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@MrsADS: I just want to say you should not feel bad for letting him keep the nighttime pacifier! Especially with a new baby, if that calms him AND you get more sleep, I just don’t think you have anything to feel bad about. (This is coming from someone who tried so darn hard to get either of my kids to take a paci and failed).
Do you think he’s sucking/ chewing because he’s anxious or just processing the big changes in his life? Although you said he is getting worse in the last few weeks and the baby is 5 months. Is his behavior any different besides that? How is his speech?

Our second daughter was like this at that age as well. If it wasn’t her hands she would suck on the bottom of her shirts. If she was wearing a jacket she would suck on her collar. Never did figure out why she did but she eventually stopped doing on her own. We would constantly remind her to stop doing it until one day she stopped. I had looked into purchasing a young child teething necklace that she could chew on but never did buy one. I feel like it was a developmental reaction. She is usually a little awkward and fidgety in new situations so maybe it was associated to some big changes going on.

Chewies. O bites her nails, and has major oral sensory needs on top of that. We have chewy necklaces, chewy bracelets and some hand held ones, which are her favorites. Ark Therapeutics is a great brand and you can experiment with different levels of toughness to see what he prefers. O chews up various sippy cups and toys as well still. And books.
But she likes the chewies enough that if she has one available she will use it instead.

https://www.arktherapeutic.com

@MrsADS: No one has said anything. She doesn't do it when she is busy outside or with an active activity. But she chews a lot if she's sitting still, tired, in the car, etc. No one seems concerned. And honestly, even if they were, she's going to chew on something. I figure it should be something healthy and safe.

No real advice, just wanted to tell you that my daughter took until nearly 5 to quit the pacifier for the same reasons you mentioned (and we didn't have a new baby in the mix), and she too is always putting her hands in her mouth, though it's not a constant thing with her, just more when she's distracted, she starts picking off her cuticles/skin on her fingers. I was, in fact, so anxious about the possibility of her replacing the pacifier with her thumb, that I didn't even fight the pacifier thing until she naturally just didn't need it anymore, so on that level, don't stress about it

As far as the fingers/mouthing thing, I would probably talk to his pediatrician about potential sensory issues. I was going to go the same route if the issue exacerbated, but it hasn't been as disruptive as what you describe. I really believe some kids just have a stronger sucking reflex for comfort, so maybe observing his behavior and when this happens more frequently (is he feeling lonely? not engaged enough with others? learning/growth spurts?) and then talking to a specialist about ideas to redirect. I think they do grow out of it eventually, but coming from a family of thumb suckers myself, I know it can take years, and if it's hurting his hands or is disrupting things in other ways, worth an ask. Good luck!

@wrkbrk: I just ordered 3 more because we tend to lose them. Her favorite are the textured grabbers right now. She wants necklaces, but she pulls them off, and then chews up the clasp. 🙄