DH and I are both stuck in the middle of TTC 3 or not.
Why or why not do you want a third? Besides the obvious reasons of money, tag team parenting approach?
If you have 3. What's awesome about it and what sucks, that's unique to having more than 2?
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We want 3 because we want a big family...but 4 seems like too many !
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I think it would be nice to have a bigger family, but kids are a lot of work. I don't have any family around to help and it's just me with the kids M-F so I think two is a good number. I know I could handle more, but I don't want to stretch myself too thin. Happy mommy = happy kids
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Great question! I think we are done, but occasionally talk about a third if we had more space.
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Seeing the three of them together just make sense. I can't explain it, it was just meant to be. It's tough, don't get me wrong, but I'm so so happy she's here with us. Like a missing puzzle piece.
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We will probably stick with two for less stress and more money reasons but also I love my sleep!
Also if we have three, we would need a bigger car and an Explorer already feels huge to me.
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@oliviaoblivia: That's how I feel with my two. I'm enjoying them and I'm so grateful for them both, but I feel like there's a missing piece. It just feels like a third is supposed to happen. And seeing your girls all together melts my heart, btw
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I definitely felt like something was missing when we had two.
It's so great to see them interact together and their personalities just mesh so well. They truly act like 3 best friends. Its fun to see DS and DD1 with DD2...they're very protective of her and they both baby her.
Cons...I would say 3 is really challenging and I've had to toughen up. I've had to find patience when I thought I had none left. It feels like I'm running a marathon most days. There are times when I'm feeling good and then bedtime comes along or all three are tantruming/getting hurt and there's literally nothing more I can give! -
DH and I each came from families with 3 kids and that feels like a family to us. During my pregnancy with DD2, I knew we weren't done. And now that she's here, we definitely are sure we'll have another.
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@oliviaoblivia: but did you feel that way when you had 2? hehe You didn't have much time!
@HLK208: LOL most days I feel that way with 2! But I'm sure it will get a lot better when A gets older.
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I feel like anytime I see someone with 3 kids, especially if it's a mom or dad solo parenting with 3 kids in a store or out and about, he/she looks a hot mess. Even when I see a parent with 3 well-behaved children, it just looks chaotic.
I think if you SAH or have a job that isn't too demanding, or maybe work part time, then it would be more doable. I would love to have another little person to watch grow up, I love having a baby and I'll be so sad when I don't have one anymore, but we both have very demanding careers and a 3rd kid is just too much for us to juggle...
I will say that the people I know with 3 kids always say they are happy they had a 3rd.
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The things I can see of being a downside with 3 kids: you need a bigger car - I feel like we'd definitely need a minivan. I also think it would make traveling much more difficult - a lot of hotel rooms will let you have max 4 people, so you'd need two rooms, and then do the parents split up? On a flight you wouldn't be able to cover one kid each. Personally, we would need a bigger house. It just seems logistically, the jump from 2 to 3 requires a lot of adjustment.
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@regberadaisy: I knew from the moment that #2 was born that we'd have another. Even though we've always talked about four, i don't have that feeling right now.
@erinbaderin: I'm one of three and we traveled very often. We never needed more than one hotel room, though now I'd be more inclined to do VRBO with my own family.
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We are having 3 and it scares me!! DH has extremely demanding job and I've started working PT (I'm CPA). Both are very demanding, I'm lucky I have flexibility in my schedule so we make it work. But we have no family around and it seems scary at least the first few years.
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I want to have three because I want a bigger family. I know it will be tough and will be a nightmare sometimes, but the early years really do fly by and it will be so amazingly worth it!
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I think child spacing has a lot to do with it @PrincessBaby: My family of 3 had each kid 4 years apart, so while we were busy, it wasn't often we were a hot mess. Even with my two being 3 years apart it seems like we dont have the issues many face with kids that are 2 or less.
Bottom line, I thought forward to things like my daughters wedding, my funeral etc and I knew we needed more than 2 kids.
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@T.H.O.U.: why does thinking forward make you think you need more than 2?
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@regberadaisy: I dont know. People just used to always say, "look around the dinner table, is someone missing". I would look at my two and think, no I'm pretty happy with my little family right here. But for me it was when I looked WAY into the future and thought about those events that I realized someone was missing.
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@hilsy85: That's us! We're a maybe 3 family, but 3 would be our absolute max! lol
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I want a big family, we are about to ttc #3 and are open to a 4th.
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