LO is 23 months old and already a very spirited and independent little lady. I'm a SAHM and the daily tantrums about every single thing are starting to wear me down. I'm wondering if part of the reason things are not getting better is because I'm being inconsistent in how I'm dealing with her. I understand the tantrums are out of frustration at either not being able to do something or, more often these days, not getting her way/doing something she doesn't particularly want to do.

About 50% of the time, when I'm in a good mood and when we've got time, I'll try and talk to her about why we can't do something right now or why something is the way it is and offer a cuddle and tell her I prefer her to talk rather than whine/scream at me. Then this either calms her down, or I can distract her with something else OR if that doesn't end the tantrum, we move to phase 2 which is me saying "It's not nice to scream at Mummy, I'm going to leave the room/walk away now until you're calm".

The other 50% of the time if we're in a rush or I'm having a shitty day I'll go straight to phase 2. More often than not this works instantly, she's silent and stays wherever she was until I come and get her.

So yeah...sorry that was so long. Just wondered what people's views are on what I should do! I'n getting to the end of my tether this week