My 14 month old is average to advanced verbally when she's around us. She started talking early and we've stopped counting words, but she is will ask for things with words before using signs, knows all her animal sounds and basic body parts, imitates what we say all the time (and will repeat it later), and babbles to herself constantly while playing alone or talking to family.
HOWEVER, she apparently will not talk AT ALL with her teachers at school! Her teachers say she obviously understands everything they say, but she won't talk when they ask her questions or otherwise (except sometimes talking about the "babies" in the infant room, but "baby" is her favorite word). She'll start talking away and usually respond to questions as soon as I'm there to pick her up.
Should I be worried? She seems perfectly happy at school otherwise, and she is the youngest one in her class...
pomegranate / 3895 posts
My son (14.5 months) is the same way. He has similar verbal skills as your LO (and signs), but his teachers rarely see him do either. Is she shy around new people? LO is really shy around new people and his teachers say it's really common for shy kids to be quiet at first and that he should warm-up. Is she in school full-time? Is this a new class? He started his school in September (2 days a week) and they said they expected him to be acting like his usual self in a couple of months. He's definitely gotten better as the months have passed!
His teachers tell us the same thing about him obviously taking everything in and understands almost everything they say -- they also laugh because at pick-up he immediately runs over and says "Mama! Up!"
pear / 1648 posts
@LBee: That sounds really similar - thanks! She has been in daycare full-time from 3 months, but she did just start this new classroom in August. She is the youngest, probably the smallest, and still learning to walk, so I'm wondering if she's intimidated or stressed somehow? I'm not worried so much about her development (she waves at strangers all the time, though she's gotten a little more shy lately) but more worried about whether she is possibly stressed or uncomfortable at school? She seems to love her teachers otherwise, so maybe I just have to wait it out.
pomegranate / 3895 posts
@peachykeen: He waves at strangers too, but when we hang out with new people he never performs his "tricks." For instance, he won't say what a sheep says when a new person is in the room, but the second they walk out, he's suddenly "baa"-ing tons. Some kids are more observational, too. She may just be taking it all in and will talk when she's ready. I worried at first, but I *know* he loves school and that he's thriving there. I would just watch it and ask the teachers to continue to try to verbally engage her.
pear / 1648 posts
@LBee: Thanks for the reassurance! I think you're right - she is just getting a little more shy. She watches everything. I think her teachers may actually have a bet by now to see who can get her to talk first They see how much she opens up when I get there and say she's a totally different baby at school!
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
We actually had the opposite problem. My youngest (now 19 months) would talk more at school than at home. I think it's just a phase thing and will probably change over the next month.
pomelo / 5628 posts
Even some of the closet to three year olds barely talk at my lo's preschool. It'll come.
kiwi / 643 posts
I don't see this as weird at all. It makes sense since she's more comfortable at home. My son is 2 and *doesnt stop* talking at home. But I can guarantee if he was in daycare/preschool, he would be really quiet. I was the same way as a kid.
pear / 1852 posts
When our dd was 18 months we moved scross country. While she still talked all the time with us, we were surprised when two months later her daycare announced to us how excited they were that she started talking.
pomelo / 5563 posts
My son is 22 months and has been in daycare since he was a year. About a month ago his teacher said "he's starting to talk to us!" which shocked me, because he's been a huge chatterbox at home for months. He's pretty shy out in public so I figure he just gets a bit overwhelmed with all the other kids and teachers.