So I'm pretty sure Fia is in the 4 mo regression, even though she's not yet 4 mo. She's 16 weeks now. From 8-11 weeks on she slept 9-7 or 8 with 1 wakeup to eat. During week 12 she STTN. Week 13 she started waking up 1 time again. Weeks 14-15 she started waking up and needing to be rocked back to sleep 2-4 times (did not want to eat, or maybe only once).

Now this past week she is awake ALL THE TIME. She does this thing where she spits her binky out and then starts grunting/whining/lip smacking for it. And if you don't wake up and get it in fast enough she wakes all the way up and screams and you have to rock her. If you do get it in, she may go back to sleep, or she may spit it out 10 min later and you have to repeat the process.

Last night we put her to bed at 9:40 (started bed time at 8:30 and dealt with 2 massive meltdowns). She slept until 11 and then started the paci spit out thing. Spit/replaced it until 11:30 and she slept. Started the paci thing at 12:30, continued every few minutes until 2. Started the paci thing at 3, I replaced it 2 or 3 times then decided to try to let her fall back asleep without it and she woke up and freaked out and I had to get up and rock her. She fell asleep about 3:45. Back up at 5 with the paci thing on and on and on, decided to try to feed her at 6. Ate 1.5 oz and fell asleep at 6:15. Back up at 7 for the day.

Also her naps are difficult. She used to put herself to sleep. Now she always needs rocked. She usually melts down during rocking. She usually wakes up after 30-40 min crying for her paci and/or needing to be rocked back to sleep.

So... this is the 4 mo regression right? But how long will it last? Feels like this has been going on a long time now and keeps getting worse. And she isn't even 4 mo officially until next week!

And I don't know what to do about the paci situation. Do I just keep sitting up all night to pop her paci back in all the time? Is there anything I can do to get her back to sleeping okay without it? (she used to go to sleep with it, spit it out, and be fine with it the rest of the night). Do I just ride this out however I can (paci replacement, tons of rocking)? Or am I creating bad habits?

I know its a lot of questions and every baby is different. But I'd appreciate any advice on how to ride the storm without setting up long term bad habits and also without losing my damn mind (emphasis more on the former than the latter... I am still feeling like I can ride this out bc it is hopefully short term... at least for now.)