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@eastcoaster: My doctor is hoping it's the push my ovaries needed for a strong O and it makes your body produce more progesterone. I O on my own and have every month since going on BCP so hopefully this helps. I don't have high hopes for this month just bc I've only heard of 1 BFP on your first month of Clomid.

@Mrs.VW: you might be the 2nd! thanks for the info!

I'm doing ok. I'm a couple days into cycle 12. I never thought I'd see a number that high! We are still a couple of months away from answers, but I'm accepting that.

@mrs.vw I've got my fingers crossed for you that the Clomid works quickly!

@Mrs.VW: Good luck with the Clomid this cycle. I am starting it in May, so I am interested in hearing about your experience with it.

I thought that I was having some pre-BFP symptoms over the past couple of days and thought that this might be our month after 13 cycles. Well, AF showed up this afternoon on CD 26. I had to leave work early because I was so upset. I have had 29 day cycles for the last year and now I'm 3 days early?? I am supposed to call to schedule an HSG screen now that AF has started. Ugh.

@bluestriped bee: Thank you! I didn't have a good feeling about this cycle and we've already started working on testing. I think I am the most upset about the short cycle. That was the one thing I thought we had going for us. I'm not sure if I should call my doctor, or just discuss it with him when we meet to go over the HSG results. I guess it's time to start temping again. He told me to stop charting because my cycles were so regular and he didn't want me stressing over a chart.

@Leialou: Thank you. I am so glad that I have HB and you ladies to "talk" to! I know that the best thing is to just move on to the next cycle and our tests.

@bluestriped bee: I also have a friend who started TTC the same time as DH and I who has sort of disappeared since she got pregnant. Even though I'm not pregnant yet, I am also still interested in how things are going with her and am excited for her. She definitely hasn't sent any photos and she's very slow to e-mail with very few details on her progress. My thought is that she is maybe feeling bad that I haven't had success yet and doesn't want to make me feel bad...? I'm pretty sad to feel like I'm losing her friendship. Not exactly sure what to do either. I, too, hoped we would be pregnant together, but even though we aren't I want to hear ALL about it!

@bluestriped bee: You are definitely not the only one dealing with this. We have one friend who asked me when we would be having babies in November and I told her that we were trying & having some trouble. She just had her 2nd last month and I sometimes feel like she sort of avoids me because she doesn't know what to say.

I broke down and ordered a CBEFM from Amazon. It arrived today and I am ready for that BFP this cycle! My HSG is on Monday and I'm hoping that the rumors of BFPs right after the HSG are true.

@MrsLilybugg: Just got home from my HSG and everything was clear. The doctor mentioned that women have been known to get pregnant in the month or two after the test. Fingers crossed!!

@GreenThumb: Thanks! We're also supposed to start Clomid if we don't get a BFP this cycle, so hopefully something will work!!

@bluestriped bee: I saw in the other thread- glad you got answers and have a great plan moving forward!!!!

@PBandBaseball: I know it is tough to move onto the next step(s). If your doc thinks that the Clomid will be a help, that sounds like a great next step for a month or two even. I definitely feel like it is sometimes tougher for men to admit (right word?) that things aren't working quite right, but give the meds a chance and hopefully you won't have to go to IUI. But if you do, it will give your husband some more time to come around to the idea. I know, who wants to take more time (surely not ME, either!)? *hugs*

@PBandBaseball: Just a small bit of perspective from my experience: My BFF and I started trying at basically the same time. I started fertility treatments (based on slightly low morphology and spotting before period) in January. I'm now pregnant through IVF (after three failed IUIs) and she's also pregnant after doing nothing. We're 2 weeks apart. (Total we both tried for about a year and 8 months.)

I would still go the same route because time and certainty were important factors for me (DH is 42) but it's slightly frustrating (and cool) to know that it happened for her naturally after about the same amount of time.

This whole process is HARD!

Hi ladies. I'll join you too. We've been TTC since June 2011 and I'm currently in the TWW of Cycle #13. We haven't done any fertility testing yet, but I'm hoping to get the ball rolling in the next few months since we'll be past the one year mark in less than a week.

You just keep trucking. You pee on the stick, and when the negative pops up, you have a pity party for a couple minutes, and then go make dinner. Some months it was way easier than others, but I guess the most comforting thing was knowing that it would eventually happen, by one means or another. I'm a big believer in "if it's meant to be..." so that's what I focused on. Ten months in, it was finally "meant to be."

@Adira: Thanks. I know exactly how you feel. Every month that passes just reinforces the feeling that it will never happen and it seem like you've been TTCing for an eternity while everyone around you magically falls pregnant. ((Hugs)) It's an awful place to be.

But the reality of the situation is that there really is no other choice. Giving up would mean giving up on having a baby, and that is something DH and I aren't willing to do yet. It's everything we've talked and dreamed about. One way or another, we will be parents someday--whether it happens naturally or through adoption. There's some comfort in that fact. I also believe that everything happens according to God's plan and timing for us and for some reason or another, He has a different time line than us!

Sometimes it helps to distract yourself with things other than TTC and focus on your DH and the fun things you can do now without a baby (not that it takes the longing away, but it can be a good distraction). Some things that I love are: movie marathons and cuddling on the couch with DH, long sleep-ins on a Saturday morning, dinner dates, traveling, and the occasional splurge on stuff we probably couldn't afford with a baby.

Surrounding yourself with positive people who can support you is also a great help (like other people on this thread!) My Mom is an awesome support and I know I can phone her crying on CD1 and she will be there to comfort and console me.

Oh and the occasional bottle of wine can really help on a down day too! Above all, don't give up hope. I hope you get your BFP soon.