Hellobee Boards

I don't have time in my life for people I don't like. I would rather focus on real friends! Maybe invite the one lady you like for coffee and see if one on one you click and pursue that friendship, and ditch the rest! Your LO will make plenty of friends at baby playschool in the fall!

I am in a similar situation. I joined a mom group this fall and a couple of the moms are nice, but tge rest are very materialistic and status obsessed. I don't have much in common with them for the most part. BUT, our kids are all the same age and zoned for the same schools. And since I am new here, I may need reference letters if I want to join a local private club (the nicest swimming pools all have waiting lists and require 4 member reference letters). So I kind of see the situation as bigger than me, that my family would benefit from my continued connection. So for now I still attend the meet-ups, which are only once a month.

I would probably stick with it a little while longer as there's at least one person you like talking to I've been in that situation before, where out of around 10 Mums there was only a couple that I stayed in contact with after I stopped wanting to hang out with the group regularly. Maybe after a while you can arrange to meet up with that one Mum and do something else.

I'm kind of in that situation at the moment where I just moved to a new area and wanted to meet people. But I decided to do more playgroup/classes so there wasn't so much pressure to chat if I didn't want to.

I joined a local mom's group when LO was born. I really liked those moms. We moved when LO was 8 months and I joined the local mom's group. I haven't connected with any of them but get together on the rare occasion that our schedules line up. I still drive the 40 minutes to our old town to visit the first group once a month. I'd keep looking for a group that is a better fit for you.

If you're not feeling a good connection with the group then I doubt it will improve much. Maybe you could ask the one mom you like to meet up away from the group? As the weather gets better, ask her to meet you to do more outside stuff?

Another option would be to start a new group!

For me, I learned if I connected with other moms after just a few meet ups. I think it it's been a while you should move on as well, unless that's the only option you can think of for socialization right now.