nectarine / 2004 posts
My due date is 10/30 so hard to predict what Halloween will be like for us! We usually travel to TN for Thanksgiving with my family. It’s an 11 hour drive. We did it with my daughter at 3 months but we will most likely stay here this thanksgiving.
pear / 1685 posts
I think we are opting for the blood test to look for trisomies. Still wanting to be team green but my nephew was born with trisomy 18 and didn’t make it.
kiwi / 543 posts
@littleblessings: ours didn’t tell us the sex, so you can certainly find out trisomy risk without it.
We told my LO over the weekend and she’s pretty excited and was very cute. She asked me to get her “sister pajamas” that she can wear when she’s a big sister so of course I ordered her some for the fall. (She already has two Big Sister shirts.) She asked if the baby can sleep in her old crib and took it well that the baby will sleep in Mommy’s room for awhile, which I was worried she would be jealous about.
olive / 60 posts
Okay so it’s totally possible my belly literally grew overnight, right?!
@Kmomartin: yes! Also really bumping out over here. One benefit to telling my coworkers last week is I can start dressing the bump so I look more pregnant and less chubby.
cherry / 110 posts
Still counting down the days until our NT scan on Thursday and I am legit sporting a small bump and trying to just cover it up. But getting really tired of stuffing myself into my regular clothes!
I’m so over winter. I only own like 3 pairs of maternity dress pants and everything else is dresses bc last time I was able to wear regular clothes longer and was due a couple weeks later and I’m just so sick of the same pants. Cmoooon spring.
@Ms.Mermaid: Same except I have no maternity work pants at all, only dresses. I normally wear pencil skirts and tops for work so it's brutal and last time I was due exactly one month later and showing later so I was able to manage for longer without anyone really noticing or at least commenting.
Sigh on that related note, one of my bosses has asked me at least 3x in front of others if I'm expecting. WTF. Number one, you shouldn't ever ask that question, but really in front of others as well?! I don't have a problem lying to his face, but still super unprofessional. Once I do tell them after my US Thursday providing all is good, I am going to need some way to nicely say hey dumbass, for future reference even if you are suspicious you cannot EVER ask that!
@yogifish: “Hey Dumbass, as you suspected I am pregnant, but in the future, I and other employees would appreciate it if you didn’t speculate out loud if someone may or may not be expecting.”
Apparently my boss asks people pretty regularly and my plan if she asked me was to just respond with, “are you serious?” so I didn’t have to lie.
We have a mini session on Sunday and I kinda hoped I would look more definitively pregnant for it. I just ordered this top so that hopefully it makes it pretty obvious, but I’m worried I’m just going to hate the photos. BlackCherry Women's Long Sleeve Cowl Neck Buttons Maternity Tunic Top T-Shirt, Purple, Medium https://www.amazon.com/dp/B077RXR6LY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_api_gfqZAb2D9SDAX
@Ms.Mermaid: I know it's ridiculous. And he's got 3 kids and is on his second marriage. Also, given the culture of our workplace now in general (police department) I would think he'd be smart enough to know what not to say even if he was suspicious. What kind of irritates me even more though, if this makes sense, is that he has the R word sign on his door, about how it's no longer ok to say retarded because he has a special needs kid. So it probably irritates me more because I feel like if you want other people to be more PC you should do the same around all topics, because let's be real, my kid is over 2 years old so I get asked at least once or twice a week when I plan to have another kid by someone in my life LOL. Good thing I am not super sensitive.
@yogifish: I used to respond to that question by going into great detail about how much I pee myself when I vomit and yknow, people stopped asking me.
Also it was never okay to use the R word but I guess it’s nice that he’s come around.
@Ms.Mermaid: oh for sure! I feel like people just don't think about what they are asking when they say things like when are you having another? It's probably not really intentionally meaning to be rude/insensitive, but it could be so how about don't ask just in case sigh.
And yes on the R word I know, but I feel like if you're going to put up a sign about specifically being PC about one topic, you better make sure you're doing it for all topics!
Has anyone done much maternity shopping yet? I bought a new pair of Ingrid & Isabel leggings, but that’s it. Need to get a plan for maternity workwear. Last time I was working as a pastry chef so I wore very different clothing!
I was thinking of trying Le Tote. They have a maternity line. I found a FB code for a free first month so no harm in trying it out I guess!
@buttermilk: I bought some Old Navy stuff online (jean shorts and vnecks) and was pretty satisfied with the quality. Also bought two non-maternity dresses in store that were bigger enough in bust/belly so they will be good for me for work in the summer!
pomelo / 5584 posts
Paternity leave/maternity leave?
I'm a stay at home mom (with a small part time business that I'm closing when the baby is born), so maternity leave isn't an issue for me, but we were thinking about my husband's time off today.
My husband has to sign up for any time off well in advance. I'm not sure what the business will give him for paternity leave (its a small private practice), when we had our son he'd been working there a month and they gave him a week paid in addition to letting him use a bunch of vacation days, which was very generous of them. One of the partners popped into the hospital room and was like, "just fyi you have next week off!"
But anyway, regardless of whether they do something like or he uses his vacation time, he put in for the full two weeks off after my due date. I went into labor with my daughter on her due date (she was born two days later), and my son was born on his due date, so we are gambling that I will be prompt
Last time he also stacked a lot of vacation time so he had a week off about 6 weeks after the baby was born, and again at about 10 weeks. It made it feel less overwhelming to me- like "I just have to get through these three weeks and then I've got help again!"
Finally had our NT Scan today and all looks good. Told my bosses this afternoon. Yipee. Somehow my due date got moved ahead by a whole week. I don’t know how that works really I’m 100% sure about when I ovulated too because if it was any earlier this would be the immaculate conception because hubby was out of town for work travel!
@yogifish: I have my NT scan today. In about 6 hours. Unfortunately DS doesn’t have school today so he will be there causing a ruckus. Lol.
@buttermilk: I’ve had awesome luck with swap.com and am now going to be able to wear my dresses from last time for work (spring showed up yesterday). I just got a dress from Le Tote - my friend is doing their service and I told her I liked her dress so when it went on sale she got me one. It’s SO comfy. Pictured here.
@kmomartin I highly recommend buying bigger clothing that fits you around 20 weeks bc you’ll wear it postpartum or at least next summer. Look for stuff that’s nursing friendly if you plan to nurse - v-necks or scoop necks and stretchy!
The NT scan went great. Baby is measuring pretty much on track. I was told that my placenta attached up top so it will most likely take longer for me to feel the baby kick. It sure was a squirmy little thing. She tried 4 times to get the heart rate and it just kept moving the first 3 times. I have my follow up Dr appointment next Friday.
@littleblessings: yeah congrats!!!
@littleblessings: congratulations! you must be so happy
coffee bean / 37 posts
Did our social media announcement.
How is everyone feeling? Did you announce on social media yet?
@littleblessings: SO CUTE!!!!!! I haven’t announced via social media yet, I’m so hesitant and anxious to before my NIPT testing (this Monday). I don’t think the information will change the outcome for us, but I’m just.so.nervous. So maybe after that? I’ll be 14 weeks then!
@Kmomartin: thank you. I’m asking for the NIPT test this Friday. Ultrasound said that all was normal but I need reassurance
@Kmomartin: how did it go?
We announced last weekend. Our first announcement was two bikes and the trike, so this was a nice follow up.
Is anyone else having swelling? I didn’t swell at all with my first but I feel swollen and also can’t wear my wedding ring because it’s making my hand really itchy. This happened last time but at like, 30+ weeks - I think a nickel allergy.
I’m hoping to announce this weekend if I get my NIPT results by Friday (will be 10 Days).
We haven't done anything official yet. I still feel like it's so early, especially for social media, even though we are somewhere between 13-14w depending on LMP or the NT ultrasound date. However, I find it super awkward telling people we are expecting anyways.
Ack! I’m having a boy!!! Won’t lie, have some initial disappointment that my daughter won’t have a sister close in age, but I’m excited to have a son too. I think!
@buttermilk: congrats! boys are fun too. Understand feeling a bit disappointed though, I felt that way when we found out our first was a boy, but then he got here and I just can't imagine him being a girl (if that makes sense?).
@buttermilk: I had to do some serious work to get excited about the idea of having a boy if we went for a second kid (my sister and I are crazy close and I really want that for my daughter) but realized there are some real advantages. I always had weird body image issues because my sister is tall and thin and I...am not; with a boy there is just less comparison and its less fraught; also I feel like I will project less of my own desires for my daughter to be close to her sibling if its a boy because I'm not as familiar with that dynamic (whereas if this baby is a girl and they don't like each other I will be so sad); plus I have two nephews who will be 3.5 and 5.5 years older than this baby so if its a boy, I'm kind of hoping it'll help bridge that age gap so the kids can all play together well. (I'm not so worried about when they are little and all happy to play trucks and trains together, but when we go camping and they're like, 7 and 10 and 12.) Anyway, it's totally fine to give your feelings some space, but I know a lot of people who have been initially a bit bummed and then ultimately delighted by their sons.
I got my NIPT test done today. Have to wait almost 2 weeks to get the results. Nervous as all get out just because of trisomy 18 in my family. SO wants to know what we’re having. I’m still trying to talk him into being team green.
So, I feel like as a first timer I legitimately have no idea what’s going on, ever. Today we had the option of the NT scan (u/s and blood draw) or just the NIPT (blood work). Went with the NT scan and got to see baby! Super active in there, it was awesome. Science is freaking cool. NT scan was great, everything looked good and will have more official results in 7-10 days. Sticking with the due date, so I’m 13 weeks today! Find out gender (if baby cooperates) on June 4th!
@buttermilk: It totally depends on the personality of the kids, but my son is an incredibly cuddly, loving, sweet boy. He is honestly way more affectionate than my daughter ever has been. He plays with his baby doll constantly, and cooks in the play kitchen more than his sister ever did at this age. It also cracks me up because I feel like we generally parent in a pretty gender neutral way but he has been obsessed with tractors and dump trucks since before age 1. Its actually quite fun! My biggest fear is how to protect him from the world trying to toughen him up! He loves dress up, and won't leave the house without a set of mardi gras beads on (totally serious). Whenever his sister gets her hair done, he also wants clips in his little wisps.
I also LOVE picking out clothing for him. I do find it a little more challenging because I prefer bright colors, and I don't like "scary" animals on his t-shirts (he's not even 2 yet!). But I love dressing him in patterned t-shirts or t-shirts with cute animals on them, and comfy pants.
Boys don't have to fit the stereotype of boy in your mind! He will just be your son, whoever that is. It will be a blast getting to know him! My son is pure delight and snuggles, all the time.
So I’m disappointed. I walked in on my SO calling my OB office getting the results of the NIPT. Literally was only walking through the room to use the bathroom when they said it’s a girl. I mean I’m not disappointed that it’s a girl but I really didn’t want to know.
@littleblessings: oh no! I’m so sorry.
Its alright. Just means I can get rid of my sons stuff and not hold onto it any longer since we are done having kids after this. I’ll spend the next few months going through my girls’ clothes and deciding what we need/want and what we don’t. I guess I get to be prepared rather than surprised. We still don’t have a name for her though. It’s hard to pick when we have such great names for our current children. We need and equally great name for this one and none of the names we have come across are love.
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