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@Snowdrop: nothing wrong with a relaxing year!

@FaithFertility: do you feel hopeful, do you have a plan?

@FaithFertility: ooh so hoping January will be your month!

I'm so glad to see this thread...though sad we all.need to be here I just joined HB for this very reason. I'm on cycle #9. I'm in perfect health and no BFP so far. I'm going to set up a yearly appointment next month (cycle #10) and see if we can move forward with some testing. I think if everything is okay, I would try for a little longer. I don't want to waste my time though if there is something wrong. In that case I'd want to start whatever kind of treatments were necessary right away. It's just so frustrating. I've gotten to the point where I don't believe I'm going to get pregnant so I don't even test during the TWW. I know it's bad to have a negative outlook, but I just almost can't imagining it happening now.

@Snowdrop: I'm curious what kind of early testing my doctor will do. It seems like it kind of depends on your doctor. I hear stories from people that their doctor ran tests after a few months of TTC and others make you wait until the one year mark. I'm hoping that when I go next month at cycle #10, that will be close enough to a year. I'm not sure what they would do as preliminary tests - check hormones? If you don't mind me asking, what did you have done?

@Mrs. Chickadee: I got the tests because I mention having very short light periods (still painful though) I also knew I had a LPD too but didn't mention that because I know it's sometimes better to play dumb with GPs. They sent me for day 3 and day 21 bloods. My practice nurse also added on prolactin to the day 3 ones. Came back with high prolactin and low progesterone so now I am going for an ultra sound, repeat bloods and DH is having a semen analysis as if I were to need treatment they wouldn't do it without that. I am trying natural remedies in the meantime though. I think I will be one of those people who literally pee on about 50 sticks when it finally happens to me hahaha

@Crystal: well I just got my appointment through for the U/S on the 13th. DH can do his SA whenever but as for the repeat bloods I don't want to do them until day 21 of next month, that will give me two months on b6 and vitex. I want to see if I manage to sort out the levels myself.
Let's hope 2014 sees us all graduating from this board. I have my eye on the future October due date board

@Mrs. Chickadee: it's best if they do a SA because it's a lot to go through if it is all destined to fail because of that anyway. Also they will do IUI combined with whatever treatment you get if there is a problem there too I think. I had a premonition about this too!

@Mrs. Chickadee: I agree with @Snowdrop. It seems like a good initial step before you have to go through more invasive procedures.

I feel really good about these next few months with TTC. If we get pregnant this month, EDD will be DHs bday. If its next month, then EDD will be our anniversary, and the month after that is Christmas.

Any of those would be great, though the sooner the better for me!

@Snowdrop: I have been feeling really bitter lately. The holidays were really hard. I know thats not a good mental headspace to be in, and I am working hard to get out of my funk.

Babies were on my 2014 resolution, because that will help with fertility of course, lol.

And I agree it would be adorable to have a snuggly little baby to cuddle at christmas!

@Crystal: Awww, those are all good dates! I keep thinking about Christmas next year and how I hope to have a baby then. I'm with you though, the sooner the better! I'm also in a bit of a funk and am trying to get out of it. I made a doctor's appointment today for February, so I feel like I have a plan (sort of) and maybe that will help...I hope!

About 10 months for me. So frustrating. I'm 35, so the age thing scares me. I just wish it would happen naturally. I don't want to have to do IVF. Starting acupuncture tomorrow. Trying to be positive!

@Crystal: Yes, I've taken 3 rounds of Clomid. I've only seen my OBGYN so far. I have an appointment with an RE this month.

@CatchAFallingStar: Good luck! I hope your RE can help you get your LO

@Crystal: @Snowdrop: Same to you! It's so nice to have someone to talk to who is going through the same thing I feel like things are changing for me a little emotionally because I am talking about it. Honestly, we haven't told ANYONE that we are TTC. It's tough because people keep asking when we are thinking about having a baby and I want to say "I'm trying and it's not working and it's terrible!" but instead I say "Probably in the not so distant future.".

@CatchAFallingStar: Ooooh, acupuncture?! Let me know how it goes! I was thinking about this myself. I decided I would wait until after my doctor's appointment, but it's definitely on my list. I found a place near me that does "community acupuncture" where you have many people in the same room getting treatment at the same time so it's not as expensive...I don' know if that will be weird or not though. Please share your experience!

@owlteach: I'm totally with you! I was sort of "timing" my pregnancy to avoid Christmas because I thought it might be better not to give birth around the holidays...now I will take what I can get! I feel silly for thinking that I could plan this after 9 months of BFNs. Now I would gladly have a baby on Christmas day! Haha!

@Snowdrop: Oh no! That's totally my fear! I know people mean well, but it would just make me feel worse. I also don't want to feel pressure like everyone is waiting. It's bad enough when I'm like "maybe this month!". I don't want people asking or wondering. Even now with no one even knowing I'm TTC they are bad - on Christmas I said I wasn't feeling well and everyone was like "Maybe you're pregnant!". Umm, no.

It's so nice that you have your mom though and that she can relate. I think that must be such a great support...and encouraging that it will work out!

@Snowdrop: I love your post! It's such a nice way to think about it (thanks Mama Snowdrop!). I'd like to think that all months that pass get me closer to my baby...the one that I'm meant to have. I know that wait will be worth it. It's so hard to wonder when that I will be. It is hard from the very first month. That kind of surprised me. I didn't think that I would even worry until a year since that is "normal". Actually I think the first few months were the hardest. The holidays were a nice distraction and I wasn't as disappointed because I kind of knew he BFNs were coming. Now I'm trying to be positive and patient and am hoping that this year will end with a baby

Whats your next step? I'm pretty much doing all the same stuff this month and then meeting with my doctor next month. Ill see what she says and go from there!