A friend said this over the weekend. He said that everyone he knows that has 2+ says that one of of the 2 is 100X worse/harder then the other. Doesn't matter the birth order.
Do you agree?
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i would imagine in some way, one of them would be easier, and in other ways, harder....based on personality??
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Gahhh, don't say that! I already have the easy baby!!!
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haha, according to my mom I never slept and was pretty feisty but my brother was the cuddly, calm, easy baby.
my J is a ball of energy and has always hated being held, so I guess he's like me!
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It is that way with me and my sister......
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I don't
I know too many families who have had two difficult babies, and many who had two easy, and some with both.
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No, I don't agree. Both of my kids are pretty laid back...they can be grumpy and defiant at times but they're both pretty well behaved most of the time.
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My first was a very difficult baby, but he has been a dream since he turned 1. My second is only 4 months and so far has been miles easier than my first.
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@Adira: Same. This is seriously one reason why I am having a hard time being convinced to have another baby. D has been SO easy, I fear we're destined for a demon spawn for the next one.
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My brother and I were like that. I was super easy and my brother was a ball of terror. I hope that means the next one will be calm and snuggley for me.
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I was an easy baby and my brother was difficult. I'm older but my parents always say if they would've had him first they probably would not have had me! So it was true for my family.
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LO #1 isn't even born yet, so I have no personal experience, but maybe this is a perception thing? Chances are one kid will always be more difficult than the other, but maybe the only reason the one seems SO difficult is because you have the other child to compare to lol?
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I don't think its true BUT it was true for me - DS was hard and DD was easy
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This is why lo is an only!!!
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I think in some ways this might be true, but not at an extreme level. Granted the boys are only one, but for example, E is a MUCH better sleeper than F, but F handles pain, like teething, WAY better than Elliot who's more sensitive and emotional. F is much more mischievous, and I think discipline will be more challenging than with E, but he's also not quite as needy. I think the more kids you have the more your chances increase of having a kiddo who is really challenging, but who knows?!?!?
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I can't say this is true for everyone, but it was true for us - at least in the baby stage! N was much harder than J. I think J would've been easy even if he was our first baby. He never needed sleep training to STTN. Sleep regressions don't even exist with this guy. Transitions/change doesn't seem to phase him. He's really portable, and happy most of the time. He's challenging in his own ways though. Like we've had to baby proof the heck out of the house with him, but never worried about that stuff with N.
I was the difficult baby between me and my sister. My sister was super easy. I was strong-willed.
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yikes, this thread is scaring me since my first was relatively easy!
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@Adira: My older sister was super easy, then I came along and my Mom cried when she found out she was pregnant with my brother. Said that she couldn't handle another baby like me........I did think about you when he said this.
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@littlebug: I'm so scared of this! BUT having an easy baby first was better to convince Hubs to even have #2! If #1 was hard, we'd be one and done!!
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My SIL had 4 kids in 5 years. They were all easy babies that STTN early. I pray we're as fortunate.
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My friends 2nd was easier than her 1st but I feel like 2nd babies tend to be easier because you are already in the parenting groove.
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@Smurfette: That story is NOT encouraging, hahaha!
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@pui: I was going to say the same thing! It's just easier to compare when you have more than one.
My first was average I would say- bad sleeper, mediocre eater, but great in terms of mood/ temperament. My second has been easier in many ways, but since becoming mobile has been much harder to manage. So if I was being dramatic I would say my first was hard and my second easy but I don't think that paints a complete picture. -
#1 had colic for 9 months, he would only stop crying when he was being held, it was miserable. I was always said if more people had their first baby like him the world would have less children
#2 is 9 years younger than #1 for good reason. She was the easiest baby ever, toddlerhood is pretty rough though.
#3 is just like #1. She's getting better though!@Smurfette: Truth be told, I cried when I found out I was pregnant with #3 in fear it would be a repeat of #1. Those tears were shed for good measure too, because she is...
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I hope so! DS is one tough guy to manage!
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I hope this means that if we have another she sleeps!
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@StbHisMrs: dd has had wild colic as well. I didn't even know that "newborn slumber" was a thing! She is just barely ten months now and starting to be able to go places. She hardly sleeps. That same thought has crossed my mind!
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@StbHisMrs: Hang in there Momma!
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i don't think so. some of my friends have two mellow kids, some have one hard one easy... none with both hard i don't think!
also i think charlie and olive were pretty average -- not too hard, not too easy.
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Nope, I've had two pretty easy babies so far! DD1 was easy peasy and STTN pretty early, and now DD2 is even easier if that's possible! Very chilled out, happy baby who is consistently sleeping ten hour stretches through the night now at 8 weeks. Neither baby was ever really fussy without good reason and both were/are just generally happy babies who smile and coo all the time.
I wonder if we'll be tempting fate if we go for a third....
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