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@T.H.O.U.: To be honest, I don't think my husband wants to bring Xander with us. He feels like it's too much work/stressful and I guess wouldn't have as much fun if we had to worry about Xander as well...
@blackbird: haha, I was actually thinking that option (letting Hubs go without me) but I think he wants me there! Which is sweet I guess.
@Anagram: I commend you for being an EPer!!! I don't think i could do it! I went to a bachelorette party when Xander was 4 months and I ended up pumping in the bathroom (all the ladies knew what I was doing) and then pumping in my car right outside the entrance to a bar!!! It was a PITA and a little embarrassing, but I did it, so I know I could do it again! It's just deciding whether it's worth it or not! It was worth it to go to this bachelorette party since it was a once-in-a-lifetime event (hopefully), but I wonder if it's worth it to go to this game-day thing which we could always just wait a few more months and do once I'm no longer BFing!
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I would go without Xander. If the friends all live close by could you possibly pump at one of their apartments?
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@purrpletulips: I think this is a possibility. The apartments are right next to each other, so it would be easy to go from one to the other to pump, assuming everyone's okay with me doing that!
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I'm glad you're going to go! Declining wouldn't really be selfish, but I really feel that it's good and healthy for you and your marriage to occasionally have some time away from baby where you can just focus on having fun with your friends and each other.
As far as being nervous about him having any anxiety with your parents, can you get to their house a bit early, like an hour or half-hour before you need to leave? Make it a transition instead of a sudden drop-off, like they can play with and talk to him while he's on your lap, then he can sit with them while you talk to and reassure him, and then once he's comfortable you can leave.
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@wonderstruck: Perhaps! I'm actually thinking of maybe convincing Hubs to spend the night at my parent's on that Friday night, so that Xander will have Friday night and Saturday morning to get used to being there with my mom and us, and then he should be comfortable when we leave for the day on Saturday... not sure Hubs or my parents will go for that...
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Go without baby and have fun!!
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@Adira: Glad you decided to go! I was going to reply and suggest you go for it. I get that way, too, where it is just easier to skip out on things because of the trouble of pumping, babysitters, etc. but I think once you are there, you will be glad you went!
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@Adira: Honestly? I think you're over-thinking it and worrying yourself way too much. If you want to stay the night and your DH and parents are fine with that, sure, but if you don't think they will be or if it's an extra hassle...I'm sure Xander will be fine. He may be upset for a few minutes when you leave, but he will calm down and be happy. I know as mom we want to protect them from absolutely everything, but I don't think you need to totally change your routine and do a sleepover at your parent's house just to save Xander from possibly being a little bit anxious when you first leave. That's just my opinion, obviously you know Xander and what's best for him better than we do, but it seems like you're unnecessarily stressing over what should be a day to relax and have fun.
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@tlcbaby: I did go to a bachelorette party and a wedding without Xander and although pumping was a big PITA, I had a ton of fun and was glad I went! So hopefully this will be similar!
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@wonderstruck: haha, thanks for that! I'm actually thinking it might be more convenient to stay there though because it's an hour drive to my parent's and then another hour drive to my brother's, so instead of having to drive an hour to my parent's and then another hour immediately to my brother's, it might be more convenient to go to my parent's Friday night and then go on to my brother's the next day. Or maybe I'm grasping at straws...
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@Adira: Could your parents come to you? I know mine are always super excited to see Landon and don't mind coming to our house if we're going to be out late and want him sleeping in his normal surroundings. I agree that it's kind of a PITA to drive an hour to drop him off then another hour to your brother's.
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@wonderstruck: Not sure my mom would be up for that or not. I think we'll be getting back past her bedtime, so she might not want to sleep at our house or have to stay up late waiting for us!
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