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You are reading my mind! DS is really sick right now so DH and I have both been taking off work since before Thanksgiving to take care of him. I feel bad for DD.. She is so neglected. I am making plans to make it up to her when everything settles down.. Some one on one time.. Even though I know she would be just fine without it...

@banana: DH and I have also gotten into a routine of me taking care of DS while he takes care of DD. It's nice to only have to worry about 1 kid instead of 2 all the time, but it also really limits my one-on-one time with DD (and DH's bonding time with DS). So we have a new plan to switch off every day so we both get equal time with each kid throughout the week. It's going well so far, but let's be honest, it's never enough. Even spending all day every day with them I often feel like I'm slacking on the job.

@banana: Ah. That's rough.

DD often tells me to go away and bring back Daddy. It breaks my heart a little each time, but I try not to show it because I don't want her to feel guilty.

The best thing that has happened for DD and my relationship is creating something that that is just for the two of us. I tell her bedtime stories, and that has become "our thing." Last night, even though it was DH's night to put her to bed, DD ended up requesting me to put her to bed. I know it was for the story, but it felt so good to be wanted/needed by her since she's normally so into Daddy!

It's been a little bit of a balancing act but luckily LMW is a very independent little woman and Wagon Jr. has shown almost zero signs of jealousy or sadness from lack of attention. With Wagon Sr. being an older child and me being a younger one, we're both really sensitive to the whole equal attention thing, so we really try to make sure that both kids are getting attention at pretty much all times. My mom is here, too, so it helps that we don't have to worry about cooking or laundry and she also pays a lot of attention to both kids. Wagon Sr. and I are also pretty much never apart so we automatically divide an conquer-- if one of us is with the baby, the other is with Wagon Jr.

We're lucky!!!