously wanted to smack them.
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@septemberlove: Oh yikes lol!
@travelgirl1: Geez people can be so donkey brains!
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@anonysquire: I also hated it when people made comments about how bored they would be without kids, like my life was just so dull because I didn't have a baby. I learned a lot about insensitive people before I got preg,
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Oh gosh, I heard that SO much. Or, "If you want kids so bad, just take one of mine." Um, no thanks. I don't want your bratty, misbehaving eight-year-old, I want my own baby.
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I get comments like that all the time. There is a girl at work who got pregnant right after her abortion. She is so bitter about it & always tells me not to have any kids or have more then one cause having just one doesn't pay enough. As in welfare doesn't pay enough. Never mind that she tans, gets her nails done, smokes, & goes out all the time! Our PT actually said hey momma (he knew we were ttc) the day I was having my MC. It was so hard to play it off like nothing was happening. I am a 1000 times more sensitive to other women now that I have experienced infertility problems. I'm sure I still say some stupid stuff from time to time, I am only human. I'm sorry your going through this, its so frustrating. Good thing there is hellobee. Your never alone here!
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Ugh one of my friends would say this and she knew about our infertility struggles! People just don't think before they speak. It sucks.
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I get a few friends with kids saying "oh just enjoy the time you have together, it's not all it's cracked up to be" and then complain... when I was TTC it drove me nuts, especially since some of those ppl were TTC for a while and had fertility issues... how quickly we forget!
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*Pow* to the kisser.
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It just makes me a lot more aware of how hurtful some comments can be!
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@Lindsay05: lol I can agree to that. Oh and same name and spelling!
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This is so sad on so many levels
1-it's so inconsiderate to you! In sorry:(
2-as a mom, I can't imagine thinking this of my child...even on the days he drives me nuts!
3-enjoy your marriage? Um? We have a child and we still enjoy our marriage. It's sad to think that some people think having kids is a death sentence.
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@TurtleDoves: yes! I am confident I could still enjoy my husband and our marriage with a baby. And when people tell me to travel, umm since I don't fly anymore I don't think it would be a problem taking baby on a road trip. Obviously I am wanting to have kids or I wouldn't be trying.
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I hear it a lot from my coworkers. Pisses me off every time.
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My favorite is when my pregnant friends complain about being pregnant to me. Almost as if trying to comfort me like " Your lucky you aren't pregnant".These are friends who know I am struggling with infertility! It really makes you think about the people you want to spend time with. I thought informing close friends of my infertility struggles would help me to avoid hurtful comments, but unfortunately that hasn't always been the case.
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