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@LindsayInNY: I don't think I'm magically going to catch the flu now that I'm pregnant? I also don't think everyone needs every vaccine under the sun (but our kid will totally be vaccinated since my dad is a retired doctor and I usually defer to his expertise). He also told me he advises to get the shot, however, I'm not all the sudden more susceptible to the flu because I'm pregnant or increasing my risk of contracting the flue because I didn't get the shot.

ETA: I'm not crunchy or granola at all!!! I took a medical malpractice class my 3L year, and it was really eye opening about insurance companies and drug manufacturers. A lot of them don't really have our best interest at heart, and just try to push things as a medical necessity to further line their pockets. It was crazy!

@LindsayInNY: He said if you're still taking the appropriate precautions you should be pregnant or not (washing your hands, don't touch knobs, etc...), you're not anymore at risk than usual if you're not having a high risk pregnancy. I'm a germ-o-phobe and constantly washing my hands & don't touch knobs in public, etc..., so I feel comfortable in my decision. But, I don't knock people who get it-it's just not for me .

ETA: But, again-he always advises people to get it. He was a military doctor, and they push meds and vaccines like nobody's business because of the soldiers being deployed all over the world etc... I had to ask him the risk factors for *me*. I'm not travelling internationally, not having physical contact with a bunch of people etc!

@dc yoga bee: I think that having the flu while pregnant can be bad for the baby, too, though. You having a fever can be problematic for the baby.

I got one before I got pregnant, and it was preservative-free. But I got one while I was pregnant (3rd trimester) with my son. I also want to make sure I'm protecting my son as much as possible, so my whole family gets flu shots.

I had an appointment yesterday. Was just supposed to be doppler, but she could only find the heartbeat for a quick second, so she grabbed an ultrasound machine. We got to see little one's hands and feet flailing around like crazy! I think this one is a firecracker! My NT screening is on Wednesday.

Today I started feeling chubbier than usual. I feel like I'm starting to show. My pants are all too tight, so I took myself to Target to look at maternity jeans. Can I just say that I LOLed when I put on my first pair of maternity jeans. Ha! They're so weird looking, but way more comfortable than I expected. Who all is already wearing maternity jeans/pants? Was it shocking the first time you put a full panel on?

@78h2o: That was helpful - thanks!! I might try and get it before my 12/19 appointment but if not I'll just have my ob office do it. Feel better

@MamaB: I feel like I could've written the exact same thing! Friday, at 11 weeks, was my first "bad" day in pants. I'm usually okay/decent for the morning but it's all downhill after lunch. Friday I thought I was going to pass out from not being able to breathe, LOL! I was in denial about showing because I didn't think I was and I thought it was too early to? I definitely look bustier and chubby now. And it's a lot harder to hide all of this than I originally expected! I'll put an outfit out that I think hides/disguises things well until I get to work and I'm like eek, maybe not! I tried on some maternity pants at Target but they didn't have a large selection and they looked absurd on me! They were all baggy at the top of my leg/thigh area? It was weird. So I bought a second belly band instead.

@MamaB: Haha! I've been wearing them since 8 or 9 weeks because I couldn't zip any of my normal pants (so much bloat). I didn't find them weird. But it was probably because I was too focused on how much more comfortable they were!

I've been in maternity pants for a little while, although I still wear my regular work/dress pants with a bella band, or like today I have a one size up pair that I'm wearing that fit pretty nice!

Today I have another check up with the midwife, excited to hear LO's heartbeat!

@Corduroy: Sorry you are feeling not so confident! That's really good though that the doctor's found all good things!

@MrsBrewer: Excited for your appointment today! How many weeks are you? I have what my doctor called a 'checkup' on Monday and I am not really sure what to expect since I saw her about a couple weeks ago. I'll be 14w.

@Eko: What @MrsBrewer: said. In the beginning, you go every 4 weeks. When you reach a certain point, you go every two weeks. Then in the final month, you go every week. I have my 16 week appointment next Monday. I still haven't made this pregnancy FB official.

I found out last night that someone was pregnant after me by almost a year or so is pregnant with her #2, a girl, and due in April. We flipped this time with me being due later.

@Eko: You can expect another ultrasound around 20 weeks. From there on out, they'll just check your baby with the doppler. When I go in next Monday, it'll be a doppler check. The anatomy scan is at 20 weeks where they check to make sure that the baby has all of its body parts and is growing correctly on the curve.

ETA: to the touchy feeling thing. When you get a lot bigger, the OB will actually move your baby around in utero to measure. They did that a few times to judge weight, etc. It's funny to watch.

@Mrs.KMM: My plan for announcing will be after Monday's appointment. I'd like to get Christmas cards ready to do it, but I may just take the pic I want to, post it on FB, and make it official. I have a Christmas tea on Sunday too, so I'll announce then to them. Otherwise, we've just been telling friends when we see them instead of a big FB thing.

@MrsBrewer: I was up 3-4 pounds between 8 weeks and 12 weeks and my doctor (who really emphasized that he doesn't want me gaining a lot since I started out over my ideal weight) didn't even say a word about it.

@MrsBrewer: Yeah - my doctor told me that if I gain 20-25 pounds total, he'll be happy. If I gain less than that, he'll be really happy. And we'll have to talk about a diet plan if I start gaining more than that.

I'm only weighing myself when I go to appointments so that I don't stress myself out over the weights all the time. Hopefully it helps but I guess I'll have to wait and see.

@MrsBrewer: I stopped weighing myself with pregnancy. Remember, you're not only growing a human, but a placenta. The placenta is heavy. Once we all get bigger, part of the weight gain will be placenta, fluid, and baby. It's why I'm not too worried about weight gain this time.

@DCYogaBee haha! I asked my midwife about this hen I went at 12 weeks. She laughed and said its totally normal in the beginning to have zero interest. Seriously, I told my husband he deserved an award for being so patient and understanding. I'm 14 weeks today, and have had more interest over the past week, so I find that encouraging.

@dc yoga bee: Another once or twice-er since our BFP. Although, to be fair, I've also been sick for a week, two separate times so that doesn't help.

@dc yoga bee: @MamaB: @Mrs.KMM: @LindsayInNY: @MrsBrewer: We've done it a little more frequently this pregnancy instead of last. We had a couple of weeks where we both got busy (not the fun way) and didn't do it in some time. This was a huge issue in our marriage during LO's pregnancy. We talked about it a lot in counseling after LO's birth. We're working on it more this time around. Admitting that I didn't have an interest was hard for me to tell DH. I still worry about him and his needs as well possible bleeding too. I'm happy with once a week. So, I've been there a few times. Just keep talking to your DH about how you feel and when you'll feel better to do it. It's been key for us. I'm still exhausted lately, so it's a struggle, but we do it.

Hi everyone! I've been reading to catch up on the thread. I've got a lovely summer virus over here which has exacerbated my MS, hence the disappearing act. I've literally been hiding under my bed covers haha.

As to the most recent discussion points - I usually get the flu shot. It will be more important for me this year as I'm immuno-suppressed from taking prednisone as well as being pregnant. I've never had adverse reactions and I'm pro-vaccine generally so that's where I fall on that issue.

I'm definitely in maternity pants - my ordinary pants are looser around the leg, but need a hair elastic to get the button done up...so yeah. I still haven't put on much weight yet so the exercise and food logging I've been doing are paying off. I'm also meeting my protein and calcium goals a bit more often so yay for that at least! My blump has also hardened up so is more credible

No love life over here! I remember getting my libido back with a vengeance in the second tri with DD, so that can happen any time now....crickets. I just do not have the energy! I was worried about bleeding in the first tri and the progesterone suppositories were kind of a passion killer so hopefully now that's not an issue when we get back on the horse so to speak it will be awesome! DH has been pretty understanding, he knows he has a free pass for self love *ahem* during this time so I think he's been taking advantage of that!

@Jess1483: My LO was a full week ahead at the NT screening as well! I think it's ok! Glad your NT measurement was good! That's fun that your tech made a guess at gender, but I guess you can't make too much of it. I can't remember, will you find out at the anatomy scan?

@cascademom: @Ifyoulikepinacoladas: @MrsBrewer: @LindsayInNY: @Mrs.KMM: @MamaB: Thanks for the input ladies!! We have always had an unbalanced love life. I'm happy with once every two weeks, DH wants 4x a week, so we compromise with once a week. Now, it's been like umm 11 weeks . DH has been super sweet, and hasn't even brought it up, but I do want to maintain some sort of intimate marital connection. I do worry about once LO is here, if our marriage going to become passionless.